Do I help again.....
By hoghoney
@hoghoney (3747)
United States
November 6, 2007 6:34pm CST
Hello my friends,
Most of my friends here know that I own a small resale shop where I live at and that this past year I have helped out alot of familys that had nothing to their names. I have said in other discussion and some of my friends know that two months ago I took over managing the trailer park that I live in for my landlords.
Well two months ago we had 7 trailers empty and as I started getting them rented out two of the trailers that I rented out the one couple that moved intwo months ago only had the clothes on their backs so me and my boyfriend went to our shop and got all kinds of stuff for them, we gave them two frontroom chairs that were like new, a kitchen table and chairs and they also have one of our TV's using it and many household items. Well I have learned that the woman's husband wont even let her come out of the trailer to talk to anyone while he is at work so I let her sneak over to my place just so that she has someone to talk to and he gets mad about it when he finds out that she was over here. So thank you to me for helping out an a**hole.
But then here comes the good part of my good heart that I have, The middle of last month I rented out another trailer (lot 12) and again the good hearted person that I am these kids that moved in which they are only 24, well they also didnt have much either so here we went back to our shop and gave more stuff out to these people and they also had another one of our TV's using it and yes it might be aginst the law but we have been letting them tap in to our cable so that they will have something to watch. Yes I loaned out two of my TV's to total strangers out of kindness. But now here is the thing, I keep helping people just to be crapped on after I help them. The couple in lot 12 that we helped out now are just total a**es toward us for no reason.
Now, after Lot 12 moved in we found out that they dont have jobs and I let me move in for only $200.00 and the rest of the deposit was to be paid by the 31st of Oct. Well they paid the rest of the rent for moving in and now they are also behind in this months rent with a total of $547.00 behind now and plus they owe their light bill also.
Now they have til tomarrow to be out and yes I got my TV back with them yelling at me and cussing me like it was my fault because they could not pay their bills. So Thank you to me for helping out some more a@@holes. Now I am at a point to where I just dont know if I want to help anymore people out just to get sh!t on it the long run.
Is it worth it to help or should I think real hard before I help anyone else again. Do you help others in need and get stepped on afterwards. Sorry so long. Big Hugs to all.
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8 responses
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Geez...that sucks big time. Maybe there is some truth to the saying my great-grandmother used to say, which was "Proffered services stink"
What is the deal with the husband of the wife that doesn't want her to leave the trailer to talk to anyone..what?? Is she some kind of prisoner of his? As for that couple in lot 12..yikes
First of all, I sense its in your nature to help people, and yes you are a good hearted person, and that's the way you are. But its true that one can get weary of going out of ones way to be helpful especially when people are a bit down and out, but completely wrong to have that kind heartedness slapped in ones own face..definitely not right
Well I have a small time (I guess) gripe. Some time back I had done a discussion that one of the pet rescuers who had taken some of my kitties when my mom and I were facing eviction kind of frantically called me as she wanted me to design flyers for her upcoming fundraiser on Oct 20th. She doesn't have a computer and is computer illiterate anyway. So being the person I am, I started knocking myself out designing a really artistically inclined flyer filled with a lot of color and everything. She offered to pay me $60 to at least compensate all the ink I'd be using, and I sure did..two sets of ink cartridges. I made sure they were done in time, mailed them off to her Priority mail everything...have I gotten paid yet? Nope. I keep "reminding" her and she says, oh, yeah, I'll pay you soon. Now $60 isn't a fortune, but boy I could sure use it
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@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
7 Nov 07
You would think that a place like that would pay you because they can take it off of their taxes. I would just write it off as a loss but a good deed you did. that is about how I feel it is like I try to do good and help someone and then when they get kind of a bug up their butt then they take it out on the ones that help them. I just dont understand some people. I never look a gift horse in the mouth. A few of my friends that I have are friends because I at one time need help and I never forget the ones that helped me. Thank You Pye, Hugs!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Well she doesn't have a non-profit status for her pet rescue business and has been paying all expenses out of her pocket...thing is I really NEED that money...no shat! Don't ask what money I have left after paying bills this month and I haven't even paid them all yet
Oh that is great news about the licenses being reinstated...least that's one load off of your minds
