punishing your children..... whats your best method?
@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
United States
November 16, 2007 1:32pm CST
I have a 6 year old daughter that likes to act like her 16 year old aunt and it drives me crazy! She has the attitude the mood swings the freshness and the emotions of a 16 year old drama queen. She gets into these moods were im not her mom im her MOTHER and thats that... i swear if you talked to her and saw past her 6 yearness youd swear she was older by the tone and attitude in her voice!
I hate to admit it but sometimes my first instinct is to just want to smack her across the face from the freshness coming out of her mouth, however i do hold back. I try to talk to her calmy and we "discuss" her moods etc etc.. then i get my little princess back.. although its not an everyday thing its just she had a bad day so shes going to be a "teenage drama queen" etc etc...
well i came to a conclusion that instead of removing her "hello kitty" tv from her room that she never seems to watch or instead of taking away her gameboy & games the she realrey ever plays i found that taking away her coloring books and crayons was the worst possible punishemtn i could do to her! LOL it sounds odd that some coloring books and crayons are being taken away as a punishemnet but thats what she absoulty loves to do her most favorite thing in the world is coloring.. who would have thought?
So i was wondering for you parents on "just one of those days" what is your best method of accceptable punishment??
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@syndibee (799)
• United States
17 Nov 07
i'm one who feels that the "punishment should fit the crime"
she's being a teenage drama queen at 6....does taking away the crayons and coloring books (definately age appropriate activities) address this issue...i don't see where it does.
i would limit her time with her aunt. she seems to be modeling after her which is unacceptable. and when you talk to her remind her that she is herself at 6 and you are you...not her aunt and her grandmother so things will be different.
a second idea i'd consider is having her aunt talk to her...on a good day for them both of course...
what triggers her mood swings? what is she doing? address those issues instead of concentrating on taking away priveleges.
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@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
• United States
17 Nov 07
thank you for your resposnse and advice i have already limited her auntie timeand before she visits with her we do have a talk about approaite behavior for her age etc etc.
again i appreciate the advice. thank you
@wendyyuwie74 (68)
• United States
16 Nov 07
Hey , I think what you did or do is fine and good, i have found that the teenage drama queen haunts my house early too I have a 10 yr old that has been at it for a while, so dont feel alone. I think it is something in the water nowadays. good luck
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@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
• United States
16 Nov 07
lol darn purfied water! lol thank you for your response. good luck to you as well!!
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
17 Nov 07
My son used to watch those TV shows with the smat mouth kids. We went for almost a year where he could watch only PBS, Discovery and Animal Planet.
Nickelodeon was the worse, even Disney got restricted unless he had special permission. Sometimes he had the TV on and it did not appear he was watching..but he heard it.
Your 6 year old has a TV in her room...bad idea. My son get a TV in his room when he was 17, he did not have a video game until he was 13. Maybe your daughter is a tad bit spoiled?
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
17 Nov 07
It sound like she is emulating her 16 year old aunt...maybe the aunt should tone it down when your daughter is around. I am sure if you explain the problem to her, she will be happy to help.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 Nov 07
when my kids were smaller, i used to make them sit on the stairs for a time out
now that they are older, we do much the same as you do...our older daughter isnt allowed to go on msn (horrors of horrors -she is 14) and our younger daughter cant go on webkins...
you gotta hit em where it hurts!
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@beutfulmama6701 (1718)
• United States
16 Nov 07
Yes when she was younger id snap my fingers and point to the corner she new she was in trouble then.. it worked until we moved back home with my mother for a year and she saw how my sister reacted... oh joy! lol
I know take away what means the world to them at that moment!
thank you for your response!
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
I used the "face the wall" method on my eldest. And to my second, I just sit him on the corner. I don't spank, hit, or say abusive words to them. After my anger subsudes, i talk to them like a mature persons. And what melts my heart is when they say sorry, kiss, and hug me already. By that, i know we were able to understand each other.
@yellowings (4)
• Nigeria
17 Nov 07
Kid are not easy to handle when thay starts behaving that way, but i don't recormed the tactics you want to employ becuose at the long run you will nit like the idea. It is like stealing a talent, she mind end up looking another thing to fall inlove with this time it might not be something worthwhile so i will advise u try another method.
@ribbon1226 (192)
• United States
17 Nov 07
I think your way is one of the best ways you can handle it. Removing something they love for a certain amount of time is what usually worked best for me. Especially at your daughters age. Of course, it is all more easily said then done.
I know all to well about what the first instincts are...lol. But I would count to ten about a hundred times and then take away their favorite toy or thing to do. I also made them earn it back after a reasonable amount of time, such an apology.
Sounds like your doing a great job.
