teen mother

I had my daughter when I was 18 and people treated me badly at times. Some people think that being young makes you a bad parent, but that is not true. I work 7 days a week to take care of my 2 kids. I think it is great that you have gotten your ged and gone to trade school. You are trying to make a life for your child. I wouldn't let people who look down on you make you feel depressed. Unless they have been in your situation, they don't know what it's like.

First of all, SMILE!!! Some people may not think you are doing the right thing or doing good enough....but just know that there are more people that are proud of you...even tho we do not know you. You are doing the right thing!!! You are putting your childs interest and future first as well as considering what you need to do. Being a mother is hard at any age. I had my daughter at 18 and my son at 24. It is challenging no matter what. Hold your head of up and know that everything you do is for your child! Who cares about what other people think, even tho it is hard...you will prove them wrong! You already sound as if you are well on your way :-)

Wow! I have regards to you my dear. I am 25 and so afraid to be a mother. You are such a brave fellow. There are no school for parents, parenting is learned as you shower your child with your love and support. I know it would go hard for you since you have to attend to school at the same time but you will learn fast. With the inspiration you get from your child, you will by far attain what it must be for you. Don't get depressed, you have your child to make you more excited and I congratulate you for doing what is right for your child. Read more books if you have your extra time so you can learn more about parenting and being one good mother your child will be very proud of, it may not be today, but in the near future. I would always pray for your my dear. Take care!

Don't worry about what other people think.It's not up to them.As long as you keep trying.There are agency out there that can help.Have you tried to get any welfare or foodstamps yet.I know you have to be a smart kid.You got your GED.Try and see a doctor for the depression.There a alot of woman out there that were in the same boat.Just keep yourself from falling out the boat and learn to swim.

I admir you. My biological Mom was 16 when she got me. She gave up. Sounds to me like you are doing just fine. Of course everyone knows better! NOPE!!Wrong!!! You do what you think is right for you and your child. That is the best you can, you will and you can be proud. It is not easy, no one said it would be. But you may be young, that does not make you disabled. Or stupid. A mother has an instict, no matter what age. Use it, do what you think is best. Don´t let yourself get depressed. That is not good for you or the child. Look after yourself, so you can look after that precious gift you have there. Don´t let anyone influence you to do something you feel is not right! Take care, have a nice day. Remember a Mother is strong, you are a Mom, you are strong too!

Trust your instincts to do what's right for you and your child. You're traveling down a hard road and it sounds like you are trying to do the best you can. I hope you have family or friends that can help. If you feel overwhelmed, it is ok to ask for help - we all need help sometimes. Keep your head up and good luck to you.

Hi there blancanieve2009. I would speak to your doctor about the depression and look at trying some antidepressents to help you! by certain people are you talking about family? You need to do whats right for you and your child. Think about taking your child to playgroup and meet some young mums like you. it's good to have someone you can talk to and be friends with if they have a child around the same age as yours. Does the father have an active role in the childs life? It's important to try and find sometime for yourself.

I'd say that you should be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. You've already gone miles beyond a lot of girls in your same situation. Of course you're depressed. A new baby can do that to just about anyone, especially if you don't have much help. And, you're so young to be carrying such a heavy load. Make sure that in the midst of everything else you carve out little times and rewards for yourself. Such things as an evening out with friends or a long soak in a hot bubble bath can help perk you up. If other people don't praise your efforts (and I've found that in life very few do), then you have to pat yourself on the back. Make a list of all the things you do, even the mundance things like laundry, and you'll be even prouder of yourself.

Being a mother is hard work whatever your age and there are loads of 'experts' out there who will let you know what you are doing wrong. Just take care because sometimes they are right so it is always worth listening to what they have to say. Then decide if they are right or wrong and don't be ashamed to accept that you were wrong if that was the case. At the end of the day people are just trying to help you and baby. What's baby's name? Do you have any pics to post up here? I get soooo broody about babies, having no grandchildren of my own. haha

Hun, you'll never be able to be good enough to please some people. That's just how it is. But you know what? Those people aren't worth your time. You have already done more than most 16 year olds (with or without children), you should be proud of yourself. I know how it feels though and if I lived near you, you would never get any attitude or judgement from me. I think you need to seek out people who will be supportive of you and get away from those certain people (or at least limit your time with them). You need to start feeling better about yourself so these people will see a strong, happy, successful young woman. I'm sending a friend request and I want you to know that I'm here anytime you need to talk. I was 16 when I had my oldest daughter so I really do know what you're dealing with.

I cant imagine how hard it is to be so young & a mother at the same time, i am now 26 - i had my daughter at 24 & even felt like i wasn't coping very well at that age! If you start feeling down, try finding yourself a mother's group in your area, other mothers are always happy to help & ae full of advise with things they've learnt along the way! All i can say is that perhaps you need to stop thinking about it so much & remember to take a little time out for yourself & baby, then you can keep a strong bond with him/her as well as making sure you're you'll be ok & can manage all the financial & emotional difficulties that come with motherhood. I can assure you, even mothers who have waited until their 20's or more to have kids, still have some of the same doubts. Just keep pushing on & things will get better :) Good Luck!

Well it isn't your fault to be a mother at 16..But you have to ready yourself in so much responsibilities i hoe you can do your best to be a mom. Droped out not a problem there are schools that open their doors only if you will continue and finish what you have started. I am the same but i have the courage to face everything..with the help of some friends and family i finished what i started and now im still continue to learn..Life is good Take care!

You are doing a great job. Age is just a number and experience comes with time. Listen to other peoples advice if you like but in the end do whatever you feel is right. I found when I had my son that everyone was suddenly the best parent in the world with the best advice. Do what you want not what they want. And if you are raising your child alone sometimes it's easier. My ex husband left my son and I when my son was 3 months old to be with his girlfriend. It hurt but then I found I got to make the rules. As I say to my now 2 1/2 year old son, Mummy is alway right and if I'm not right we'll just say I am. Take some time out to have some you time that also helps.

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Congrats on getting your GED and finishign with Trade School That is GOOD, you know that you will do right by your child because you are getting things done now, It may be tough at first, but just know that you have friends. Even if they feel it is not good enough, just know that it will be okay. Take things one day at a time, get your stuff in order, go to state assistance if you need it, that is why it is there!

You arwe going to get all kinds of advice. All I can tell you is that I am so, so, very tired of dating girls with children.

My advice is to just keep on kieeping on. It sounds like you are doing a great job. I wouldn't let other people get you down. None really knows a situation until they are in it themsleves. PurpleTeddyBear.

Remember this dear, do not let anyone tell you that you will not be a good mother to your chikd. You're already doing your best for that angel and I know that there are a lot more things you can do for that child's future. You are young and you will make mistakes, but remember those mistakes and learn from it cause by those mistakes comes experience and experience will make you a better person. Take it from me, I've been there.

BELIVE yourself,and do your best!finally,you will find you are a great monther!