Attitude Problems
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
November 15, 2007 3:56pm CST
I have this caretaker at the board and care where I live. She is suppose to be a "Christian." But, every now and then she gets an attitude with me. It is very annoying, because she is suppose to also be a professional and keep whatever personal feelings she has out of her job.
I know that she is over worked and under paid, but that has nothing to do with it. I only see the attitude toward me. I don't remember doing or saying anything to her to give her this attitude. Now, I only have to moods, I am either extremely nice or I am a total b*tch. Most of the time, I just go off on her and eventually things change. That is getting old for many reasons.
I am the type of person who just wants peace. No drama. But, I realize that this is not reality. But, I do not know how to deal with this. It does no good to complain, because we are short of staff in the first place. Most people might not even notice it, but I am sensitive, so I pick up on things like this easily. If I could avoid her, I would, but it is absolultely impossible.
I said that I was going to pray about it. So I guess I better do that. I have to go back up and deal with her in a few minutes. Is there anyone in your life who you have to constantly deal with and they have an attitude with you for reasons you can't understand?
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12 responses
@candytang (341)
• China
16 Nov 07
Till now ,there is no people that I have to constantly deal with ,but only once or twice.I can imagine if there is a people I should constantly deal with I would very despression and feel anoying .I pride of you that you have the ability and patient .Best wishes for you !
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
Hi Rozie37! I do think that caretaker need some rest so she could think and work better. Just like you said, she is overwoked and somehow that is making her stressed even for the smallest reasons. However, I do deal with someone like that, who is very manipulative, demanding and moody almost each day but I just learn to live with that. I build a wall around me where she can't really get inside so I would not be affected with her moods. I do ignore her and give in to her whims once in awhile but I maintained a distance between us. She would say hurting words but I always prayed that God will give me strength so I can just be patient and understanding because no matter what I will do she can turn people against me. But I always stood my ground and not be affected big time to preserve myself somehow. It was very hard before but not anymore because I have God with me and He knows and sees everything that I am going through. I kow He is always at my side and will never abandon me. Take care my friend and know that God is with you too. Have a nice day. :)
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
15 Nov 07
I would keep praying for her and if she keeps on acting this way I would ask her have I done something to upset you? I hope that she starts acting better towards you. I know if someone acts that way to me I get tired of it and ask them the same thing.
@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
16 Nov 07
I don't know, sometimes in life, no matter how hard we try to keep it calm and peacefull, there are people who always keep on getting rude. I can'
t explain for their behaviour, I can't explain for many other behaviours that other people make. May be its in there personality.
I really think, keeping mum about such behaviours, is really making them more of what they are. So I think that we must speak out to them about what we like and don't or else things won't change.
I have one such person in my life. Its my younger sister. She is always rude and has a bad attitude towards me., For some reasons she treats me as if I am bad and I don't know what I am doing and takes my words like S***.... I don't know what wrong had I done to her.
Any ways
Take Care
God Bless YOU
@laurika (4532)
• United States
16 Nov 07
The problme is she probably don't know that is being mean to you. You write she is over worked and maybe has a personal prolems too and maybe it is just too mcuh for her. I would try to be to her really nice and see if it is gona move with her or not. Maybe she get guilty for being not the nicest person to you. IF not I would probably ask her what is her problem if you upset her or did something wrong.
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
16 Nov 07
Obviously she sees something in you that she would like to have. In short, it is a compliment! Strange way of showing it though. I would keep being nice and sweet to her, even if she is stabbing you in the back, eventually, she's got to break! Aren't you a newbie there? Could also be that she is not sure about who you are. Time will fix that! Just keep being you and never mind those who try to squash your good mood. Yeah, us women either have super nice or super b***h mode! lol. I think I'm stuck on a continuous pendulum between them! lol.
A long time a go I had a friend like that. Needles to say, she is not my friend any more!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
16 Nov 07
I have been here for two years. I think that she feels that she can lean on me too hard sometimes and I don't mind being there for her sometimes, but expecting me to deal with her attitudes is a little to much.
Because I am a big girl and she is tiny, she will ask me to stay with her and be her body guard if a client looks like he may hurt her. I do not mind. But, I would think that would make her want to be a little more nice to me instead of the opposite.
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@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
16 Nov 07
Then I am right. You have something she wants! lol. She wants to be bigger! But, at the same time, she probably feels intimidated by your size, much the same way a mouse admires the size of a rat, but runs from them all the same!
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
15 Nov 07
The term "christian" is only a title. It does not mean anything specific as to how a person may act. You cannot change her, but you can choose how you react to her. Bless her with love and peace and see if she softens. It couldn't do any harm.
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@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
18 Nov 07
Why are people like that? I only want peace too, but there is always someone with drama and giving attitude. I used to work with people that called themselves 'Christians'. Yet, they were the ones you could count on to talk about people behind their backs and bring attitude everyday. I can't work with people like that. That's why I want my own business. I know I won't have to deal with attitude from rude co-workers. I know you will encounter drama and attitude everyday and everywhere you go, but why? I make an effort, so why can't others? I don't blame you for getting upset and going off on her. She needs to get a better attitude since she is the caretaker and will be dealing with borders. She has to have a better attitude.
@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
hello rozie. That happened to me months ago with my neighbor. When they moved in, of course, it was somewhat natural to greet my new neighbors. There was no problem with his sister,who was all smiles and very friendly. But him? Boy,everytime he saw me, he had a permanent scowl pasted on his face. I didn't know why but I just kept smiling at him if ever our eyes do meet. He would just plainly ignore me then turn his back on me.
But that kind of mysterious, snooty attitude of him finally ended. Just like that. I came out of our house and our eyes met again. So, I smiled, not really expecting a smile in return. But to my big surprise, he smiled back a little.
And since that day, I can say he's a little chatterbox whenever we get to meet. I guess he was still trying to assess me if I'm worthy of his smiles.lol!
@Jasmine78 (135)
• United States
16 Nov 07
Maybe there is some misunderstanding between you and her. Maybe just because you are too sensitive. As a sensitive person too, sometimes I find myself just over-protective or over-reaction. Just try to be yourself, it will let you feel more relief. Usually we can't contral the attitude of other people, but it's more easier to contral our own mind. Just try to ignore those things.
@romulouco (40)
• Brazil
16 Nov 07
Yes, my brother is a little hard to live, he is older but their attitude seems a child, I am a father now it will be but neither seems.
