Why acceptance the key to change?
By cornchips50
@cornchips50 (204)
Philippines
November 10, 2007 11:27pm CST
What happens when you come up against a situation in life that you aren't able to resolve and don't want to accept? It's what I call being caught between a rock and a hard place, and it is undoubtedly a difficult place to be. However, I would say that when you do find yourself in such situation, all is not lost!
Recently i came to a problem that i didn't want to accept and wasn't ready to let go of. I told myself that in accepting the situation, I would be allowing change to come about. Unfortunately, it was not the answer i was hoping for, and i was very frustrated then.
However, a couple of weeks later I thank the Lord for my guidance and then shared a story to my friend. He explained that once i finally freed myself of the emotional hold the situation had over me and accepted things the way they were, something very surprising happened. An inspired thought occured to me that took me in a new direction and solve my problem! I said now I myself understood why acceptance was the key to change, and i am very happy and relieved to have learned that lesson.
Mylotters, something magical does happen when you are able to accept what is. Accepting reality doesn't mean giving in or giving up. It means you accept things for what they are, rather than the way you want them to be. When this happens, you free your mind to look for solutions and opportunities that you weren't aware of beforehand because you had been focusing on the problem instead of the solution.
This is an excellent example of the power the mind holds and how it can really help us get what we want. I hope this gives you hope and the confidence to deal with any challenges you are facing now and that your week brings you positive solutions and opportunities.
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7 responses
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
11 Nov 07
YES and I agree for your saying. In psychology it is said as "state-of-mind", where we go positively to the flow of life. And not against it nature.
Mind, not the brain, in simple explanation it just like eye-sighted. Where there are shortsightedness(SS) and farsightedness(FS). If our mind falls in the 'SS' category of person, we can not against the flow of it. Same thing to 'FS' type of person.
My conclusion, we cannot say for which one is better, because they are the natural of humankind. And rare in a few who does have both. Only the "inventor" type of person who does have both of it. Who writes their own fate book and will become a great historical person in future.
@cornchips50 (204)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hi you have a goodsign of being an optometrist. Just a joke. So, this is your point of view. You are comparing which is better acceptance or change isn't it?
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@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Accept what you have to accept and thats it. At first it is quite difficult, but later on it is just nothing. Acceptance is one thing we must be aware of.
@cornchips50 (204)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
When you learn to accept things it will not be difficult to change. The only reason it makes difficult if your hesitant to accept.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
11 Nov 07
Yes you are right acceptance of certain facts in life do help us ..And yes we feel we have oportunities to make changes only when we accept the present..But people make changes in world because they really dont accept the present...Its rather confusing..Think on it on both sides..Really an interseting topic otherwise..
@cornchips50 (204)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hi how nice your discussion. So your focus is at present. If you can not accept the present situation that will be a frustration. In order to get rid of that frustration at a present situation acceptance is necessary. When you accept the reality of it there will be changes. Do u know this idiomatic expression "dance with the music?" That's it!
@cornchips50 (204)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
My point is ... Change is very important ok. In order to change you have to accept first corrections, downfall, frustrations anything that in the future you will learn to realize ahhhhh acceptance ia the key to change.
@paradise12 (938)
• India
11 Nov 07
I completely agree with you and thanks a lot for sharing such an inspiring experience with us..You know what i am in such a big problem where i am not able to accept certain facts in life and couldnt beleive that are things which i cant get in life with of some mistakes i have done.Its difficult to accepet the things but i think it not impossible and change is really necessary in our life..
What you said is true by accepting things we can make our life better...
Thanks once again,now i am confident enought to solve the problem and accept things and thanks for making my day..
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
Hi cornchips50! I completely agree with you. Acceptance is the first step to change. If we don't know how to accept things or deny that there is a problem or deny that this is a mistake, then we are not allowing ourselves for a greater opportunity to have a better life and will just always find ourselves facing a blank wall all the time. Thank you for sharing this, somehow it is an inspiring message to allow ourselves to be brave enough to accept things that are good or bad happening in our lives. Take care and have a nice day.