Tips on Divorce
By princeworthy
@princeworthy (1909)
United States
November 13, 2007 8:42am CST
I could use some tips on divorce. If anyone has any helpful websites or phone numbers, please let me know. Here are the details: I will be getting divorced in either Kansas or New Mexico. We will have been married for 7 years next week with no children but we have been together for 11 years. I want the divorce and he doesn't. Any help would be appreciated! Thank you everyone in advance!
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5 responses
@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Hello Princeworthy
It's good to see you again
As a general rule you have to file in the state you were married in unless you moved to another state together while still living together. Since you didn't have children together and I am assuming since you moved, you are willing to let anything of monetary value go. Look online for the for which state you will need to file in. Then get the paper work, you will have to pay for that. Fill out the paper work and file in the county that you need to. There will be a filing fee. As long as your soon to be ex has no legitimate reason to contest the divorce it will be granted.
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@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Thank you for the advice. We did move away to a new state together but we were married where I am now. I think I will file in the state I currently reside in, I don't want to have to go back to where he is. I am actually scared of him so returning might not be the best idea.
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
14 Nov 07
You haven't said how long you've lived in NM. Generally you will have to get a divorce in the state that you last lived together in.
Almost all states have "no fault" divorces. He doesn't HAVE to agree to the divorce, but it does make it more difficult. Not because he can prevent it, but he can try to obstruct the event.
If you get a lawyer in NM, you may not have to return to the state to get the divorce, but it might make it easier. Maybe you can stay with your friend.
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@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
16 Nov 07
Thanks for the advice. I was hoping to file for divorce from Kansas as we were married here and I am here. I am scared of him and not sure now if I want to return until after the divorce....
@AxranraRose82 (1120)
• United States
19 Nov 07
That seriously sounds like a creepy arrangement there, edigital...If the swinger life is your preference, good for you but it isn't something that should be pushed onto other people!
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@villageanne (8553)
• United States
13 Nov 07
This is one subject that I cant help you out with. I have been happily married for 29 years this Dec. I have no idea even how to get a divorce. Sorry.
@simplyman2006 (1706)
• India
13 Nov 07
i think if u want divorce and he don't then try to find some solid reason for divorce. and if he still loves u then why u want divorce?
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