Is it ok to accept money from a married guy?

I would say your friend needs to take a long hard look at her life and decide what is important to her and why. What if she were the wife and he was dating someone else, how would she feel then? Are their children involved? This will definitely impact them! Its really sad when men have such low self-esteem that they resort to victimizing women in this fashion. They not only rob the women of good relationships but in the long run by stringing them along they destroy what little value the women place on themselves. The women are always at their beck and call but the men are never at the womens. This isn't a relationship! Its a manipulation intended to make the man feel better about himself and his self worth. Demeaning to both his wife, kids and the other woman (and usually there is more than one other woman) and emotionally damaging to the women that he has victimized. Unfortunately, the man convinces himself that this is acceptable and okay and that its everyone else with the problem. Tell your friend to RUN, run fast and far from this man before he destroys her! Even if she has to move she must get away from him now before it is too late! This man is victimizing her and she needs to know this. When we are in a situation like this we are often too close to the situation to see it!

It's only cheating because everyone doesn't know the rules! If the guy is really serious about taking care of 2 women he will tell his wife. If this girl wants to accept being second fiddle, so be it, but on an equal field it is the wifes decision as to what she will accept in her life. If he refuses to tell her he is a person who is into controlling others lives and they both should run fast and far.

well,i think it depends on the situation what u face with,like what u show to us,i think u shouldn't accept his money,if u do that,u accept him.

I think you should never accept money from a married man. If he is married he has a right to his family. If he is giving someone else money then he is not a man who is there for his family. Who really wants the type of man thats going to cheat on his wife and family and give the money that he is suppose to be making to support his family away.

Well i am not nor will i ever be somoenes little secret...if they were sleeping together that there is already wrong.. i have married friends but i dont hide it from their wives... and if i am in a jam and they offer 20 bucks. and their wife is okay with it then i will take it as long as they agree to me paying them back.

hello,everybody! In my opinion,it's absurd to accept money from a married guy. Firstly,I will never consider a married guy to be whom I date with,even someone have a girlfriend.Because it can prove that the guy isn't a firm boyfriend and I believe he will bring me the same suffering in one day. Secondly,accepting money from a married guy means that you are his mistress .How about your pride? You never stand with him in the same level about your relationship which is destined to fail!

Accepting money from anyone you are not in a relationship with is a little bizarre, money for what exactly?? She should be saying 'what the heck is this money for??' If she IS in a relationship then she is already on the way to breaking up the family and the money is a side issue - why would a girl accept money from any guy at all???

In any case or way you look at it whether it is the husband or the wife who is cheating it is never right. The person who is being aproached to be the other woman or man should run the other way and think about how they would feel if the sho was on their foot.Your friend should try to giud her friend in the right direction because taking money from this man is wrong in every sense of the word and if that doesnt work then yes distance yourself from that person. Bad things lead to no good and she doesnt want to get caught up in that.

no...that's a big noh, noh! no matter what the reason is...for me it's not proper.

'It takes two to tango', as the saying goes. As long as both parties are willing, a relationship is sustained. Your friend's friend should know better that she should not be involved with this man, since his marriage is not a secret to her. If she does not keep her distance (regardless that he is taking the initiative and making the approaches), then she will continue to encourage him, especially if she accepts his money or finances. It is certainly not right for the man to cheat on his wife, because God forbids and it is not fair to the wife. It is also not right for the woman to egg him on like he wasn't doing anything wrong. She can help counsel him to forget her, keep his marriage intact, love his wife and not have eyes for other women. But does she have the will, or will she also be equally guilty if his current marriage eventually breaks up? She can help influence things, and that is up to her.

I think often times we assume that the wife doesn't know about these things. Just a funny story to tell you about. There was this husband who had a mistress. He cheated and hung around with his mistress for years. Then one day when his son grew up he found out about his father's mistress and insisted that he get rid of the mistress or he was going to tell his mother. So, the father after many years of being with the mistress decided he would break it off and be home with his wife. So, the next day the son is at home and his mother comes to his house panicking. Saying how her husband was driving her crazy. He just has been complaining no stop and just being around the house. Long story short she ends up telling the son how she knew about the mistress a long time ago and she wants the husband to get back with his mistress. Because as long as the husband was or had his mistress in his life he always treated the mother that much better. He would be more loving, spend more time with her, and just overall a better partner. So, when the mother found out it was the son who was to blame for the father breaking off his relationship with the mistress, she instructed him that he needed to immediately tell his father to get back with the mistress. So, that things could be happy again. Point of the story, is that sometimes people know about these things. Also, that we shouldn't blame the mistress or the husband any more in this situation. They are both adults and they both know what they are getting themselves into. Worry about the battles that are our own and leave it be. What does it matter if she is taking money from him, she is already involved with him. I don't think it will really make that much of a difference. Unless the husband is cramping the lifestyle of his own family by giving money to his mistress instead of paying his families bills and taking care of business, then that would be a problem. Otherwise, why not!

In many cases, guys only think about what they want and not about the consequences. Then it becomes the woman's place to stop things before they cause pain for the innocents, the wife or children. No matter how they chase, she can say no! And it is NEVER a good idea to take money from a man... it makes them feel that they have a 'right' to whatever they want from a woman. And a woman with self-respect will not agree to be bought!

Hi,there! Frankly speaking,I don't think it's good to get money from a married guy nor love. For me,dating with a married guy is sth that I would never do.Never ever. On one side,it's not nice at all to destroy a family,on the other side,it's not good for the girl at all. So I think girls should have very clear relationship with married guys and keep certain distance. Otherwise,there might be problems.

OK.I agree with you in some degree.A woman who has self-esteem should not accept money from somebody. I always think that woman can live on herself.So your friend's friend should not accept the guy's money. what's more,he has married.

Umm for that well , thats hard actually because he is married and the thing is there is a family involve in the issue so..i think i will think first carefully before i make a move.