Would you date a virgin
By pboreoheart
@pboreoheart (215)
United States
November 17, 2007 8:39pm CST
i'm 18, and haven't dated.i'm not ugly, i'm actually pretty hot. a lot of not dating has to do with me being a virgin. i wish to remain that way for certain religious reasons. the guys i've met only want to date me to take away the virginity. they don't respect it. so i don't date, but i want to date. where can i find a nice guy, that respects my decision, who is presentable and kind??? who would date a virgin (not offering) just to date them? is there some kind of virgin club to meet other virgins? adrianna lima is 26 and a virgin. i draw inspiration to continue my path from the bible and her. if someone as gorgeous as her can do it (men must be all over her all the time) then why can't i? i'm not following her lead, i'm just proud of her.
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15 responses
@ellen546 (110)
• United States
18 Nov 07
Hats off to you. I'm a mother of 5 girls and to hear someone your age to be a virgin is truly a show of your faith and beliefe in God. Join Church groups and stay faithful. When the time is right you will meet someone who will respect who you are and it will be so much better for you to get to know this person. You are young yet, and have your whole life ahead of you, lots of things to see and do, so don't get in a hurry. I was married at 18, and had my first child a week after my 19th birthday, I wish I had done things differently. Good luck and God bless you.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
18 Nov 07
There is nothing wrong with dating someone who is a virgin. In fact, most people are virgins because they choose to be, or because they have not found that special someone yet. Nothing wrong with that.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 Nov 07
There aren't any kind, good looking young men at your church?If he is a member of your church or at least your religion wouldn't he respect your feelings?He may even going through the same thing you are.Does your church have activities for teens and young adults?
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@prettyhanan (694)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 07
Hello pboreoheart.
Congratulation! You are a good girl. Sometime a good girl who defend their virginity would got a great man that they ever wanted. The God are giving you a test. So get trough the test by patience and you will reward as good as you have trough the test.
Don't worry, I really really sure you will find your prince charming soon. A good girl just for a good boy. Once you got it, make sure you hug it. Wish you a good luck in finding your true date.LOl!
HAPPY LUCKY.
**prettyhanan**
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@marissa0124 (179)
• New Zealand
19 Nov 07
Hi there, just be proud of yourself that you're still a virgin on that age as some teenagers lost their virginity at a very young age. Same with me, I gave up my virginity when I am 23 years old and take note, I gave it to the one I love, my husband. My parents are very conservative and they want us to preserve it until we found our true love. Just take your time. If you want to date, just choose the right guy. Never give up what you have now until someone comes along and ended up with you. Good luck! =)
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
18 Nov 07
if you feel strongly about something and you choose that, well a guy should respect your decisions if they are truely inlove with you, if they cant, then they mustnt care to much about you. if i fell inlove with someone and they didnt want to lose their virginity because of reasons etc well i would accept that. dont worry there are guys out there that do respect your decisions and you will find the "right one"
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@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
At your age, the guys that you're going to meet are all immature. Meaning, they only want to have fun, no commitment, nothing serious.
As you meet more mature men I'm sure you'll find some that know how to respect and will truly love you, not just lust for you. Be patient. You're still young.
@tantal25 (838)
• United States
28 Nov 07
you know, you can date and party up with friends but still can be a virgin. you can date guys, but its really all up to you to decide. besides, if your date wants to get laid ang take your virginity, you can always say no. if he forces you, fight with all your might or ask for help. when partying up with friends, be sure not to drink too much since that will lead to more problems since guys may take advantage of you when you are so drunk. another thing is, keep out of places that are dark and with no people. rape can happen you know.
anyway, congrats for being a virgin up till now. take care always.
- kristal
@jamesarmstrong (251)
• China
18 Nov 07
Is it alright that give all to lover?
you have said you want to date without making love. What make you think dating equals making love? In my opinion, making love only means the lovers want to offer their body for love. If you love a nice guy and want to offer your life to him, why you do not accept offer body to him?
I think if a nice guy love you so much that want to offer anything to you, he will respect your dicision. Once you fall in love, you will know that virgin means nothing.
but you are only 18, so good luck, I hope you meet a nice guy who really love you, you know, lots of guys do everything for making love with you.
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@fanji008 (775)
• China
18 Nov 07
Hi,there! I think it's a personal decision to be a virgin or not.One should be responsible for himself/herself. If you think it's better for you to be a virgin,then you can go in your way. If that's good for you,why not keep it? It doesn't matter how other people think about it cause they're responsible for themselves but not you. I agree that you should find someone who really loves you but not only your body.Keep on and I'm sure you'll meet your prince:) Best regards and have a nice day!
@primesend (85)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
Different strokes for different folks. The key here is to find a person who share your likes also. So if religion rocks your boat, be sure to date also a religious person. Otherwise, your gonna clash, and that wouldn't be good for everyone involved.
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@hilloketty (28)
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
Just have patience dear... That right man will come. Maybe not now, tomorrow, or the next day but have faith. He will come. A great woman deserves a great man. Don't be in a hurry to date men. Your still young.
@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
19 Nov 07
No I wouldn't date a virgin right now, because I'm already married. LOL I bet you didn't expect me to say that. haha But seriously, virgin or not, it wouldn't matter to me. My husband was not a virgin when we met, but if he was, it wouldn't make any difference to me at all.