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
7 Nov 07
Yes I do help People where I can
Sweetie I think what you need to do is wait and see what the People are like before you start helping them and after a while if they are ok then fine but don't help straight away see first what they are like
Big Hugs to you
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@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
7 Nov 07
I have done that before but the ones that we helped they spent two weeks after they moved in sleeping on the floor because they had no bed and sitting in folding lawn chairs and that was all they had. but the ones I talk about in Lot 12 she acts like it is everyone else's fault that they dont work the trustee's here even helped them with $100 worth of food and then come to find out they get food stamps to. It just makes me mad to think that she is acting like a b!tch to us and some others and bitting off the hand that helped her. SO they moved in almost two months ago and they should of paid $429.00 deposit because I was giving free rent for the month of Oct but they only had $200.00 so I went ahead and let them move in and after that they never paid another dime and they are p!ssed off now because they have been asked to move. All I could say to them was, " well you are not even trying to find a job or even helping yourselfs out". They think they should get everything handed to them. Thanks Gabs, how have you been doing, Hey my boyfriend got his driver's Lic back yesterday, Yeeeaaaa! Hugs!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Actually, I was wish they were more people in the world with big selfless hearts like yours. They aren't many people now days who would do or help out anybody.You shouldn't let people like those you have recently helped who has turned into morons define how helpful you should be. Those won't be the last probably, but just remember how good it makes you feel inside to be helping others and how the good ones are so thankful for that help you give them and your big heart. I think in my own opinion anyhow that you should still continue on with helping others because not all are bad or morons. I think the man who holds his wife basically housebound needs to lighten up some and maybe with your help she won't have it so bad because you possibly are her only friend right now..well good day and happy helping.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
8 Nov 07
You are a rare gem indeed, don't go changing. For every life you touch and change makes that persons life easier and better. You will be well rewarded. I am glad you are helping that woman whose husband seems to be a control freak, I know how it is to be stuffed into a house with no way to go anywhere and no where to go and no money to go with if I did. Why men are still trying to control woman in this day and age is beyond me. I just hope if he ever finds out that he is not the violent type or moves her away. You are making this womans life better and freer maybe even possibly give her the strength if she so wants to to leave this control freak of a man. Maybe she will actually see what a loving relationship is like and supposed to be because she sees you and your man interreacting together. I hope your goodness and strength rub off onto those who need it. Bless you.
@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
8 Nov 07
You know the funny thing about the girl in the house that cant come out She told her husband that she wants to get a computer so that she would have something to do but he told her she cant have one but he just dont know that when he is at work I let her come over and get on one of our computer's for a few hours or so and she has fun. And even the ones that are in Lot 12 we even let them come over and use one of our showers because they did have hot water , they never had the gas turned on. Big Hugs!
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
11 Nov 07
WOW! I can't believe they ran over you like that or treated you like that.
That's unbelievable - the attitude of some people man.
I think it's wonderful that you are trying to help people.
And I think you should continue to help people but maybe get to know them a little better first.
That way you don't feel so used and abused - 'cause hopefully you can weed out the bad ones :)
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Think of it like that old saying, hoghoney: No good deed goes unpunished! I have been in your situation many times through the years, but I never let it destroy my faith in my fellowman. My advice to you would be to keep doing your good deeds and think of them as blessings that you are storing up. There has to be good people in this world to balance out the bad. Best of luck.
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@gowtham_manmadhan (25)
• India
7 Nov 07
oh my god.. i really dunno wat to say.. im very sorry abt this.. bye
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
9 Nov 07
Some people don't know when they have it good. It takes one bad apple to make the rest go bad. It's such a sad shame. However don't let that one bad apple spoil your kindness for others for I'm sure there are plenty more in need of your generosity and will be much more grateful than these butts were. Besides, its the giving that feels good, right? So don't stop, keep on helping and giving for it will come back to you ten fold. Bless you!!
