Do you choose your husband over your family?

When a person marries and has children, this is considered their FIRST family now. When my brother passed away it was pointed out to me that we came second to the wife and kids. I hadn't seen my brother in 8 years when he passed away, because he chose his married family over his birth family. He thought it best for his family and he did a great job, has a wonderful family, so perhaps he did the right thing. As the other poster mentioned, reason will play a strong role on my decision. I think I would still chose my husband and kids over my siblings. I am the baby of the family and at 45 years of age they are still treating me as such. It wouldn't bother me to distance myself from them.

The answer depends a lot on why I am being forced to choose. If my family gave me an ultimatim, I would choose my husband, hands down, and vice versa. The reason for that is I do not want to have someone in my life who wants to have that kind of control over me that they want to be able to decide who I spend time with. I can't think of any other reason for having to choose, but it would be a difficult decision. I love my family, but my husband is the one I know will be by my side for the rest of my life. Family has been, too, for the most part, but I don't think I can rely on them the way I can my husband, so I am tempted to say I would choose my husband. But, again, it depends on the circumstances.

Well I wonder what could be the situation that you have to choose between family and husband. They are in different degree and I wont consider choosing one from another. But of course there are grounds for everything, once you settle in, you know that you have to live with your husband and live on your own depending on what you both agreed. But it doesn't mean that your family will loose you.

I would choose the family over my husband. That does not mean that I do not care my husband.I will try to find out why make me to face such crisis between husband and family. Maybe my family memebers do not like my husband, I would try to show the merits of my husband to my familiy. I would try not to complain my husband's shortcoming in face of my family.

This question is really hard to answer. I love them both and am afraid to choose. I think it will depends on the situation...=)