Am I a bad daughter?

You need to "man-up" and get a job. At sixteen(16) you can get a job on your own.

trust me your not things happen. The only thing that would make you is if you dont show your mom how much you thank her for what she is doing. Also your main concern now is your baby as is hers.

I wouldn't say that you are a bad daughter. When I was 16 I didn't get along with my mom very well. We fought daily and there were times when I wouldn't come home for days. When I became pregnant at 18 I was very afraid to tell my parents. When I finally did my mom asked me to leave the house. I felt awful, like I was a terrible person and I didn't speak to my mom for months. Now that I am older, I appricaite all that my mom has for for me, just as you do. It's normal for 16 year olds to not get along with their parents. Just try to let your mom know how much you appreicate her and all that she has done.

Your not a bad daughter, you were careless which if that makes you a bad daughter, the world must be full of them. Do try to get a job to help out your Mom as much as you can. Both my daughters worked at 16. Even if you have to babysit. Maybe you and your Mom can help each other out. It will not do any good to dwell on what has already happened. Now look ahead and do everything you can to prepare for your child and help your dear Mom care for you all. Good luck and God Bless.

Honestly hun I wouldn't say your a bad daughter. You may have made a few poor decisions and went down a wrong path, but everyone makes mistakes as we are only human. The main thing is that you learned from it! PurpleTeddyBear.

dont have such a guiltl feeling that you are a bad daughter.Things will change after sometime when you ll start earning .Dont destroy the happiness of being a mother by just having this guilt in you .try working on Net,do some online data jobs etc

First, quit sending yourself negative messages to your brain...making a mistake in life does NOT make you a bad daughter. Don't be so rough on yourself! Believe me, you are not the first 16 year old to have this happen, nor will you be the last. You said that you have come to realize that you've acted like an ungrateful person, once you have realized that, now is the time to show your appreciation no matter how your mother is. I know you said she drinks a lot, (different thread), but possibly the weight of all that responsibility depresses her. (Not condoning that, but trying to see it maybe from her side?) Since you already have a baby, have you been to welfare to get benefits of your own, and for your child? A visit to social services in your neighborhood could be a giant help to both you AND your Mom. I'm pretty sure they would make sure that the baby has medical needs attended to if necessary. Also, there's the WIC program, and with that you can get formula, milk and other things needed for the baby. I'm fairly certain you would be elegible for food stamps too. I realize that with you being underage (16) that this would take away some of your Mom's benefits, but I think it would be better for you both in the long run, and the baby would be better provided for. If you have quit school due to this all, talk to a previous teacher of yours, or counselor at the school you attended. If you are going to raise a child, you will need an education so that you can eventually get a job. There are many ways to get a GED diploma, but without any diploma of any kind, your job choices in the future will probably be slim. Don't forget, there's evening classes for that, and they are free. (You shouldn't have to pay for going for a GED) In the mean time, there ARE jobs that you can do, you might have to look a little harder, but they are there. Again...ask family services/social services for their help. You would be amazed at how they can help you turn your life around. Good luck to you hon...and God bless. Sometimes you have to hit the bottom of the barrel before you can rise to the top!

oh so now i know why you are in that predicament. i got curious about you and so i checked your profile. well, i wouldn't call you bad, because that would be judgmental. but it is good that you realized many things. maybe after you give birth you will be able to earn for something so that you can support your child. although i don't want to blame you, i do feel bad for your mother...take care of your baby. God bless!:-)

i don't think you are a bad daughter. you had this sense and its good as i think. From now on try to do things better and take roght decision. I don't think at 16 yrs being a mother is not that much of good decidion. Thanks your mother what she has done for you.

Well you've already realized the strain you've caused & shown remourse thats a big step in the right direction. Now the question is can you continue along that path to try to help set things right.

You are at the age where mothers and daughters always fight. She still thinks of you as her little girl who she must raise to the best of her ability and you now feel you are old enough to make your own decisions. This happens in every family regardless of income. As hard as it is on both it is normal. All it comes down to is no two females can live in the same house for very long. Just a fact of life. Consider this: Your mother has done something right if at your age you have begin to see what she has done for you and would continue doing. Most daughters do not understand this until out of the house and in their 20's. You are not a bad daughter. You are just a normal one. If your mom is raising 5 children on disability she must be super woman. Feel bad if you must but then make it up to her by helping her out every chance you get. And never ever let a day go by without telling her you love her. If you don't time will fly by and one day you will no longer be able to tell her. Don't let that happen and you could do nothing better for her. She will love it.

