Are you a strong person when everyone else gets weak?

Family and friends - Strong for my family and friends
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
November 10, 2007 9:55pm CST
Life is really short... And it's sad that we loose someone we love unexpectedly and that we didn't have time to tell the person how much we love them. Sad but true, this is only a borrowed life and we don't hold our destiny. During these saddest times in life i don't think i am that strong enough for my family and friends specially for my family.. Though i'm trying to be one i guess it's just not enough. if i'm hurting inside, couldn't help but let the tear out, i wanted so much to hold it back in but just couldn't. I wish i'm stronger. I'm praying for strenght now for my family... Sorry guys if i'm being sentimental here, i just wanna let the hurt i feel inside that's been pulling my chest... I'm thankful for you guys here and these site where i could let the pain out.
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21 responses
• India
11 Nov 07
Everybody at that perticular moment becomes weak and are full with emotions but someone has to be strong enough atleast showing that strengh to console the family...I think we need to cry to let out our emotions but not in front of people who are really weak because they need most consolence.. Its good that you arae letting out your emotions,we are here to share feelings and make you feel better..
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@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
No i cant if i saw someone who is crying i cant take it ..as it makes me weak too..i want to build up a strong personlity.I wish i could
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@chamberd1 (240)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Just because you cry does not make you weak. Strengths are many and varied. So you cry. Sometimes I wish I could. If you are too sentimental that can become a problem. The opposite but no less detrimental than not being able to cry. We should seek a balance in our emotional expresion.
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• United States
11 Nov 07
Oh yes. Typically everyone else gives up first.
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• United States
11 Nov 07
You can still be strong and weep when you are sad.You are there for your family, right? You are there to listen and to console? Then you are as strong as you need to be.I am sorry that you are mourning someone.As long as your family comes together and doesn't break a apart, then the family will be stronger.Don't be too hard on yourself. Take Care.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
Hi mycharm88! It is alright my friend to vent here and we, your mylotter friends will always be willing to listen and will always understand whatever you are going through. Life is hard and there are so many things that may go beyond our capabilities to withstand. You may not know it but there always lie an inner strength inside of you. Just hold on and let the tears fall, soon the pain will be over and you will find that you have emerged a better and stronger person. take care and have a nice day my fried. :)
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
11 Nov 07
i recently lost someone,my ex-partner.i have had to stay strong for my son.we cried together and talked openly about any questions my son wanted to know.i was feeling very sad and i just sat here at my computer and chatted on mylot one night and i was surprised at all the wonderful people who gave me encouragement and strength to carry on.so if you feel like a chat and encourgement keep chatting to us cheers sue
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@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
Well, there are times in our life that even if we feel that we cant take it, but because of the people we love who depends on our strength, we have to be strong no matter what. Because if we also give up then what would happen to us and the people we love. We just have to pray and keep the faith and struggle to be the best.
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• Philippines
17 Nov 07
You know all of the people are weak when it comes to their family much more if you lose someone you love. Me, i cry i let my emotions to get out but it is not mean that i am weak. I am hurting so i cry. You know after crying you can be strong, because after the hurt there are acceptance and reality that you have to face. Me, i am trying to be strong. I can say when it comes to times like that, I am strong outside but weak in the inside. I can say my role is to be strong for them, for them to be influenced by me. Mycharm, you are just letting it all out and we are all like that. I still know you are a strong person and you have to be strong no matter what.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
14 Nov 07
I guess I am because I have always been the pillar of my family in times of need. Of course, I need support from my family members too to remain strong. However, when I am alone, I could be weak and break down.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
14 Nov 07
very true i agree with every word of u life is tough uncertain and un predictable
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
14 Nov 07
true and agree with u
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@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
HUGS. It really is hard to lose someone we love. It is much harder to see your loved ones, whom you perceive are the stronger ones, to see them at their low. Though, you were at your lowest, you have to be tough for them. I pray that you will be able to get through this. HUGS. Words are not enough to console you. HUGS.
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@leo1985 (164)
• China
14 Nov 07
my dear friend,please remeber that everyone is a pass-by through our lives.they acompany us when our hearts are lonely,keep all these memory in the bottom of your heart and go on,so many person love you!
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@Margajoe (4747)
• Germany
12 Nov 07
I have heard it said that to cry, is a greater form of strength, then to keep it all inside. Don´t be so hard on yourself. If another person was in your situation,what would you tell them? Yes, you are stronger then you think. You are not alone, when the going get s to hard to handle, He will carry you. Have faith. Everything has a reason, but we as humans will not be able to understand . Leave it in God´s Hands. Take care.
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@pendragon (3348)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Yeah, it seems to be a necessity mostly, I'm never expected or supposed to have weaknesses. Even I try to overlook then if I do, stand up and soldier on.
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@Soniasony (1827)
• India
11 Nov 07
Its nice that we can share our feelings here..But being A STRONG PERSON when everyone else gets weak is gift by god to evryone..we miss lot of people..we loose lot of people..ultimately its time the healer..so be strong..
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Nov 07
Yes I am a strong Person I have had to be many a time and the tears come after But I think it depends really on how close you are to the Person If anything would happen to my lovely Man , my Kids or Gissi I know I would not be strong It just depends on how close you are to the Person Big Hugs to you Sweetie
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
Well I am mycharm88, or atleast i could be. We can never be sure, but most of the times I do my best to be strong for others. If ever they see me as weak and affected like they were, then I guess there'll be noothing to look for ahead of us. So as weak as I am, I try to hide it to atleast shed some light where dark is already covering us.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
11 Nov 07
life is just a bed of roses.there are more losses than gain.however i also have faced such situations in my life.i loved my maternal grandmom ,n grandpa a lot.bt i never told hem so.n one sad day they let me.i was very small then.however i m strong enough.bt frm then i came to know that noboady has control on their life.whatever moment of the life that one is living is only the real truth .if u love one then show it ,otherwise once ur loved ones leave u ,u ll always regret.never allow ur ego to come in between
@fanji008 (775)
• China
11 Nov 07
Hi,there! Well,I don't think I'm too weak but I'm not as strong as what I expect. I think everyone has his/her weak points,it just hasn't come to the certain thing or the certain person. I don't believe there's the one who can be strong all the time. I always think it's all right to cry if one really feel he/she needs to cause it's a way to let the emotion out and it offers the chance to forget about the pain and be strong again to face the life.
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