My husband just asked for a divorce

I know this is going to sound crazy, but maybe this is a blessing in disguise. If he is miserable, he is just going to make your household miserable and your son is bound to pick up on it. Also you said when he talks to you he is insulting, nobody should put up with that type of abuse. DIvorce is never easy, I've been through it myself, but I did meet somebody whom I am very happy with, and he trets my oldest daughter better than her biological father ever did. Keep your chin up, and remember everything happens for a reason.

I'm going to be brutally honest here and not to hurt your feelings by any means but simply because in situations like this, being honest is important (especially since there IS a child involved).... If this is how your husband is treating you (with no respect, love, compassion etc) why would you want to stay with him and subject your son to that sort of behaviour? If all he is doing is insulting you and doesnt want to talk about it then he's apparently made up his mind. Rather than dragging it out and causing extra pain and heartache for yourself and your son, I'd just grant him the divorce! Don't you feel you and your child deserve to be treated better than that? Don't you think your son needs to be raised in a home where he can learn to treat others and women properly AND learn to NOT stay in a bad/painful/unhappy situation? I would give it a couple days and see what your husband does (maybe he was just moody at the time and if THATS the case and he wants to stay together, counseling would be a good idea), if he still wants to get a divorce then I would tell him ok...Its not easy to accept that a marriage/relationship hasnt worked but there is no point in fighting for something that isnt there ya know.... good luck to you zanybrio, I hope everything works out for the best of you and your child

iam sorry that is happening to you. find out why he wants divorce and see if it can be talked out.

Kick him to the crub, but first kick him out of your house. If he wants a divorce he shouldn't be there. But most of all don't let him verbally or physically abuse you. He wants out , tell him to go and go now before it esculates into something not good. I know it is hard but you are better off for it to happen sooner than later. saying a prayer for you.

I suggest you start getting yourself set-up to be on your own. But, I personally would not sign any divorce paperwork until I had a true and honest reason as to why he doesn't want to be married to you. Just saying that he doesn't know the reason, but he doesn't want anyone to know he is married is a bunch of bologna. And that would not hold up in a court of law. Seek out legal counsel immediately and start building your case. A divorce may very well be necessary and will more than likely be the end result, but you need to get to the bottom of all of this. Especially if it is completely unexpected.

life is too short to be with someone for whole life, leave him and forget him forever do wat u want and start a new journey.

Definately try to talk to him about it. Have there been other problems in his life that could be causing this behaviour? If he just plain doesn't wanna be married to you then your better off without him. make him pay child support and move on with your life.

If it looks like things are headed for divorce and not to be salvaged, then I would get an attorney. Look out for your son and yourself first. If your husband cannot be there for you, then that is what I would do.

I am sorry to hear that this is happening to you. My advice would be to try and find out the real reasons of why he wants a divorce, and then give it to him I guess. That is all you really can do if someone has already given up and wants to end it. It takes 2 to make a marriage work! PurpleTeddyBear.

I am sorry to hear about your husband saying he wants a divorce. He may not like the responsibility of marriage it is a big commitment and having a child is another demanding thing in life for some men. I know that every person matures at a different rate. Some men aged 38 to 40 go through a stage when they want a more exciting life. They may therefore try to get this by getting divorced. Have you considered marriage guidance? I think that you want your husband to talk so try to pick a time when he is not stressed and talk gently. He might be able to tell you why he doesn't want people to know he is married. Good luck.

Hi that's really upsetting.. If he doesnot want to show that he is married, then why he married? He could have lived a single life.. But i feel the real reason may something which he is not willing to disclose. Talk with him, in a calm and good atmosphere.. and try for a solution Good luck:)

i am sorry that is happening to you.first you can know the reason why he want to divorce.try your best to solve the problem,if he still persisted,you can divorce.and i think someone will ture love you in your future.^^

Hi,there! I'm so sorry to hear that.I know you're so sad and sufferring right now.But why doesn't he want others know that he's married? Is it a shame for him? If he thinks that it's so good not to get married,then why did he get married with you? And what's more,you guys have already had a son.What should he do if you get divorced? Have you ever asked him about all that? Did he ever consider about your child? You'd better talk very seriously with him about all that.It's not a small thing to get divorced cause you've got many things to solve especially you've got a son right now. I just hope everything will go well with you and good luck!

Thats really unfortunate. Give him some time and see if he'll talk it out or go for counciling. If not tell him he at least owes you an explanation. You have to be very careful since you have a child involved.

sorry to hear that.my ex was like that and could not handle the responsability of having a child to care for.i was very upset for a long time,but after a while i realised that we were better off without him.if he stays you will always have doubts about when he will start carrying on again.try and ignore the insults and keep your head held high.if he does not know the reason why,don't push him for a answer as he may become more insulting.good luck,if you need to chat you have wonderful friends here at mylot.chin up we are here for you

I am so sorry for you. What your should do know? Well the way I see it, sounds like he is interessted in other wemen (maybe even men?). He sounds like he wants more, and is only thinking of himself. To me that is a egocentic B! Sorry, I don´t normally judge. You know him better then me. Maybe, he is not this way. But, I am saying, this is how I would see it. I have been married for 9 years, two children who are now adults. Lots of relationships that just did not work. (Last Jan, I finally found my soul mate) In this case what I would do is, act like I don´t care. Make him think I agree because I don´t really like the idee of being married anymore either. Make him think I am happy about it, even though I am not. Sounds werd? Men are hunters. When they have what they want (not all men excuse me,LOL) they get bored. They need challenge. This way, you would be making him feel like , you don´t need him. (most men I knew, don´t like this) But the idee of an independ women not needing him, is bad for his ego. Know what I mean? Don´t give in to fast, make him suffer. He started it by making you suffer, don´t forget. Let him show you he loves you. If he does nothing for you, forget him. Lots of fish in the sea. I found my true love last jan 1st 2007! And I am 41. So no matter how old you are, there will always be someone out there who does care. And if they don´t. There not worth it. Take care, wish you luck and happiness! Margajoe

hi there zanybrio thats not nice that your husband is treating you he should be treating you with respect and your son as well i know what it feels like i am not married and my kids fathers dont want to know them its there loss but anyways i am a christain and someone i know is a christain and her husband is not and keeps putting her down he asked for a divorce because he wanted this other women but she is saying she is much happier and she was so depressed when they were togther but god hates divorces so i dont know what to advise you ask him about why he wants one and tell him please tell me the truth why you want a divorce and see what happens from there i feel sorry for your little boy and for you too god bless you i hope everything works out for you ok

that's terrible...how could he do that to you? i really don't know what to say...maybe you should talk to him...but you should know the right time when his not so hot tempered..it is of no use if you talk to him and he is not in the right state of mind..because if that is the case, we can't understand you...maybe you still have to observe him closely as to what could be the possible reasons for his decision...

that is very terrible. he is not a responsible man as a husband and a father.even he didn't dare to tell the truth. perhaps it is his excuse. pls try to find why he wanted a divorce. but i think it is not easy to recover your marriage.you should have a mental preparation.

that is very terrible. he is not a responsible man as a husband and a father.even he didn't dare to tell the truth. perhaps it is his excuse. pls try to find why he wanted a divorce. but i think it is not easy to recover your marriage.you should have a mental preparation.