Forgive and forget?

This is a very subjective question. What is forgivable is different for every situation. I can forgive a person who betrays me, but it does not come easily. The person has to take responsibility for what they did wrong, express remorse, and do everything possible to remedy the situation. If a person acts like it is no big deal, or tries to make me feel bad for not readily offering forgiveness, I have a hard time forgiving. I think that forgiving a person can be a way to let go, to get past something that was done to you, and to relieve stress and unhappiness. But forgetting can be dangerous. Some people think that the two must go hand in hand. Not me. I think that forgetting leaves us vulnerable to being hurt again. For example, I forgave a person who lied to me, which means I don't hold it against her, I won't bring it up in future arguments, and I won't always assume she is lying in the future. But forgetting that it happened means that, if it does happen again, I will be vulnerable to being deceived. In other words, though I won't always assume she is lying, I will be aware of the possibility, and when something doesn't sit right, I will question it. To anwer your question aoubt boundaries, they should be wherever they feel right to you. You should never feel obligated to forgive. You should make a decision about how you feel about the wrong a person committed and be honest about what it means for the future of your relationship. There is a person in my life who I have tried to forgive, but I can't. I have decided to accept that the relationship will never be the same instead. That is what feels right to me.

if Almighty God does forgive & forget...then why can't we?

I forgive all the time. but it is hard as heck to forget. and if you don't forget u will keep bringing the subject up to cause and argument. then that means you never forgave the person in the first place.

I agree with you, although I am extremely forgiving LOL I not only forgive easy, I actually do forget as easily - which is not necessarily good :)-. However there have been times where I did not forgive or forget and in some cases for lesser offenses. Funny- or not - that you mentioned you won't forgive someone that comments about your children. I might be able to forgive the odd comment but not any that will somehow hurt or impact negatively in my children. Actually one of the few people that I don't really talk to - other than hi and bye - is my sister in law, for having done something that really had serious consequences in my kids. I have forgiven my in laws for years of putting me down, but not for other things they did related to my family, my marriage and my children. I think it's easier for us to forgive things that are serious but don't touch our loved ones, or the things we hold dear. I also think that it might be easier to forgive people that we don't expect anything from sometimes.ANd a little bit harder to forgive people that we thought care about us and ended up hurting us anyway specially if it was done consciously.

i always think, forgive but don't forget at least don't let the same person hurt you twice in the same way also, always consider if what they did was intentional or not, most of the time when people hurt others its unintentional and springs from them having been hurt themselves its always best to forgive, if and when you can if someone intentionally hurt badly, avoid them

Sometimes forget means forgive.If you want to forget something or somebody that you will have a chance to forgive,because during the process you forget,all the sad things and bad persons will never influence yourbody.So,do not mind everything or everybody,you will forget them and forgive them. Learn to forget and forgive!

To forgive someone depends on the gravity of the mistake or offense. I may forgive some white lies to cover up something. When a bf/gf cheats on her/his partner, it maybe hard to forgive, what more if a hubby/ wife cheats on her/his partner, its really very hard to forgive. It will take very long time before I can forgive and I may have forgive my partner if he really feels sorry and ask forgiveness and promise to not to do the same offense again. I may have forgiven but it will be very hard to forget.

I think we should forgive anyone who have done to us. People make mistakes and sometimes they don't realize it until later on in life. I know I have mad mistakes but I did try to go back and make them right. "All have sin and come short of the glory of God." The Lord also said if you don't forgive the person that has offended you He will not forgive you and you will not enter the Kingdom of God. I know I have sin and I want the Lord to forgive me, so I chose to ask the Lord for forgiveness of my sin and forgive and forget what anyone has done to offend me. I rather forgive and forget and go to Heaven then to not forgive and go to Hell.

I don't feel that I have to extend forgivness. There are things that people have done to me that I never forgave them for, and I don't feel guilty about not forgiving them for their act. Some people feel they deserve to be forgiven and I just don't feel they need to be. If someone does something to you, and they say to you "I'm so sorry I did that to you" and you knew in your heart and mind that they may do it again, I would just accept the apology, but I would NOT forgive them, unless there is a reason to, more often than not, there is hardly anything to forgive.