which one do you choose? your career or your family?

Technically we work because of our family right? I think there should be a balance between family life and work life. Like you said, your job as a financial planner allowed you to have quality time for your son. Maybe you could adjust your lifestyle to you and your husband's combined income when you were a planner... or try to find another job that gives you more time, even if the income is not as much as you would get as an architect. I'm not a wife nor a mother, but I've experienced having a job that sometimes had me work til late at night; sometimes I even took my showers at the building where I worked just so I could finish everything I had to do. When I quit the job, I had more time for my boyfriend and I was happier spending time with him even if I had no income, just my savings. I know it's not comparable to having to choose between family and career like you have to, but I just thought I'd share a personal experience that's quite related to it. We can always change our jobs, but we can never change our family. I hope you find a solution to your problem soon.

you, what do you you would probably choose?? For me, as a mother you should get busy on your family rather that doing those things-working...Yes I know, you would definitely answer me that is's still for them...But when you say to a mother, a wife..Thats a big priority to talk about...Because as the saying says that A mother is the light of the house, it means your priority is to take good care of your children and husband as well..That is just an opinion of mine........

Personally I would chose to stay home with my son. Yes, it's not the same type of income, but $$ comes and goes, and you only have one family. I would sit down with my husband and adjust our lifestyles, since we're use to having two full incomes. Budget, budget, budget is your answer. You can still have a great life with your husbands income and your partial one. Enjoy your family. Besides, you'll get better with time at the financial planner thing.

When I was made redundant after 22 yrs of work, I did not actively seek work for about 8 months, as I preferred to spend quality time with my family. I realized this was important, and then I worked part time. Maybe consider to work part time or find work with flexible hours, with reasonable pay, so that you can spend more time ith your family...

to be honest I will choose my career next to my family priority...

If there is a financial problem, you have no choice, right? In fact that is not you career, just a piece of work to earn money for your family. that's most people work for. Go on working if it is needed for your family, don't feel sad about no time to spend with your son. If the financial problem could be solved without your earning, quit the job. If I were you, this is my answer.

My family is everything to me but I am very conscious of the fact that without my career, I could ruin my famly, so I do the balancing game well enough so that both important aspects dont lag behind in anyway

Family, because there is no possible substitute for the love of the people in your life.

No one ever lay on their deathbed and said I wish I had spent more time at work. If your husband is nto happy tell him to get another job, or make more money or find a way to cut corners until your son is older. He is only little once and you will miss some great times if you don't..and that opportunity will not come around again. I have been there...trust me..choose your son!

It is difficult for a working(career)woman to decide. Of course many women seek job for their livelihood or to support their family. For some, career, means time passing or their interest. However whatever be the reason, when one get the job,she attaches more importance to it because it gives her pride and a status in the society.That is why this question arised. If the career damages family setup, then it is better to safeguard the interest of the Family.

I'd like choose my family because I have a really good family.

look from ur current situation it should be career because nobody can help u in your financial problem, u have to solve it out, but in different circumstances or even ur problem is solved then go for family because womens in house always binds the home, it will be god for ur husband as well as ur childrens.

This questions makes me smile..because at one point of my life, I asked myself this. I choose my family ! I was once in a prime of my carreer in one of the biggest corp in my country and is due for a promotion by that time. Just got married and after a few months my husband ask me to join him here in the USA. One of the toughest decision I have made..as I love my job so much ! But then here I am a full time MOM and WIFE ! sometimes I still missed the corporate life, but then maybe someday it will come again at the right time. Taking good care of my daughter and my husband is the best thing for me. Money will always be needed.. but the amount of time you spend with your son or daughter cannot be bought. But then, you alone could make the decision and no one else. If you can't give up work..just make sure that you spend QUALITY time with your son whenever you can. Good Luck !

I can't say what you should do, since I don't know all of the details of your situation. I choose my family. I stay home with my son and to make it work financially we cut spending. We have tightened the purse strings, so to speak, and things are tough sometimes, especially when something unexpected comes up, but we get by, and it is worth the small financial sacrifices to me to be able to be home with my son. I want to be the one to raise him, teach him what I think he needs to know, enjoy watching him reach all of the milestones of childhood. Unless it meant the difference between being able to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table, I would not even consider going back to work until he is in school. Even then, I need to be home in the afternoons and on weekends to be with him. There will always be another job somewhere, after he is grown, but he only has one childhood, and I wouldn't miss it for anything.

It depend upon situation of a person.If you in hard need of money then you have to compromise with family. and if u love family then you dont prefer job. But in my view one can manage both upto a limit when one's children grow up and they take care themselve.

well i would choose my family 100% NO MATTER HOW MUCH WORK OR MONEY I COULD HAVE,THEY ARE MY LIFE AND I CAN ALWAYS MAKE MONEY BUT CAN'T REPLACE THEM.PATTIE

i will always choose my family. Coz i cant just sacrifice them..logically speaking im sacrificing their future with a good pay in my career , but the thing is i need them around me and that makes me so complete.

Maybe ,this is a hard problem for anybody whose situation is like yours. I am a man ,so I deem the key of this problem is what your husband wants to you to do.If he is able to earn so much money that you don't need to work, or he wants you to spend more time consort with your child, you need not work or find a easiest work. If not, you must work as your present. I don't know I am right or not,only just want to give you somewhat advice

Well,I will try my best to keep them in balance. If I can't manage, I will choose my family. Family is the most important. Career is also for it.

I was working a 8 to 5 job. After I would get off work I would be so tired that I didn't even want to bother with my son or my husband. Then I found out that I was having another baby. I told my husband that I really wanted to stay at home with my children, so he told me to quit my job and I did. Now we are having financial problems and I have to go back to work. I know how you feel. You have to do what you have to do to help provide for your family. It's not like your working and don't need the money. You need the money, so by working you are actually putting your family first. You never know, if you ask you boss maybe yall can work something out.