disappointed in Dr. Phil

i have to agree with you. talk is cheap, but obviously he has not had to deal with that. i have an aunt that was pretty much in the same boat and she surrounded herself with other people's children, but some people cannot cope as well. i agree that she should seek out a support group. these are generally most helpful!

Your advice is good ... but so was his. I know of one girl that has almost cut herself off from everyone she knows. She found out she couldn't have children, which is heartbreaking since she did want a large family. I do understand the pain she's going through. But, by cutting off her support system she's only caused herself more pain. It's a natural approach to avoid people who have children if you're incapable of doing so, but it's also a selfish approach. It's avoidance, and it's not healthy. She's never going to be able to avoid mothers and children in general, and needs to learn to be at peace with it. Otherwise, all she's doing is sticking her head in the sand, and not actually DEALING with it. If she's having difficulties dealing with it, then that's where your advice comes in ... councelling or a support group. But avoidance is never the answer.

I think woman with this problem should get help from the right people. People that deal in this type of problem. And know what they are going through.

I agree with both of you. She's needs to accept her fate as it is right now and she should also find a support group to help her see it is not the end of the world and that there are other options. I think that her real friends can be supportive of her. They may not know exactly what she is going through, but their love for her can lead them to the right things to say to her.

being a person in the medical field, dr. phil was discreet as ever but he didnt realize that there is hope while there is dream. if that woman clings on to the hope that she will eventually have her own child, it's on her positive attitude and not on the advises of others. for example, my brother and his wife never stopped dreaming of having their own offspring until one day, after 8 years since they got married, God gave them their bundle of joy. to that woman and to all women concerned, never stop hoping and PRAY. that's the greatest armor.

I think if they are good friends then he is right. I will not be easy and she may need to take time away from them. Maybe if she talked to them and told them she needed some space to get things better this would help. But Dr.Phil is right, if they are good friends they are there to support her. I agree with you though that a support group would be helpful as well.

I am always dissapointed in him I feel as though he only says or does what is going to make him money not what is best for the person.