My daughter's school is driving me nuts!

Teachers are my pet hate for this reason. Even though I've been told they pay a good wage I will never ever be a teacher unless it's for a college institution. If I ever have children my husband is dealing with the teachers I'll deal with puberty. It's not that uncommon for teachers to act like this. It's been happening for years. When I was a child I had a cold and couldn't go to the swimming carnival. My parents didn't want to make it worse. I was put in a lower class for the day and the teacher went up to the class and declared me stupid for not going. I didn't hear this but my brother was in this class and told me and my parents. My father went all the way to the top. Go to the highest person you can go to. Trust me they'll come running once it hits the fan. That's just one story I have plenty more.

Call Child Protective Services they will launch a full investigation into why the school is not protecting your daughter and not notifying the boys parents. Heard a similar complaint a few days ago on another site and the mother called CPS and now the school and counselor and teacher are in trouble for not taking things more serious. This is very frightening to your child and the boys could seriously hurt her.

If it were me I'd be down at the school threatening to send the story to the newspapers if nothing was done about the situation. This boy threatening your daughter is the same as you going to the school and threatening to hit one of your daughters teachers, and you could get in big trouble for that so why aren't they treating this situation the same. The police shouldn't have a problem getting them to cooperate. I'm sure the school could be charged because the boy in question is threatening bodily harm and they refuse to do anything about it. Good luck hun Hope you can get this resolved.

The principal and teachers of that school is plain stupid for not doing any action... this is a clear case of bullying and i am sure that your daughter is already traumatized by all thouse incidents...i agree with the police officer that you have to go to the superintendent of the district and file your own complain against those running the school... it will also help if you find the parents of the boys and have a heart to heart talk with them... If those boys are doing it at a young age... just imagine what they can and will do when they are already grown ups...

If you can, you should probably either (a)get her into a different school or (b)homeschool her. That's ridiculous & if the school won't help, you probably need to get her out.

OMG,i am really astonish about that. where is the resposbility of the shcool? what are the teachers do? why they have not told the boy's parents and punish the boy? if the girl were their girl how would they do? they are so absurdity. i suggest you go to visit the master or more high authorities of the school. also you can waiting for the boy's parents after the class and tell them what the boy had done, and tell the boy if he dare to do that agian, he will be punnished secriously.

If I were the mother of your daughter I’ll go talk straight of those kid’s parents and ask them to train their kids and explain the word respect. I won’t let anybody do that to my child. If the school will tolerate this act, both parents should talk.

That's awful! I can't believe that the school isn't doing more about this situation and isn't even keeping you fully informed of what's going on! If the superintendent doesn't do anything and if you can't find out where the boys live, I would see about getting your daughter transferred to either a different class or a different school, one that actually deals with problems.

blueunicorn....i think you should contact CPS like Celanith says!! from what i understand while the child is in school, and school is in session, THEY are legally responsible for the welfare and safety of the child..and they are quite obviously negligent about caring for you daughter! make no bones about it, complain to everybody who has any authority. even if it means going to the PTA meetings and standing up and telling everybody there whats going on and that the school staff are doing nothing! tell the other parents that their child may be being treated like that by the same kids that the school is refusing to do anything about! if the school wont listen and heed what you have to say, you can bet that at least a couple other parents are going to be worried about their child, and will want to know what the school is going to do. and if some of those parents DO have kids that have been bullied, you've just gotten a force of upset, worried parents that will demand the school do something! good luck! those boys need to be dealt with...wouldnt surprise me if they are already hurting animals if they are treating a little girl like THAT! ooh i would be furious...you're supposed to be able to trust the teachers to look out for their students!

My son was in first grade, when he saw a girl in Kindergarten being picked on by 2 5th graders. He went to her rescue and got in a fist fight with one of them. He got suspended for 1 day for fighting as did the other boys. He told the principal that it was the teacher's faults, if they had been watching the kids instead of talking, they would have stopped it so he wouldn't have to. Though the school punished him, I took him out for dinner and ice cream. I was proud that he would go protect a little girl that he didn't know. And he was right in what he told the principal!

Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. I can't believe such kids repeatedly does that to your little girl. I think the school should do something. First thing is they should notify the parents of the kids so that they will know and make also an action for the misbehavior of their sons.

