My friend is accidentally pregnant what am I supposed to tell her - Part 2
By kwenge
@kwenge (2487)
Kenya
November 16, 2007 12:06am CST
Hello mylotters, i was just giving you updates on the past thread about that friend who was pregnant. It was a less than five minutes proceedure and everything was fine. After the tests, the pregnancy was 20 days old. She went back to college the following day. She has learned a lesson. The parents did not know and she says they will never know about it. Did she make a mistake in aborting?
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
16 Nov 07
The ONLY person who can determine if it was a mistake or not is your friend. I personally think she made the right decision and I commend her for her bravery against so many people who think women don't deserve to choose what happens to their own body. I wish her well and hope she has a happy life.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
16 Nov 07
I think she made the right decision if SHE thinks she made the right decision. That's the bottom line, it was a choice only she could make. Be a good friend and be there for her now if she needs support. I hope she doesn't let anyone who may feel they have the right to judge her upset her too much for it's nobody else's business. Bless you both.
Annie
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
16 Nov 07
hey Ann, Thanks alot for your advice. She is happy and contented for the decision she made. Her mind is now clear, she is doing her exams right now. Nobody knows her secrete but me and I promise never to spill the beans. She trusts me. She learned the lesson and she is careful now.
@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
29 Nov 07
Bears repeating. It's okay if SHE thinks she did the right thing. What everyone else thinks doesn't matter. She did what she felt was right for her.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
Hi kwenge , i don't understand. Is your friend aborted the baby then she went back to college. Or she will try abortion because she don't want her parents to know her situation. Me, i will advice her to tell her parents. Rely on her parents first, maybe her parents will give a decision for her because i think she can't decide for herself now.
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@Logicer (13)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
I think she has undergone abortion already.
Right now, her parents may be the best support she can get. However, if I was her, I wouldn't have done the abortion immediately. I would have spent a few days considering what such a big decision I was about to make rather than just selfishly kill a living person because it wouldn't be approved of by society.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
19 Nov 07
I agree with what a few people here have said, the decision was hers to make & i'm sure she thought long & hard before going through with it.
I think it's getting harder for women to have a procedure like this because of all the people out there who just want make them feel bad for doing it - i am glad she was able to make this choice for herself without the pressure from other people.
If it's your body, then you & ONLY you can decide what is best for your situation.
Good luck to your friend.
@GlitterExplosion (415)
• United States
18 Nov 07
I can not say if it was a mistake. As stated before, that is something that your friend will have to decide for herself.
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@nkhanna (922)
• India
16 Nov 07
why did she go for abortion ?i think parents r the best frnds of an individual n we sud not hide anything ofrm them.might b thy cud have helped her in a better way.how is she feeling now ?didnt her boyfrnd wanted that child ?i really feel bad when one aborts her child.however its situation specific for every lady,which i can very well understand.take gud care of her.she needs personal care n love.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
16 Nov 07
"why did she go for abortion?"
Because she didn't want to be pregnant?
"i think parents r the best frnds of an individual n we sud not hide anything ofrm them.might b thy cud have helped her in a better way."
Well then you're wrong. Being a parent doesn't automatically make someone a good person. Why do you think there's child abuse in the world? That poor girl would probably have been kicked out with nothing. Or even worse, forced to get married and have the kid.
"didnt her boyfrnd wanted that child?"
Not everyone wants children. And so what if he did? She's not an object for his personal use. Just because a man wants a child doesn't obligate a woman to give one to him. It's her body, her choice, he has no say.
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
16 Nov 07
Hallo nkhanna, this was just an update of a thread I had posted earlier. The girl was and is still in college, the parents are very harsh on her being the first borne, they warned her that if she gets pregnant while in college they will chase her away and never pay school fees for her. They even beat her up sometime. They are cruel and she did not want them to find out. The boyfriend is also a college boy from a poor family.
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@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
I will just talk about the act. Anyways, through the Reproductive Health proponents, given that your friend understands the consequences of abortion and she feels responsible enough over her reproductive system, then she should be accountable.
