Now that you are a parent....
By violeta_va
@violeta_va (4831)
Australia
November 6, 2007 8:57am CST
When I was a child I often observed the things my parents did and didint understand why they did it. Eg when we were walkin on the footpath my parents alway walked on the side closer to the road and kids away from the road I asked my mother few yaers ago why she did that and she told me that if a car smashed into us that it was more likely to hit her first than me because she was closer to the road. Now it makes sence to be and I do that with my son. Was there anything similar in your case? you didnt understand something you parents did but now you do?
4 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
6 Nov 07
Oh, lots of stuff. The one that you mentioned is something that I've done too. There were moments when our mom would get angry and we just didn't understand why. But now that I am a mother, I understand.
That's the cycle of life and as a kid when I would argue, my mother always said "You'll understand when you are a mother yourself". and I did.
I can't even jot down the number of things I realized later. There are too many of them.
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
6 Nov 07
my mother used to say that and still does. And i completly agree with that.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
12 Nov 07
well thats life I am sure we will do the same even when our parents are 100 and the same goes with our kids.
@mjfdesigns (86)
• United States
7 Nov 07
My oldest son asked me just the past summer why I would make him walk on my right hand side when we were near the road. He seemed to understand when I told him I wanted to protect him from moving traffic.
He also complained that he did not want to go to school because it was boring to him. After explaining that it would definitely get more challenging so he should keep going he agreed to stop asking to stay home.
That evening when he got home he handed me an envelop that contained a certificate for perfect attendance. He said he was never going to miss another day since he was awarded for not missing any days since his last report card. My mother would never let me stay home from school either, I hated it but now I understand the need to express to my children the importance of going to school everyday.
- Mike
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
7 Nov 07
exacly my point. we learn things from our parents but we do not register them as learning at that point but as grown ups we learn to apreciate that.
@aggiejoe (799)
• United States
6 Nov 07
I think we all wondered about our parents when we were small. I remember saying that I would never do some of the things they do but now that I have 2 boys I catch myself doing and whats worse saying some of the things me mom use to say or do to me. Like "money don't grow on tree's" or "when your old enough to buy your own" My kids now tell me that they aren't ever going to be like me and their dad but chances are they will. Hey thats life.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
7 Nov 07
I do that to. I used to think man that is so lame using those lines but now I do it too and it scares me that I am turning into my parents. I even use the same answers to stupid questions instead of thinking of new once.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
7 Nov 07
There's nothing humane that my parents ever did that I didn't understand when they did it. I never rebelled or broke rules becuase I understood what they meant. However, my father is an extremely abusive person and that I didn't fully understand until I started studying psychology. But, I'm not a parent and I don't intend to be, though.
