pls suggest me how to start a new life ?

hi kalav, first of all thanks to responce me...ya i m 27 year old and i got married 6 months back...yes you are right there is one reason that i m working in call centre and my working timings are odd...may be thats why i m worrying about new adjustment ...i m trying to spend time with here but you know as you can understand due to my profession i m not able to spend time in night so in day time i use to face lots of disturbance...still from my end i m trying my level best to give sufficient time to here.do you think due to call centre i have to face problem i mean to say as you said due to long working hours sometimes problem creates ?

I saw your response and so I felt like telling you something more-be it a call centre or any other job, your time will be gobbled up by your work and this cannot be helped. If you take some drastic decision to switch jobs for this sake and lose some experience in the process , your career prospects will suffer. In this day and age when competition is severe , all working men have to slog a lot. You cannot compromise on your salary totally and no government job which will assure a 9-5 job and good perks and salary is awaiting you. So you have to make the best of the situation. is your wife an educated woman? Try and talk to her about her aptitudes and see if she can occupy her time in a fruitful manner-she can even take up some activity and keep herself occupied. Ask her to learn the computer technology and teach her a bit of what you know when you are at home/or guide her and encourage her to take up some productive activity of her own-she can even attend some classes , cookery, needlework, craft,music , anything. If she is a book lover ask her to enrol herself in a library.If she is busy for 4/5hrs when you are at home does not matter. Let her be, and soon she will have her own activity and will settle down comfortably. Once there is a child it will occupy a lot of her time. You stop worrying too much and as I told you earlier, give her a lot of love, affection and sharing ,but state your limitations. The very fact that you are concerned in this issue shows that you are a loving and caring person. But be assured and definite too and do not be sacrificial. Women or men should not be sacrificial. It is a two way street. Things will evolve. Are her parents or your parents staying close?

I am sharing a lot from my own experiences-- Women , especially ,those who do not go out for a job, will tend to look up to the husband and yearn for a lot of time together.They are also in a new environment and leave their sheltered homes to seek a new life.[This is all valid for these arranged marriages in India] This will reduce once they have activities of their own and they will not be too demanding on the husband and be dissatisfied all the time. They should have some other activity apart from looking for husband's attention all the time. You have to make yourself clear in a gentle way and be affectionate to her. Wish you all the best! Don't worry but do not allow parents or in-laws to come in your way.