Should i be realistic or believe the greatness of love?
By fangzi
@fangzi (69)
China
November 15, 2007 7:30pm CST
I find myself attached to a boy who is one of my high school classmates.I did not contact him for 3 years until the begining of this year after getting his phone number from another classmate.When we were in high school his seat was beside mine and we got in with each other very well .Gradually i had good feeling for him secretly but that is just what i always had toward an exellent boy in my eye.After the entrance examination of university,i went to a school in the south and he,the north,and we losed touch.But i could never forget him and awalys had him in my dream.Then u can imagine how excited when i got his phone number and i knew he still has no girl friend.Then we contacted frequently, knowing that he always shew his concern for me,which increased my affaction to him and finally i told it to him.But he did not give me a positive answer,saying that he is not able to hold the distant love .I am very upset for i think he must dosen't like me and decided not contact him again,but he gave me call later which give me hope to hold his feeling .And then we contacted again.But whenerve i shew my true feeling to him he will give some other excuse and our contact froze for many days.And i am still in this gloomy period now.I tried to forget him by letting other boy entering my life,but it can only confirm my affection to him. Last month,one of my roommates introduced me a boy and we began to go out,but after coming back from the dating i felt very bitter,for i began to miss him more than before.Then after one week,i quitted the relation with that boy because i don't want to hurt him.And i know that if there is a little hope to win his affaction i will never like anybody else.So i decided to wait until i see him this winter.But my roommates told me that even if he likes u,it is so hard for u to be together,for u have no foundation of love,let alone u are so distant .And i disputed that we can get together when we all go to work in the same city.But it has to be two years later.Do u think i need to wait him,if i confirm that he likes me?I don't know if love can endure so long a time while youth can not stand .
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8 responses
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
16 Nov 07
Well, yours is a nice example of love. Your boy friend seems to be true lover of yours. You are also attached to him so much.
I agree that two years is not a small period. And waiting for him for next two years is not so simple. Especially when you are away from him. But if you confirm that he likes you, and if you have true love for him then you can afford to wait for two years. Come what may....let your love to him not fail and give him also a chance to prove his worth as a true lover. Best luck.
@fangzi (69)
• China
16 Nov 07
Thanks very much to confirm that he likes me as well! I think i will wait for him cause i always believe the first love will be unforgetable in my life.And if i don't pursue it,i will regret for the rest of my life.I have read a very moving article of this kind which made my determination even strong .It told that an old man hired a young man to take some photoes of an old woman about her private life and promised that he would burn the photoes after seeing the them.So the man went and took a lot of photoes to the old man.When seeing the each pieces of photoes,the old man's eyes were full of tears,because they were the photoes of his first lover 50 years before.I respect the old man ,for he gives me the realizition of the true notion of love ,that is concern for your lover even without his/her knowledge about it.And i will do my utmost to let he know and get response.But if things stop us getting together ,i will pray for him all the blessing in life.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
16 Nov 07
That is the spirit of true friendship.
Even if you cannot come together, pray for him to the God. Be his welwisher. I liked your spirit very much. Keep it up.
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@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
16 Nov 07
I like love stories and yours is an interesting one. I know the feeling when you feel love for someone, because at one time I was in love before. I am not sure how this boy feels as being the girl, you are taking the initiative to become steady friends, but if I were the boy, I'd feel flattered. You may not have achieved success yet, but at least from what you have described, this boy shows concern for you, has not rejected you and still maintains communication with you. So there is still hope that something may develop over time. Although you have expressed your feelings to him but he has not reciprocated in the same manner, one reason could be that being young still, he is not that ready to have a very serious commitment yet. If that's the case, then perhaps you should just maintain a close and warm friendship with him for the time being, continue to show your care and concern, but not scare him off by being too affectionate. Let the warmth of friendship continue to grow, and maybe two years down the road, both of you may end up being a couple. You never know...anything can happen in love. Don't let the distance apart keep you from trying if you really love this person. If you give up now without trying, then you will likely lose him forever. Give love a chance, since both of you are still studying and have time. If he is meant for you, you may be rewarded over time through your persistence and perseverance. As long as he is not attached, you still have a chance.
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@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
17 Nov 07
I'm sorry your case didn't work out for you, ceaky_liu. In fangzi's case, there's every hope of success, I feel, and she can do with our encouragement. Until this boy gives clear signals that he is not in any way interested, there is a chance. If I were fangzi, I will be patient and keep trying, and I will not let distance be a stumbling block. Love comes from inside the heart. If one has strong and genuine feelings for another, physical separation cannot easily break that bond. So I'd say don't give up just yet.
@ceaky_liu (9)
• China
16 Nov 07
I don't know whether fangzi wants to get encouragement or dissouragement.
But what I wanna say is love can't beat distance forever, cause I was beaten by distance ever.
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 07
Hi fangzi.
It will totally depend on your level of hope zone. If it roams in your mind still at high sky level, means you need him much even what ever method you try to doff from him.
Because love affection never lie to us. This is a very big problem to humankind when comes to love issue. I mean your intuition towards your feeling. It just like this one phrase "fat chance and slim chance". Two different sentences give out the same meaning. Love is hate and hate is love.
HAPPY DAPPY.
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@fangzi (69)
• China
16 Nov 07
I own subconsciously that i like him so much that i lose interest in any other boys.Mabe it is just for this period,for nobody knows what will happen in the futher.But i believe my affection for him will last forever,no matter whether i will be his companion of life or not!
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@melanie1208 (133)
• United States
16 Nov 07
I love to hear love stories. Always ! it makes me young and in love !!
My two cents of advice...You are still young and still have a lot of time to enjoy life, other people and become succesful. This boy might have feelings for you but might have reservations whatsoever. Keep the relationship open and see if where it brings you. But don't let your life evolve around your feelings for him...have some fun, meet other people..and as you grow and mature you will be surprise how things will turn out. If you are destined for each other, love will find its way. But for now, if he wants to put the relationship in a friendship level...let it be. If you try too hard you might just lost him.
have fun and enjoy being young !
@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
17 Nov 07
I also agree with what Melanie said...very prudent advice! While you pin your hopes on this boy, don't forget also to build other friendships along the way. You never know who might come along in your life, and better things may work out for you...love sometimes works in mysterious ways. Keep an open mind, and see how things develop.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
You're obviously in love with this guy so waiting for him would be a good idea. But that doesn't mean you can't have fun. Enjoy your life. Meet and go out with other people. While you're not yet committed, this is your chance play around. He's probably doing the same thing. With time both of you will be ready to settle down.
@Leigh_char11 (42)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
I've had experienced like that too. I've waited for almost 6 years, I've been waiting for him. But it came to a point where I just realized that waiting for that person you love who doesnt give you an assurance that the he also likes you is somewhat pointless so I decided to let go.
We should be realistic in life but that doesnt mean we have to compromise the idea of believing that we can find true love someday. After all, the idea of love is what makes people happy.