I wouldn't say you arre a bad daughter. Just a daughter that has made some bad decisions and taken a few wrong turns. We all do it to some degrea. The best thing you can do now is to pull up your boot straps and get on with growing up and taking responsability. Why can you not work at 16? I know that labor laws differ from state to state but I can't imagine one not allowing a 16 year old to work at all. Are you still in school? If so, find even a small part time job for a few hours a week to bring something in. Now I'm going to get really personal, forgive me but it is a nessesary question. What of the childs father? Where does he fit in to the picture? If he is in it and ready to support both financialy and moraly, good for him, if not, there are legal recourses, believe me, you wont have a problem getting child support, the services in most states are like nazzi's and will persue it with a vengence. As for your blessed mother. If you truly want to demonstrate your remorse for what you consider bad treatment of her, then do so by taking on responsability for this and the household. And tell her you love her, out of the blue and often, then back it up by acting like an adult and treating her like you are one. Time to get with it kidd. Whether or not your ready for a baby, there it is. No it's not going to be easy, no the world is not going to just hand you what you need to get through this and nor is the government, taxpayers, god, "the man" or even our mother, responsible for our bad decisions or the consiquences of them. If any of this sounded harsh it is because the world is a harsh place, accept that early, You don't get anywhere in it by expecting it to be nice to you because your having a rough time of things and nor is it going to. And finaly, if any of what I said offends you then you should read it agian with this tempering of compassion. I would have done you no favors by telling you any different, miss. This is reality and you need a realistic look at things, what good would it have done to have flowered it all up and have you realize down the road too late that these things don't in fact work out on their own and instead we alone control our lives and what heppens in the course of it or how we react to what happens when the inevitable truth that "shytte happens" presenmts itself to us. When shytte happens, get a bigger shovel. bottom line is it's all up to you now hon, if you don't have it in you to do this than get it, however or where ever you can. There will be people you can count on and people you cant but above all, it's entirely up to you. No I do not think you are a bad daughter, just one who is now facing the reality of her decisions and is starting to awaken to the fact that "hey, mom was right". How it turns out hon and how "good" a daughter you are going to be from here on out is up to you. Best of luck to you and our family and do keep us posted. Just by admitting the things you did here you showed a good start to the rest of your life.

I would do as much as you can to help out around the house as you can and let her know how much you do appreciate the things she does.Being a mom at 16 is going to be hard enough it's hard enough at any age espcially when you have noone to turn to for help.

It is good you realized that now. It is never too late to learn and do good things for her now. You can help her out if not financially, you can help her out by doing chores. Hmm when I was 15 I was working already and I am in the US. Where are you at? Because 15,16 year olds can work at McDonald's and such (fast food rest.).

u r not a bad daughter dear.....

well .... dear i think you should do something better than just posting discussions bout how good a daughter you are????.... but i strongly feel that you are asking the Question to wrong people.I think we are none to decide how good of a daughter you are. so stop making silly things outa it and do something to make your mom tell u ..."dear i luv u,u are such a great help!!" best of luck

My daughter gave birth at 17 and she is not a bad daughter. We fight like crazy but I still love her. She has made bad choices early in her life, but I know that she can overcome them. Just love your mom, help her and take care of that baby. Good luck to you.

The error of the past is already done what we can do is to accept the present situation. I know you have a baby too early and I think that is not good. But I know you realised it already and sorry about it. Moved on and try to achieve a better life for your child. I think in that way your mother will be happy despite of her sacrifices. I think, you are moving on because you already took pity of your mother.

I do not believe that you are a bad daughter. However, I do believe that you can make this day, the first day of the rest of your life. First, you need to finish school. There is nothing meaningful for you to do without a High School diploma. If you have to get your GED, do it. I am assuming that the father of the baby is gone. Don't try to coax him back, go on with your life. Do what you can while you can. If your mom is supporting 5, I am sure you have a home full of babysitters. Go to night school and have them keep an eye on the baby. You can be legally employed in the United States at age sixteen. Whatever you do, don't have this baby and then sit on your butt and give mom more to do. Keep going and don't use your baby as an excuse.

To be mom is a wonderful thing. At least love your own baby