I don't think changing school will solve the problem. Probably these boys will do the same to other kid/s even if your daugther is not with their school anymore. Since the teacher of the boys cannot do something to stop them inspite of their effort, report this to the school administrator or to the school's guidance counselor. If they in turn can't do something, why not bring this up in the PTA meeting. At least other parents and the PARENTS of these boys will know. You know there are parents who can't accept or believe what their child/ren do in school. Others may behaved good and differently at home, but once they're out of the house they do the opposites. And that's a big problem, DENIAL from parents. And that shows too that the kids have behavioral problem. Maybe they're always being scolded at home and that they want to show at school that they're strong and always in control. If the school still will not take heed or take any action, report the school to the higher ups or the Education Department in your area. I also have a daugther in grade school. When she was younger (kinder if I can remember), one or two of her classmates used to teased and underestimate her (she's academically very good compared to these two). And my daugther is the kind who will cry easily and a shy one. BUT we taught her what to do so as not to be bullied by her classmate/s. We taught her to FIGHT BACK. We told her she's far more better than them. One time when she was being teased, she poked her fingers in the eyes of that classmate and from then on the girl stop. Now that she's in grade school, some of her classmates, including boys, used to do the same. But she's always Fighting Back. My husband taught her some basic self defense mechanisms. We also thought of enrolling her in a karate or taekwando class not only for protection in school but in other places as well. For now, she always bring an umbrella with pointed end with her. This can be used too for self defense. It's a shame that your school don't take any actions on this matter. Schools are supposed to be one of the safest places for children. It's the school management's responsibility to look into the welfare of these children once inside the school premises. Just one reminder, never, ever touch or do something with these boys just to get even for your daugther. You might be charged. Hope the problem can be solved soon. Take care!!!

I feel for you and your daughter she must be having a hard time as with yourself i completely agree that you should be outraged by the schools lack of concern if it keeps happening and the school does nothing go the police route they can help find out who the boys are by contacting the scool as this cannot go on their is way too much bullying happening in and out of school these days its a discrace i hope you get something done soon

Blueunicorn, my son started kindergarten and they disappointed me from orientation.Situations started going downwards and I did't wait for that. I got online and found K12.Now I am happily tutoring him myself and I can forget school drama.I rather deal with him myself each day.I get to see his progress and am loving it.Forget who don't like it, but I am responsible for his learning wherever he is.My advice to you if you want to keep her there is to do your own background check.Sometimes you can feel so helpless in situations closest to your heart.

wow that is terrible that your daughter has to go through that and the school doesn't seem to care. If you can't get any info on the boys or their parents I would just try to have your daughter find out what bus they ride and then one day follow the bus until the boys get off and see which house they go to. That way you'll know where they live and then you can talk to their parents. Until then I would just teach your daughter to fight back. Maybe defend herself is a better thing to say. Like as soon as the boys come up to her she should kick them in the nuts or something. That would teach them. lol

I think I would go to an open meeting of the school board, the school's attorney (believe me, they have one), the superintendent, and to the PTO or PTA whichever you have. If the boys have been in in school suspension, their parents should have been notified. I would also talk to the school counselor, and the school psychologist. If I got no satisfaction, I would go to the local newspaper, and if the town is too small, or even if it isn't, I would go to a regional newspaper.Board of realtors, state school board. That is about all I can say. You may have to stir up a lot of bad press, or you may just have to tell them that you are going to stir up a lot of bad press. You will then be known as "that parent" but your little girl will be safe.

what a pity daughter! you can move her to another good school nearby or convenient for you and comfortable for her. This action will happen again if she still stays there after you reported to the police.

That's terrible. That school should be telling the parent's of the boys what is going on and maybe those parent's could fix that situation. I would be mad too. I would definitely call the superintendent and try to get something done about this. I hope you get it straightened out soon.

well if I were you since the school can't do anything about it...I suggest that you try to teach or enroll your daughter in martial arts class, by that way she can defend herself from the boys bullying her...Obviously those boys who harass your daughter have a psychological problem and their parents are the on to be blamed because they didn't know how to bring up a child well....

K12 has made me confident about being able to teach my son.They give you instruction word for word with some flexibility.