Are you the eldest? How does it feel to be one in your case?

yes, i am the eldest too. when i was in Grade schools, responsibilities as eldest are really on my shoulder. it's tough but i feel great because i was able to make my brother and sisters follow me, for whatever i ask them to do, they will follow without hesitations and complains. Until now that we all have our own families, they are still looking at me with all respect. We never had a big fight since then. In the family, i am part of the decision making. My father and mom will consult me if ever they will need to make desicions. And whenever they have problems with my siblings, they have to talk to me first and i will be the one to talk to brother or sisters just to find out what's the real problem is. Being eldest is really tough..it's a big responsibilities. You will be in charge of everything. There are instances that, whenever my brother or sisters made mistakes...i was the first one my father will approach and talked with. Well, that's me as the eldest.

I'm an only child and it's like being the eldest among the siblings as I'm the only one who will take care of my parents as they grow old and got sick. The responsibilities are all mine. For me it's better to be the eldest and be the father/mother figure in your family than being an only child. Being the eldest you can delegate some task to your siblings and you can ask them to take care of other things, when you have a problem you can run to your siblings to share your problems. I envy you for that....

Yes, out of my brother and I, I was the oldest.

i'm the eldest and as well as the only daughter...well,being the eldest holds great responsibility... and that....all of them are expecting for something big from you...pressures are on you.... but its ok....in short,...it's very fun...

hi, ebtenorio. i am here. i am not the eldest of the siblings. but i am the eldest boy. so i have the same responsibilities as my elder sister. it is my honor that i have done so, and will take my responsibility forever.

In my family ,i am not the eldest in the siblings,I have a brother,most of the time,i do not have to worry about things at home.but ,if you are the eldest,you must assume your responsibility,you must completion your responsibility.This is no escape thing.

I am the older one among the two of us sisters. I've always been the responsible and protective one...while she has had all the fun. But I have no regrets...I enjoyed being the responsible older one. My husband is the eldest too...and he has 2 sisters. He is responsible too but he's also been pampered being the 'boy' and having everything done for him. So, he usually tends to be the BOSS of the family. Both our families are not dependent on us financially.

I am the eldest of 4 kids. I am 24, my brother is 13, other brother is 10 and my sister is 8. Our parents split up when I was very young then got back together when I was 10. I do feel a lot of responsibility because I am the eldest. I have to baby sit, drive them to school and generally be like a second parent to them sometimes. But I love it and I always remember to act like their sister, not their parent. They know they can trust me and ask me anything and while I know they look up to me as an adult, they still treat me like 'one of them'. (Eg my little brother likes to beat me up regularly.) I love being the eldest as it allows me to be a good influence on my siblings because I know they look up to me so much.

Nopers, I am the youngest and the only female, but I am also the strongest and the most reliable and responsible. My older siblings did not do much nurturing--they tried once in a while, but mostly they just had to take care of themselves the best they could. I think one of them now feels a little guilty for not having taken better care of me when I was little, but I've told him I understand. His life was not easy either. It is nice that you working to support your little sisters, but be sure to put away some money first for your own future. You may need it someday and who knows whether your sisters will be in a position to help you back. It is probably better if they do not know how much you put aside for yourself, but it is very important that you do so, no matter how much you want to give more to them. You cannot put your own education off forever, either, and it is very difficult to work and go to school at the same time and becomes even more so as you get older and advance in your studies. Good luck to you.

I am also the eldest of four siblings. I have one brother and two sisters. Fortunately, I have not been required to be the breadwinner for the family, although I do contribute a certain amount for the family's expenses. I'm pretty thankful that my parents did not require me to be the breadwinner. As the eldest though, my sisters and brother ask me for advice and homework help sometimes, but that's about it. When I have extra money, I buy them stuff or treat them out. Although I think my siblings don't respect me as an elder sister that much, I sometimes feel that my brother is older than me because he's a bit more mature.

Hi, just like you I am also the eldest among 8 children. I have 6 sisters and an only brother. After college i started to share in the family expenses expecially school expenses. I was in charge of taking care of school supplies as well as the daily allowances of my siblings. Not long after, my father stopped working and i was then the sole breadwinner of the family. It's really hard because to make ends meet i have to do tutorials from 6pm till 10pm alongside with my regular office job. I had to earn money double time i didn't have time for myself to go out with friends. That went on for about 6 years until the sister next to me has finally found a regular job and helped me out. i can only smile and laugh about the hardships i had gone through. Like two years ago, the sister (second to the last) i was sending to college suddenly got pregnant by his boyfriend who's 15 years older than her. I was very frustrated thinking about the money i've spent for her studies that i cried everyday for almost a week. Now, I'm devoting my time all to myself and i'm trying to catch up with my social life. The sacrifices i've made are all worth it because i know my parents are proud of me.

Well honestly its tough.... you have to be a good example to your siblings. Plus your parents tend to be stricter to you than your siblings, being the first one on the line that they have to handle. There were a lot of things in my teens i failed to enjoy like being part of the high school band because practices were often during weekends and they hate it when i'm often out of the house... in college wanted to volunteer for some organization but my mom hindered my application because she said it was impractical... but unlike you i'm not completely the bread winner, though i get help out with some budget at home... plus sibling's financial requests.... despite these, there are good things about being an eldest like you to ask your siblings a lot of errands in exchange for "monetary" things :-) hehehe i get to play princess sometimes at home... especially when my mom is out.... hehehe