frienemies... do you have any?
By tryxiness
@tryxiness (4544)
Philippines
November 6, 2007 5:29pm CST
Frienemies... they are friends of yours but you tend to get pissed off easily with their acts or with their behaviour. It's too complicated to explain, but i will just give you an overview of who frienemies can be.
I have a friend, it's ok not to meet her often, because if we do meet up she really gets into my nerve. We have been working in the same area. My first week in this place, I was so glad to see her. After few months, we met up again. The first time of so many months was ok, but, we met up a day after and nights after. She was getting into my nerves already. Thus, she's turning out to be someone I do not like, BUT, i still would want to understand why. She's nice really, but the thing is each time I introduce her to my set of friends, she seemed so eager to hang out again with me because of the friends I introduced her to. Aside from that, she tend to ask me questions I hate answering. Subtlely, she somehow forced me to answer things that I do not wish telling her, and i do wish tell those things, it would be with other friends other than her.You still consider her friend, but there's this thinline ,when she's so irritating, between her as a friend and an enemy.
So, do you have friends like her? Do you have friends who you tend not to share certain stuff with? Do you have friends who get into your nerves? What have been your experience?
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7 responses
@TannerSite (698)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Frienemies? I've never heard that one before. Haha, but no, I don't consider any of my friends to be frienemies. We all get along fairly well. Well... as much as friends can anyway. I think all friends get frustrated from time to time.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
Yes, there really are times when friends get into each other's nerves. We all have set of expectations from our friends too. :) Thanks for the thoughts to ponder on. :)
@mainman195 (186)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Interesting term. I think I will be able to put it work. We all have frienemies. Probably they should never have been considered friends, and then we could have kept them from being enemies. Sometimes it takes a while to realize how people really are. It then requires additional time to move them out of our circle or us out of theirs.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
I would to move her out of my circle of friends. The thing is we share the same birthday, it's just that I am a year older than her, and we share the same nickname, which is like URGG! Anyways, I am slowly trying to ignore her this week. Thanks for the suggestion though. :)
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
I used to have some, but ditched them off because I believe they will do nothing for me that can be considered as worth my time. I don't like being with people who still insits their WRONG beliefs in me, especially when the conversation is simply meant for them to attract someone's attention. Friendship should be a give and take relationship, not just take and take.
I always think there's more for me to enjoy, just think that "you have everything to gain and nothing to lose."
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
Thanks. :) I am thinking of reconsidering my friendship with her. It's just that, in a way, I don't want to tell her that "I do not want to be friends with her", because in a way i know, i am going to hurt her feelings. But then again, I am thinking, she would not even know that i dislike if silently i would be "gone". Weird. I am remember things now, we used to be housemates, and I tend to complain about her in the office. Sigh. Thanks for the advice though. :)
@skydancer (2101)
• United States
7 Nov 07
I have had several of those. I no longer keep in touch with them partly because their antics were a bit much for me to take and partly because they didn't seem to like me too much after all (I could be wrong about that but that is what it seemed to be over an extended period of time). However, a lot of my real friends are still good friends with my former "frienemies" (I like that term, btw), so they still tick me off but in a more indirect manner. I feel like I have to try extra hard at times to make sure it doesn't effect my other relationships, and I certainly am cautious about any interaction when they're with my friends.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
Frienemies - my cousin gave me that term. Yes, it's somehow weird when frienemies and real friends interact in the same circle as yours. I am trying too not to make my relationships be affected with my frienemies. Thanks. :D
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
That's scary. Yes, I will try to be careful and be aware. :P Thanks for the reminder.
@menazsheik (53)
• India
7 Nov 07
thank god...,i am happy that these happens not only to me..
i have many friends which cause the same to me....but the difference is that, now i like their way ,,,as i think they are doing this because they love me..
then among them some of them are getting into nerves ,simply by asking bloody questions which are the utter blunder..,then some of them makes unwanted problems and makes me to suffer...some of them makes me to do something ,which i hate, for them , bye knowing that i hate that...
then ..............then..........and so on.........it goes like that
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
Haha. I guess, it's the pressure of you doing things they want you to do. But hey, as long as you can stand with what you want that's not gonna be a problem. :)
@irajohann (95)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
I have friends that I hang out with but we talk about small stuff. I tend to tell them upfront that I don't want to discuss the serious stuff with them. They understand at times and at times, they don't. Its about respecting ones space... and the decision not to share your whole lifestory with them. I think your so-called friend will understand if you explain to her that you are a person who values your privacy. In time, maybe you'll develop a bond with her and maybe you'll be friends with her. But not at the moment. Try to be nice and don't be mean... being honest doesn't mean that you are being rude. =)
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
I have been nice to her. I have been honest and frank. It's just that, she gets into my nerves. Absence (in her case) does not make my heart grow fonder. But I am trying. :) You know me. :)
