How do you make a decision like this?

I have been in this situation many times infact I am to a certain extent now, I don't think you have to choose, all your friends don't have to be best buddies, the sign of a good friendship is that you can go and live your own life and if things are a little strained between certain friends you fade a little but you keep your friendship, I think all friendships step back a bit when someone special comes into ones life, but don't burn your bridges, keep your friendship with "N" and he must be no.1 with you care for him in that way, but step back just a bit from your friends but make sure you go visit them and keep them as friends, no-one should have to choose and a good friend will be there for you but will not intrude in your life decisions...

you said "He's got a restraining order against her because of something that happened." did you know what exactly happened? is this restraining order for real? if this is real then i dont think that you have to be angry to a friend of your and to the fact that this girl is a friend since you were five years old. i think she is just protective and thats the reason why she wants you not be friend with "N". i see the point clearly. for me you are lucky you have friends like that. well this is only my views. if a friend of mine (since i was five) gets really choosy for me having friends i think i need to stop, think and analyze things. i will weight it first. then make a decission. Goodluck. God bless

It depends if you're in love with the guy or not. If you are, never mind if your girlf friends hate him. It's your love life, not theirs. You don't interfere with their love life, do you? But if the guy is just a friend, then it should be easy to choose the girls over him. But then again, as you said, they dictate to you who you should hang out with. That may be a sign they're not true friends after all. You'll have to ask yourself how important is this guy to you.

OK. Just set the point then. I mean, tell them how you feel. And basically, you're not the type who will be imposed by somebody else. You have a life, and you are entitled to certain decisions. You still want them to be your friends, but they have to understand that you do not want to be joepardized just because they feel that the guy is not meant or they do not like the guy.

well if these girls were really your friends they would not make you choose, Set some time for just them friends and stick to it.. than they won't be so insecure about losing you if they actually see first hand that your not gonnaditch them because of dude

you can still keep your friends and simply tell them how you feel... but if you have to choose, you ask yourself who is worth keeping....

This is my life in a nutshell. I have very different friends and most of them do not tolerate each other well. My husband is no different, he clashes with most of my friends. The important thing is to be strong in your decisions and still maintain your friendships with all. However if a friend decides that she or he does not want to be your friend because of a decision that you have made, all you can do is let her or him go. They will come around if they value your friendship and if they don't well then it isn't much of a loss. Your friend may be genuinely concerned for your welfare and not want to see you hurt by this guy but remember SHE PUNCHED HIM and he isn't telling you to not be friends with her is he??? As the saying goes "One man's trash is another man's treasure." So it is in relationships. I have friends who are involved in relationships that cause them more hurt than good times but it is not my place to tell them who they should or should not be with. A good friend is there for you when you need them and never says "I told you so" even if they really want to. I chose to date a guy once that everyone hated. It took a while but eventually everyone respected my decision (but not the guy). In the end the guy turned out to be slime but I had to find that out on my own. Alternately, I married a guy who my friends thought was all wrong for me. I lost a few friends in the process. But my marriage is still going strong after 8 years and those lost friends have been found again. Even though their relationship with my husband is no better. But that is not my problem, I can't make everyone happy. And neither can you, so just focus on keeping yourself happy.

Hi. This sounds like reallt complicated but i think your friends should not push you to choose between them and the guy. I would say the friends are most important, because it is easier to fall in love like find a good friends and someone you can trust, but now I am asking myself if the girl is really such a good friend if she gave you this choice? If she is your friend, she would accept and tolerate you.

No one who makes you choose between them and someone else is a true friend. It's a form of manipulation, and not something real friends would do to each other. It's fine for them not to like all the same people that you do. It's rare that everyone you know in your life will get along. But just because they don't like someone doesn't mean they can dictate whether you see them or not. Though you may have been friends for a long time, and don't want to lose the friendships you have with these two girls, sometimes you need to let go if the relationship is going to cause damage. It can be hard to let go of friendships, but sometimes it's healthier to walk away than to deal with the constant grief.

Thats a tough one I am in a similar situation the only difference my friends want me to hang out with and include a person I don't trust and don't particularly like.. my choice is suck it up and deal with her or lose my friends.. People are so difficult sometimes.. My suggestion to you would be to tell these girls how you feel .. and that you are not willing to choose between them so they either have to accept your friendship or get on with it. True friends accept you for who you are.Just because you hang out with this guy doesn't mean they have to. You might have to make a little effort to hang out with them seperatly I guess. Hope that helps

At first, you neet to figur out why they has missunderstands between each other. And do something or try to solve their problem. Talk to them each alone and altothter. The last thing is you need to say to them they are both your good firends, and you want to be happy to see five person stay toghter harmony. No favoritism between you guys. If it doesn`t work, try to be away from them for some days, check their reactions.