old frnds

For me, i don't think communication with old friends should be set aside or forgotten already just because you've got married. Having a husband doesn't necessarily mean that you now have your own world, one that's apart from your friends. It would be healthy in a marriage relationship if both of you will occasionally have your own time separate from each other and this means going out with your own set of friends. And for those who don't find time for old friends because of work and household chores i think it's important that you try to squeeze it in your schedule. If you just really think of it, meeting old friends doesn't mean time spent for them but also having time for your own self.

I dont see how marriage would change anything to do with friendships...they are friends and they should remain friends..

Hmm, i am not married but here in sweden we still live together and stuff like that. I would NEVER ever be the one to do all the household chores myself - he has to help. I also work fulltime and I also deserves a life. In my home we divide it all between us so that we will have time for eachother and for our friends and thats the way it works over here. the woman is not OBLIGATED to stay at home while the man works, here we are all the same - man and woman!

that is indeed a very good question, i mean you hardly come out with such a kind of social stuff for girls, but that was really impressive 10/10 to you. you are true that is very difficult for girls to continue the same life after their marriage, they have to take various responsibilities, a new family, new people, new relatives, new location, i mean all is changed. a girl is always called to be as a responsibility when she is living in parents home before marriage her parents usually say that you are not our, you will be going to your house after marriage and after marriage in law say that you don't belong to us, you belong to your maternal family. so you see they never get that love and affection. and if i talk about them of being found online than i rarely find any married girl on the best social site now a days that is orkut

I've been married for three years.. have kids, and I am a working mommy as well, way back when I was single, I can recall the outings with friends and the fun stuff and all that, of course, there's a change nowadays, but my true friends are still there for me as I am for them... keeping in touch is the thing I wanted to pursue always.

Sadly, I have found this to be true. I'm still single but my friends are getting married one by one, and although it's nothing intentional on their part, I don't spend much time with them anymore. But I found that to be true even before marriage, just when the relationship gets really serious. I tend to see them only when they are having problems with the boyfriend/husband or when they decide they miss me. But even then, I almost never see those friends by themselves anymore. The friend and her significant other become a package deal.

yes you are very true here that ladies after marriage happen to loose their old friends as life becomes busy and one is not able to keep contact with others especially with those who are far off. I too am in contact with the best of my friends only and do sometimes visit them when i go to my mothers place. But this is true for my husband too. He too gives maximum time to us and hardly has time to honour his relationships with friends.

its true that after marriage girls get busy with their life and household activities but that doesnt affect friendship not the true one atleastfriendship is not bounded by how many times u meet each other or how many times you talked to each other its all about understanding each other be it from near or far its all about the memories you share together and now with inernet and sites like orkut i dont think we can be in contact wth our friends always

Yes, if they are true friends. Friendship is a great gift that can last a lifetime. Marriage is also a shared responsibility. It is not 50-50 but shared none the less. Now, when kids come into the picture, it your friends do not have kids, then it gets hard. You just need to be creative with your time and do what matters most in your life. If you go out with a friend and the vacuuming does not get done, then do it tomorrow. If you value the friendship then the friend take the time to be with friends.