Equal distribution of wealth in the family

@Perry2007 (2229)
Philippines
November 12, 2007 8:10am CST
Do you have equal distribution of your family wealth among siblings? I do not see this in ours. Some of the resources are controlled by some of the siblings, and would not seem to share. What could have gone wrong? Why can there not be fair and equal distribution of family wealth without fighting among siblings. Why should other siblings have to suffer for the benefit of some? thanks for sharing your opinion on this topic.
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@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
13 Nov 07
Equal distribution of wealth only happen under a communist regime. And it has been proven that such a system encourage lazyness. Why should you work if you are going to get the same amount of money than the guy who does nothing? You won't find any equal distribution of wealth under the capitalism system. Here... we are given money as a reward in regard to how much work we have put in. The same principle applies to family. The sibling who does all the work will get more than the one who does nothing. Money = work. No work = no money.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
What if you had worked and contributer almost all yourmoney to the family to builda better place to stay. then when you are not already capable of working, the family whom you contributed much will not recognize you any more and take for themselves what you have contributed to the family for themselves. where would you think you will endup?
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
thanks for sharing your thoughts
• Australia
15 Nov 07
Well... this is a very difficult and delicate situation. And without knowing all the details... it is hard for me to pass judgement. The person who contributed all its money towards the family... No... look... I won't say anything... because there are so many possibilities... that I will probably get it wrong. Just remember that everything happen for a reason. And I am not talking about God. People make their bed and then have to sleep in it.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
It would be only fair that all the kids get a equal share. But unfortunately,the parents have favorites and they get more. Some kids " disappoint" their parents and are disowned.And it will never change.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
If you were a parent would you disown your child for disapointing you?
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• United States
18 Nov 07
It depends on what the child did.If it was a disageement,I wouldn't. But if he/she did something seriously hurt me, the family, or someone else I would disown them.
• India
12 Nov 07
In my family only my dad earns and so there is not exactly equal distribution.i am a student and so i pursue with my studies and i dont have particular earnings.my mom is a housewife and similar is the case with her.but ofcourse my dad gives a share of his salary for our purposes.thus i can say there is almost a equal distribution of salary.
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
Thanks for sharing.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
17 Nov 07
How old are your siblings? If they are young, there should be fair & equal distribution of wealth. Are all your siblings from the same parents? In my family, our money is not shared equally amongst the step siblings. This is because the Mother of my step children gets a huge amount of maintenance. So I give my daughter heaps to make up for it. The whole system of maintenance sucks!
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
13 Nov 07
I think that sometimes members of a family tend to get selfish. This can lead to not sharing. As a result, some have more than others. We are very close knit family and try to see that each member has what they need to survive. Good luck with your family.
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
It's good to know that family should see that members has what they need, In my family, we also have this. It's just sad to learn that my husbands side seem to take care of some and leave others to themselves. I pray that they also learn to look at each others needs. thanks for sharing.
@joyce959 (1559)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
In our family there is no equal distribution of wealth or properties that were put by our parents. Our parents had alloted properties for each of us 6 siblings. The properties have different sizes like 4.5 hectares, 5 hectares, 4.8 hectares, 6 hectares and so on, and the properties were assigned to us according to the will of our parents. So, like in your case, the properties or family wealth was distributed or assigned to us according to the will of our parents and there's nothing we can about i it. Some of the properties are managed by one of my siblings coz the others are in other countries. In your case, the family wealth was distributed according to the will of your parents and you can not do anything about it.
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Yes, I understand that is in my case. What if the parent did not have any will? In my husbands side there was no will, the properties were not even in order. The siblings does not know how to communicate.
@joyce959 (1559)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
If there is no last will and testament by the parents, the properties will be divided among the heirs. You must consult a legal practitioner to talk about the settlement of the properties among the heirs.
• Canada
12 Nov 07
If you refer when a parent past away, He or she should have made a will, that is the only way to insure that every sibling get an equal share
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Hey P2007, My family is spread to the four winds & our finacial situations don't even concern one another.The closest to concern I've had was when my Momma passed away my sister at the will of the man we call father had me sign over my interest in the property my parents owned. +'s
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
12 Nov 07
I truly believe that some people are wired to be greedy when it comes to money and some are not. Some people are willing to work harder to get money than others also. Then there are some that are willing to do anything for money.
• India
12 Nov 07
Unless it is made as a law, even if the law exists it must be compulsorily put into practice, one cant expect equal distribution of wealth in the family. But the Enforcement of such laws are not possible. Therefore, we in India also experience such kinda problem. What i feel is, Only the Countries Vary, but the Problem remains the same. Take care Buddy:) and have a good time.)
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• New Zealand
13 Nov 07
In our family, yes there is an equal distribution. Eversince we are still young, my parents always ensure that everyone in the family is treated equally. No favoritism at all...=)
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• Malaysia
13 Nov 07
im the only child in the house i.e no sibling.. so this discussion doesnt apply to me really lol. but yeah i have some firends who are in a situation like that. its especially hard when ur not the eldest because the eldest who is "more responsible" gets virtually everything from the wealth and is charged to take care of the younger ones. thats where the fighting starts..
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