meet and greet fumble
@corinnethewriter (62)
United States
November 16, 2007 9:53am CST
so, i fumbled. i have been eyeing this girl on the bus for quite some time, but haven't really figured out how to approach her. And the bad part is, as she's getting on the bus, i'm getting off, so it's not like i really time to strike up a conversation. so, this is what happened.
i talked to a friend of mine about what i should do. he said that i should walk past her and give her my number and just leave the ball in her court. so, when i saw her the other day, i panicked cuz my phone is off.
So, what did i do?
"Excuse me, miss. You look really familiar. What's your name."
She eyed me warily, hesitantly responding, "Jasmine. . ." I motioned for her to sit next to me, but she didn't. She was trying to walk past me and it was like I was holding her up.
So, I said, "Oh," and stared straight ahead!
How do I come back from that? What should I say if I see her again? HELP!!!
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
16 Nov 07
You are right you blew it. What you have to understand is you have to plan out every thing so that you don't blow it like that. By knowing just what you will say, keep it short, and have practiced it you will have the confidence to do it.
This is a difficult situation because you are going one way and she another and no one wants to wait will you try to make time with her.
She now may think you are a bit weird so I'm not sure you can go anywhere with this. There really is no need to have a conversation with her all you needed to do was say the following, and you have to do it with confidence.
"Hi, my name is xxxxx, I have noticing you for some time now and find you attractive. What is your name?" Once she gives it too you, which she already did then just say "Do you have e-mail?" She may say no or she may give it to you. All depends upon how confident you are so that she will know you are serious.
However with this girl I am not sure you can go there. You may try some form of it, nothing to loose but you may already be out with her. Only you and she know that.
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@corinnethewriter (62)
• United States
17 Nov 07
that's a great idea, coming up with a little script. although,at this point,i think it may take me a minute to work up the nerve.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
18 Nov 07
Well look at it this way. What do you have to loose? And is the prize worth putting yourself on the line? Sounds like it is.
So practice every possible thing that she could come back with and then be ready for it. The more confident you are and funny the better off you will be. Good luck.
@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
17 Nov 07
Well, over the years I have observed that the relationships you have to work hard to get are the ones that you have to work hard to keep.
I would say that the fact you're always coming while she is going is probably a clue that she is not for you.
One of my sister's best friends was a girl she met at a bus stop that they both waited at during the same time of day, so they had plenty of time to chat. It was relaxed and easy, and even now, years later, they are still best friends.
