Should I be Guilty?

i don't think you have to. i mean you would feel more guilty had you allow courtship to go on without any assurance returning the feeling. i mean i also have suitors before but i usually get them to read the signs just so they can back off. it's just not so natural to befriend someone who courts you and you don't feel anything for the guy or is still finding out if you'd feel the same.

don't be guilty, you're just trying to be you, and it's better to tell them directly than letting them know at the end that you don't like that, if that would be the case you will be liable. Just tell them in a good way so that they will not be hurt too bad, try to make friends with them even you dumped them to consider the fact that they love you.

I dont think there is any use by feeling guilty now.the feeling of the guys whom you dumped can be better known to me as even i have been dumped by a girl after six years of affair.the pain that she gave me is beyond words and it took me months to recover from that.please dont feel bad on what i have said because its a fact.now i wouldnot want you to think about it and keep yourself worried.remember what is over is over and its a good thing that you have admitted your mistake.now if you love someone love with all your heart and dont even think of leaving him and leave rest to god.i want you to take my suggestion seriously that is the only way you can rectify your mistake.let god bless you and have a nice day.

As long as you were careful in breaking it to them gently, you did the right thing. That is, tell the suitor that he has no chance with you so that he can move on with his life. Let me put it this way: If I was courting a girl and she doesn't love or even like me, I would appreciate it if she would tell me honestly and as early as possible. I feel that's the courteous thing to do, rather than play with my feelings. I wouldn't want to be in one of those "fake" relationships. So no, you shouldn't feel guilty.

Never feel guilty then. All of us have the freedom to choose... even the freedom to choose to whom our hearts shall be with. In the first place, you did not coerce them to fall in love with you right? You might be a pretty cute girl then? It's so flattering that many have been "falling" for you, and you never "catch" them. Don't feel guilty. It is part of life. Me, for that someone who does not love me the way I love her, I will still love her coz that is how I feel... I am just keeping my guard for things that could happen. At least I am ready. Fail or succeed, I shall always love that person, and at the same time, not a nuisance of myself for her.... I'll ask her if I have been bugging her... If I do, then I will have to halt.

As long as you're at peace.. And you have no intention of hurting other people's feelings, even if the were.. NO NEED TO BE GUILTY. You're just being true to yourself. For me.. Choices are correctly chosen when you're happy and at peace with it. *bow*

It's best to save your love for the man you marry. That way you will not be dumping other guys, and you will not be damaging your own heart. If you feel no emotional pain when you dump the guys, then maybe you are just using them. If there is a pattern of guys being hurt, you might ask yourself if you are leading them on in some way. Hope it works out well for you. djbtol

I always feel like that too whenever I have to dump someone. that's why sometimes, I just prefer to be cold and ignore their text messages or calls rather than tell them straightforwardly that I don't have any feelings for them. I am not very good at words so I tend to show my feelings thru actions. ^__^;; I don't think we should be guilty about this. all is fair in love and war as the saying goes and we're just being fair to dumping them instead of giving them false hopes.

no, that is part of their lives and you already did your best not to hurt them

I don't think you have to worry about them and their feelings. Atleast you have been pretty honest about how you feel, rather than spending the time with them out of pity. :) Just think of their experience as a decision they made, thus, they have certain responsibilities or certain outcomes anticipated. They should have seen the dumping as another option of the many options they have. :)

I know what you mean. I have learned not to feel guilty about it anymore. It is passed, and done with. Can´t change the past. And I have noticed these dumped ones, usually find happiness very fast again. But, the future you can change. How? By taking more time to get to know someone , befor getting serious. This way you will have a better knowlegde of what you are getting into. Then you can leave while your ahead. Take your time, don´t let yourself be used. But, then again this is my advise and your choice. Either way, I wish you all the best and hope you find what you are looking for. And forget about the guilt trip. That trip is gone, can´t change it know. Take care.

greetings for everything we do we have to give an account to the almighty god after we die...but if u accept ur mistakes jesus christ is just to forgive all u did and ur guilt....it happened with me...ask jesus christ to help u...confess and repent and see the power of the cross in ur life...u will see the change in ur nature and u will become like a new born child....he will wash u with his preciousblood because he paid the cost for us...

I don't think you should feel guilty. You can fall in love or like everyone who has feelings for you. The thing I hate is when we have a crush on someone but they don't return the feelings. You need to be happy and you wouldn't be happy in a relationship when you didn't have feelings. At least you are letting these guys down gentle. That's more than some people can say. You must be a very kind and understanding person. I think there are a lot of us out there chasing that elusive dream of the knight on the white horse. Good luck with your search. You are a special person and deserve the best. We all do.

If you feel you be guilty , I think some wrong things has happened on you . Love neet heart, a true heart from each other , if you do her good in your heart ,I think this is not guilt.