New Single Mother

Welcome to the world of motherhood. Where we all are at one time or another is worried about what ifs. The bottom line is live in the present and try not to waste your time on the "what ifs". You will be healthier and happier. As far as if you are a single mom, the father will be required by the state to provide some child support to you so you won't be doing it alone financially. Most states have laws in place for if they don't pay sometimes it takes a while to get it going but stand your ground. You can do this. Others have before you and others will after you. Hang in there! Congratulations!

Hi, You don't have to worry about those things and feel sad now. This is the time when u should be happy an taking care of yourself. I hope you parents are supporting you. take their help. You will need help at some point of time of your elders. try to bond more with them. If you feel that you will have to take care of the baby alone, I think you should really talk to your boy friend. He should take the responsibility as he is the father. Now just take care of your health and don't worry over these issues. These thoughts just come and go. Moreover be happy that is what is important. All the best to you for your life and pray that you get married and get all the support from your boyfriend and family. God bless you.

Chances are extemely likely that you don't know how to pick the right guy (a man). He probably will leave. The government will give you some of my money. Andthe chances are against any single parent (male or female) of caring fully for a family. Most of the girls that I work with are pregnant and have crappy boyfriends or they are single because they had a crappy boyfriend.

Yes, i had many fears when I was pregnant with my daughter. Believe me, there is not a woman on this earth that doesn't have a fear of one type or another during their first pregnancy or any pregnancy for that matter. I was married and I had those exact fears that you are having. Trust me honey, you will be strong enough to take care of yourself and child if anything like that were to occur. Because you have those fears and you will think for yourself. Just enjoy your pregnancy and let things come as they may. I am sure everything will turn out fine!

do you think your parents raised you wrongly? in future thereis nothing in good raising or bad raising if you put some good bible ipression and good myth stories the child will always think good and happy that is it am tellin there is only one thing is count that is love love means giving not taking back take care and god bless you keep your mind cool

It's not just you. You are perfectly normal to have fears and concerns. My mother told me while I was pregnant to relax because everything will come naturally to you. All you need to do is relax and trust yourself and your instincts. If you are having doubts about the father, maybe you should wait before getting married. Marrying someone just because you are pregnant isn't good for anyone. You should both want the marriage for love and to grow old together. Good luck to you. I am sure you will all be just fine.

i think u should be worried about the present and not the future.I think u should talk to the person who ever has proposed u and make sure that he wont cheat u and before taking any decision think twice. i would like to advice u one thing is that always try to think positive and go on doing things which ever u find as right and about raising ur kid wrong it completely depends on u as well the surrounding in which he is living

I'm curious to know if you would be considering marraige if you weren't pregnant. I only ask because I got pregnant at 17 and married the father. It was a horrible exisitance and it wasn't good for me or my son. A baby should not be the reason for a marraige. Under the best of circumstances, raising a child can be difficult. If the marraige is not solid from the beginning, it can make the raising of the child all the more difficult. That being said, the fact that you are concerned just says that you will be the best mother you can be, which is all that any of us are. There is no perfect parent. We just have to do what we feel is right and trust our instincts. I have five kids and I'm still learning. You'll learn too. But your kids will respect you for doing your best. Good luck to you.

i think you are fearing too much. what can be the problem, just sort out. i believe if you can think the ways to fight these can-be problems you will be able to cope up.

Those are fears other mothers have...married and single. And they are completely valid, no one knows what tomorrow will bring. You probably should have a "backup plan" just in case but that's something EVERYONE should have. For right now just concentrate on your pregnancy and keeping your relationship strong.

Honestly I don't think that you are feeling any different then most pregnant women feel. While pregnant your hormones are all over the place, and your mind wanders very easily. I would say if you love the guy then marry him, if not then don't. While I was pregnant I got married, but had I not loved my hubby I wouldn't have married him. PurpleTeddyBear.

I can imagine a lot of first time mothers having these fears. You have to think that, with the father, things will work out. Talk to him about your fears, let him banish them, and trust him if he gives you a reason. And no matter what, you can give your baby a good life. You may have to cut back on some of your own luxuries, but you can do that easily for your child. Can I ask, are you only worried about money if you don't get married? Or does the father have a good job?

I think everyone has those fears. Yes someone said think about the present. Maybe you should have thought of these things before now but you cant turn around now. Do whats best for your child now. If your boyfriend is not the right person then dont marry for the kids sake. Its worse in the long run. If you have a father then tell your concerns to him. I helped my daughters. I talked to the husbands and boyfriend before their kids were born and told them to always do whats best for their new family if it means leaving them to avoid a bad marrage. Sounds bad but its whats best. Responsability? Is he responsable? Does he save money? Does he pay his bills? Does he party too much? These are signs of responsability. Choose correctly the first time.

Well,I don't know whether I should say congratulations or not.It's good to hear that you'll have your own kid soon but a little bit sorry to hear that you're a single mother.I understand your current feelings about being a single mum.It's very normal to have those thoughts and worries.Because you don't feel safe with the kid's dad and it seems that you're not too sure about your relationship.I would suggest you think more about it and make your decision when you're clear about everything.It's so nice to be a mother but you also gotta experience many things that you've never experienced before.Are you ready to take them? If you're very sure about what you can undergo in the future,then you can decide what you'd like to do.Once you make up your mind,then don't be afraid or scared any more.Just face it bravely and do your best to offer a good life to your child.Best wishes and good luck:)

I advise you to think positive. Yes there are fears on your first pregnancy coz you have lots of expectations. You have to be calm and think of yourself and the baby. Don't stress yourself on thinking anything bad coz this might affect you specially your baby. Talk to the father of your child and be open on your feelings. You both should be involved in this situation. Hope everything will be fine and have a great pregnancy..=)