Polyamorous Relationships
By Hearthestorm
@Hearthestorm (22)
Australia
November 10, 2007 9:20pm CST
Polyamory refers to the desire or practice of having an intimate relationship with more than one person at the same time. In contrast to monogamous relationships, this isn't considered 'cheating,' because both partners accept and are fully aware of the other intimate partners.
If a mother can easily extend love to more than one child, then why shouldn't that ability to love be extended to multiple partners? True enough, a romantic love is different to love extended between family members, but emotionally I believe people are capable of loving more than one person at once and feeling intimately towards more than one person. Do you view this as wrong? And if so, why?
Would you feel worthless or hard done by because a lover also had feelings for someone else? Why would that change their feelings about you? Can't love be just as strong between multiple people? I think it can.
I realise this is a pretty sensitive issue and fairly controversial in terms of religious and cultural views, but I'm open to any opinions you want to express here.
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@cloud17 (4)
• China
12 Nov 07
I can't agree with this opinion. If I love someone,I will give all my love to him. So cloud him do I hope. Mother's love is not like love between lovers. For the great of monther's love is based on consanguinity, while love between lovers can't shared with others.
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@Wisteria (100)
• Canada
11 Nov 07
I think it's wrong, why would you need to love more than one person? Isn't that just promiscuity? I believe that a person can only truly love one person at a time. The more people involved in a relationship, the more complicated it'll be.
I think if you choose a partner, then you should stay committed to that relationship. I certainly wouldn't like it if my boyfriend loved another person, I want to have the feeling that I'm "the one" and I'm special not "one of many."
Well, I suppose if both parties agree to it and nobody will be jealous or anything, then there's no real "problem."
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@pendragon (3349)
• United States
12 Nov 07
This should be called being single,lol. I don't even know why people bother trying to fit any kind of loyalty into these situations at all.So instead of one lover,you have two or more, then there's no vow, no nothing that should state a loyalty,it's ridiculous.Just call it what it is, swinging,then when you have only one, call it a commitment.That's why things have different titles, or there's no reason.You're trying to eat your cake multiple times, that just makes unhealthy girth in any medium. Familial love is diffrent than sexually oriented love, or at least it should be, you should have a different kind of dedication to your significant other/partner than you do your children.
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
12 Nov 07
I will never see the logic in this, poly fibres, poly shapes, great,makes for exciting math, but not exciting relationship(s).Seems like a glitch in the matrix, a grid screw-up in renicarnative instances.Or plain old non-conformity, which usually is a great tack to me, but all this smoke from a distant fire appeals not.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
11 Nov 07
I know a good deal about the subject and I actually think it would be a very healthy relationship for some people. It isn't for everyone but I think there are people it would benefit greatly. Just look at how many peopple get divorcd over infidelity...what if those "cheaters" were really just poly in nature? If it could be accepted than many of those divorces would never happen. And what about those families struggling financially? In typical 2 adult households either one works and one stays home with the chldren making it necessary for them to get by on one income OR both parents work requiing the childen to be raised by babysitters and costing a large amount in child are costs. But what if there was a third option? A 3 parent household in which 2 people could work maintaining 2 incomes but the 3rd would stay home to raise the chldren and limit child care costs. Sounds like a wonderful solution to me.
We aren't actively poly but if someone came along and we felt it was right I would be acepting of it.
@Hearthestorm (22)
• Australia
12 Nov 07
Sure, but I don't think it would make much difference to people who did actually 'cheat' on someone in a relationship, because in every relationship there are different rules (whether a polyamorous or monogomous relationship), and regarless of their personal moral views, the fact that they 'broke the rules' in a monogomous relationship is in many ways just as serious.
Interesting concept with having a family of three mutually loving adults. Will think further on it :)
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
12 Nov 07
You are right, I didn't word that quite right...It wouldn't help the "cheaters" but it would make a difference to those people who are poly by nature but are mistaken for cheaters when they develop feelings for someone other than their spouse/partner.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
12 Nov 07
I really like the idea of 3 (or more)loving adults in a family too. That was actually what first attracted me to the concept.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
12 Nov 07
"We are all One!" yes I agree with you. Love is not singular.Love your neighbor as yourself! God intends that we Love everyone equally.There are no good reasons why we can't love more than one person.
Marriage was made by men to preserve family life. Declining numbers of marriages and, a more than 50% divorce rate, is evidence that marriages are on the decline in our society.
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Our society is in decline all by itself and taking all good things with it.
