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I cannot say who to blame but I think if your father still stick with your family this will not happen to your mom. But what would be the reason why your father did this to your family? He might have a deeper reason. For your mom, i think this is what she really wants to do for the meantime to forget on eveything. She was hurt very badly but its not right to forget her kids. You are still there even without your father. Try to talk to your mother about the situation. Show your love and respect to her and feel her that there are still lots of people beside her no matter what happen...=)

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It would be difficult for me to say who is at fault here without knowing all the facts. I think everyone should be focused on your 11 year old sister. She could have problems as a result of her surroundings and that's where my interest would lie.

I would put the blame on both of them. It took two people to create that life. Sounds to me like two more people need to grow up and accept the responsibility of raising their 11 year old daughter.

your mother must be very sad. but they are all quit of the respondibility to help you and your sitster. dont learn from them. now you are a mother too,the parent is very important to children.don't count on your parent. your sister is young,but she must understand the third affair and her parents are divorced from each other. take care of her to recover. God bless you!

you must not blame your parents instead pray to our Almighty God that he will help your family, try to prove to your mom that losing your father is not a lost because she still have you as her son and her future.

I'm sorry and sad this happened to your family. I cannot say who to blame without knowing the real cause of the separation. Why in the first place did your father have an affair with other women? If you were to ask him, I guess he will reason out (as what always the answer of men) that he's just a man, far from his family and is prone to temptations. But are there other reasons? Maybe he has. On the part of your mother, I would say she's a coward and accepts her defeat. I am sure what she's doing is to get even with your father - that if your father can do that, why can't she, right? Which is very very wrong. Instead of standing up and be strong, she's too weak and selfish. Selfish because she's just thinking of herself. She have you as your children that needs her care and love especially your 11 year old sister who's going into adolescent stage. Her children who can give her strength, joy, understanding and happiness. If she lost one, she still has all the four of you. It's not the end of the world. Look for someone to counsel your mother. Maybe a priest or close relative. Don't take for granted your youngest sister. This time she needs you more - her siblings very much. The three of you are her pillars now - give her the love, courage, strength, advices and support that your mother has already neglected. She's going into adolescent stage which is very crucial of growing up. She may undergo depression, hurt, resentment (not only of your parents but maybe of her siblings if you can't give her any support). What is needed for her now is complete guidance. I'm praying for you.