My ex's cousin is bothering me...

Angry.. - Angry at my ex's cousin
Saudi Arabia
November 17, 2007 5:48am CST
I got rid of my ex-BF.. he kept on trying to contact me for about 6 months then he gave up when I kept ignoring him.. his cousin was there for me he was really helpful during the breakup phase... and later on he asked me if I'm willing to be in a relationship with him. I said -of course- NO... he said: "I understand your point of view" and stopped talking about it... then on my birthday he sent me a message and called me.. he sounded weird and a bit flirty I couldn't understand what he wanted... and since then he is sending me messages with words like (baby, sweetie, my life.. and some other flirty words -I don't wanna publish-)... I ignored his messages but he seems like not getting it, I was very clear and told him that I'm not interested in being involved in any kind of relationship with him -not even friendship-... I was advised by someone very close to me to block him and couldn't find the function in my cell-phone... Can you advice me in this??? please...
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10 responses
silver_shaddow
@silver_shaddow (1204)
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20 Nov 07
You are a pretty girl. smart and very nice. You will find TRUCK laods of people doing things to you like this. On behalf of the good men in my community i appologise. But u will ALWAYS be a target of hitting and flirtation, so as every pretty woman in other countries and culture. But my adivce to you, and i know u wont take it, u have to be pushed to take it, is be FIRM and strict about this. as his deadly highness told u, a strict message will do the trick! unless u like being flirted with, thats another aspect.
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
21 Nov 07
I don't like being flirted with x-( as I told deadraven.. I'll wait for him to send me a new message then I will send him one... and I think I'll show you the message so you believe me :p
silver_shaddow
@silver_shaddow (1204)
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21 Nov 07
c'mon..u dont have to verify anything with me. :)
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cupid74
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
17 Nov 07
Hi Dew hope u must be doing well the best way i think to deal with these kind of situation is to have COLD SHOULDER and gave them "WHO CARES " Attitude dont get irritated by him or his messages just ignore him as far as function of blocking is concern, its not available in hand set of all companies. i only see it in K500i, Sony Ericson. i used LG Prada, Siemens, Samsung and even none of them have this option. simple way, dont return his call and delete messages with out reading. just dont get tensed or irritated Take care
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
I think I'll keep ignoring him for now.. what else I can do... thank you very much for your response :)
cupid74
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
19 Nov 07
Thats best way changing number mean u r afraid of him just dont have him encouraging response and only cold response take care and have peacefull life
jglfan101
@jglfan101 (155)
• United States
17 Nov 07
I think the best thing to do is to be completely honest with him one last time. Let him know that you are not interested in being in any kind of relationship with him at all. You should also tell him that you don't appreciate him calling you and sending you messages. Try to be as nice as possible because after all he is human and no one likes to be rejected. Obviously you ignoring him isn't sending him the message and if you want no contact with him you should let him know. Just tell him that you appreciate everything he has done for you and that you will always be grateful for him helping you out through a tough time but that's it that is as far as it goes. If he continues to bother you, maybe you should let someone know, maybe you could even change your number. Hope this helps.
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
I was very honest and polite with him, and he said he understands my point of view... I think I'll just ignore him and hopefully he's gonna get it... Thank you very much for your response :)
barehugs
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
17 Nov 07
This can be a nuisance, but if he is only sending messages its not that bad. If you just keep ignoring him and his messages he will eventually tire of the futility of it all and stop. He will get it, even though it does take a while. Nothing goes on forever! Just be patient and he will stop when he tires of it.
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
You are 100% right.. nothing goes on forever... And I hope he gives up soon... thank you for your response :)
lavenderbloom
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Nov 07
Hi dew, I think you should tell him on his face that you are not at all interested in him. He helped you with the breakup with your ex so that he can have relationship with you. such a .. You should also ignore him like you ignored your ex and stop taking his calls. Nothing works better than ignoring. Take care
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
Yeah I believe in ignoring.... I will just ignore and hope he's gonna get it sooooon :s thanks for the response :)
epoy1989
@epoy1989 (8)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
i think the advised of your close friend or someone and your decision is right cause we dont know of what is the real intention of the cousin of your ex-bf to you...
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
Thank you for your response.. TC :)
gkrisiyer
@gkrisiyer (393)
• India
17 Nov 07
Looks like a case of obsession.As a guy i can advice you to watch your back on this one coz we as a species dont back down once we are crazy about someone.The imagination keeps us going, no matter what. The only way in which you can ward him off is by talking to him in a very polite non-flirty way and make him realise that you dont see it happening between you two. Just be friendly to him instead of blocking his number etc. Drastic measures such as these will only make him come after you more. Hope this was of some help.TC
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
Hi gkrisiyer, I was very clear and polite with him.. I told him that I'm not interested in being in any kind of relationship with one of my ex's relatives... the problem is that he said he understands the point and that I have all the right to feel that way... I hope he gets it -soon- with me ignoring him... thanks for the response TC :)
chaime
@chaime (1152)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
The best way for you is to block him of course, if you can't block him from your phone I suggest you just change numbers. Stop communication with him and in the end I think he'll get the message. If you have been clear to him from the beginning and he's aware that you do not see him as anything other than you're ex's cousin then I think he'll get the message when he can't contact you anymore.
MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
Thank you for your response :)
deadraven999
@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
No need to block him just send him this message let's assume his name is I-annoy [Mr. I-annoy, I do appreciate ur help and support before, but stop sending me msgs of any sort because i am not interested in you. I will delete all ur forthcoming msgs without even reading them thanx]. Make sure you say the last part that u won't be reading his msgs anymore. I guess ur first step is right i mean in the beginning u have to be polite and that's exactly what u did when u said: u r not interested in any kind of relationship. A statement that he should have understood but it seems he did not so you have to be now bold and clear. If he persisted then maybe all you have 2 do is ignore his calls and message, he will give up one day. Thanx Princess Dew
deadraven999
@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
19 Nov 07
Hi there Princess .. I suggest (this is only a suggestion coz Princesses don't take orders huh), I suggest you don't delay the msg thing coz he'll just keep on calling you and sending you msgs. Just to have some peace of mind send him the message, well we can enhance it, saying for instance: Thanks a lot for your support but please stop calling me and sending me messages coz i am not interested. I will neither read nor reply to any messages. Sorry! That i think sounds better, and it is not a good idea you change ur cell number coz that'll make him more anxious to know what is going on with you and it won't make him lose hope, besides all the people you know and all ur loyal subjects or most of them, know this number of yours so why change it because of him? nope Good Luck Our Princess ...
MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
19 Nov 07
To be honest the second message sound much better :D I'll wait for him to try again then send it to him... Thank you :)
MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
I wish I was that brave and send the message.. but the problem is that he was a good friend during my breakup with his cousin, he really helped me get through it... I think maybe I have to ignore his messages and calls for a while and if he kept on calling and sending messages then I'll send him the message... Thank you very much for your response :)
ganga472007
@ganga472007 (624)
• India
17 Nov 07
It appears that you ex-BF is better than his cousin,because he gave up on seeing your discard. in this case you can deactive the cell number and get a fresh one. It is better to seek the advise from senior members of your family
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MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
18 Nov 07
Hi ganga, you have no idea how bad my ex was :p he got engaged, almost married and yet he kept on trying to stay involved with me... he gave up after about 6 months of trying... I told my mom about it and she advised me to just ignore him. Thank you for your response :)