Help With Finding Deadbeat Dads
By kims374
@kims374 (300)
United States
November 16, 2007 7:33am CST
Anyone facing a similiar situation to mine should read this.....there are ways of finding deadbeat dads out there. The first step is to understand how the child support system works, and having an actual order from the court.
These guys are all losers, and should live up to their responsibility as parents!
Read on here:
www.associatedcontent.com/article/446420/help_with_finding_deadbeat_dads.html
3 responses
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
16 Nov 07
But it's not always that easy. The deadbeat dads can find loopholes in the system also making it impossible for the children to get the money owed to them. My olest daughter's father pulled this stuff with me and I never won. He quit paying for two years claiming a disability. He failed to appear for 3 "fconferences but instad of sending out a warrant the kept giving him seond hances. Finally when he did appear he failed to show proof of his disaility so things had to be held over for another month. At that conference he showed up but said his next appointment was the following week so he'd bring his "doctor's note" in then. Throughout all of this they did not require him to pay. Three more months went by without him paying or producing proof that he could not pay. Again they did nothing.He eventally did come up with a note exlaining his suspected condition but the note said nothing about him being unable to work. We were then required to come in for another conference bt again he failed to show up, it was rescheduled two more times before he appeared. At that conference he agreed "out of the goodness of his heart" to start paying once is SSI was approved, they accepted that. Several more months went by with no support being paid. It went to court AGAIN and again he failed to appear for several scheduled conferences each being at least a month apart. His last "stunt" was to suddenly decide (meaning the day before his contempt hearing) that he was addicted to prescription pain killers and anti- depressants and needed to go to an in patient rehab center. Once he returned from that we went through several months of missed conferences before he finally agreed to pay $30 a week from his job driving truck. It lasted 1 month. He has since agreed to not have any contat with his child as a way to not ever pay child support again.
@kims374 (300)
• United States
16 Nov 07
what a shame- I am in the same boat- I dont know how many times I went to court and took off a day from work and he did not show- and they didn't do anything.
he is now missing for 2 years, with arrears over 26,000.00- he really cares about his kids. constantly working under the table.
DOES ANYONE OUT THERE KNOW IF IT IS LEGAL TO DO YOUR OWN WEB SITE (ON BLOGGER) ON YOUR DEADBEAT SPOUSE?
CAN'T FIND ANYONE WHO KNOWS THE ANSWER......
IN HOPES OF APPREHENDING HIM?
@bizmom (515)
• United States
16 Nov 07
so sad these so called men are!!
GOOD LUCK with that i have heard they are great!
unless... they are like my ex - SAY they love them want to see them and then Stand them up time after time... Never show and make up excuses over and over again!
AND the courts still FORCE them to see them!! so sad!
they have since told him where to go!! and how to get there!!
( i didnt raise any fools!!)
Havent seen them in 2 years now - hes seen them a total of 1 year thier WHOLE lives! ( birth to 11 & 13 years!)
He pays child support - but get this $21.25 a month for TWO KIDS! PATHETIC!!
its NOT that we NEED the money not at all! Never did!
hes left his last job without even letting me know and now doesnt cover them with health insurance leaving me to deal with the BILLS that piled up in the meantime not knowing what was going on! had to prove in the divorce papers that hes to cover them but UNBEKNOWN to me he DOESNT HAVE TO!!
lol lol
so now my HUBBY covers them fully rather than JUST secondary!
He wont take me to court because then hed HAVE to pay more! and if i did - oh boy!! he takes that as a *sign* that i want him back! LMAO!! oh please!!
so i ask Whats the use!?
why drag kids into things that they only get hurt by!?
they cant wait till they are 16 to change thier name to my hubbies!
xxx
lol