Don't Wish For Shattered Dreams

Yes Sweetie they have My Marriage I always thought that for once in my Life I would get Love and respect well I didn't and for 21 Years I put up with it Now I have that love and respect even though my lovely Man and I do not live together I have it

My dreams turned into horrible nightmares may years ago but thankfully those days are in the past - very similar to your situation my darling brother! After that though things got a lot better - sure it took a few years and a lot of tears in between but just cos your dream turns to dust once (or twice) doesn't mean that it is doomed for the scrapheap! xxxx

sorry about what happened to you. i hope you coped up somehow and happier now. you are right. be careful what you wish for. but sometimes, we just love to wish so much... happy wishes and we don't think about consequences. yup. i had such wishes which came true but were shattered after sometime. just like when i wished that my family will atleast have more money and it did come true. my dad have so much business and are all doing good. and so, we were all happy. but did not know realize that consequences are out there. you know, women... and my family's shattered now. it broke my heart. my parents are now separated. my mom and brothers are doing okey now. it's just sad that it needs to happen to my family. it proves that money isn't really everything, huh? anne

When I was a lot younger I dreamed of a wonderful life, with a wonderful relationship, lovely children and a happy home. I got married to a man I believed would be *the one* and we settled into a tiny house in a strange town and I made the best of it. I had my son and still believed that things would be the way I had always dreamed, but I gradually came to realise that I was wrong. The man I married cared more about his Mother than he did about me and his son. If I complained he would storm out of the house and go to his Mother, when his only child was taken ill, he wasn't there, he was with his Mother. I had to compete and came a very poor last in his priorities. It took a lot of guts and a lot of help and support from friends before I was able to break away and although it was incredibly hard going, I managed it. It is so very difficult to do but having taken that first step I was able to walk away and build a new life for myself and leave the shattered dreams firmly behind. Now I have met someone who wants the same things that I want and is prepared to work with me, as a partnership, to achieve those wishes and dreams. So although my dreams were shattered and torn, there is hope that this time things will be better.

It is often the case, wolfie, that what we wish for is not what we need. It has happened to me more than once. It just proves that we shouldn't pin all of our hopes and dreams on the ability of someone else to bring us happiness. We are much better off if we learn what makes us happy, what we enjoy and get the most pleasure from, and then go about making ourselves happy. I think that is the only way things can fall into place the way they should. We should never give up our search for happiness-just realize that no one can make us happy.

Sensible topic here... my problem usually is that i dont go after my dreams..you know i grew up with everybody saying me how smart i was and how i would have made all those great things..yet as today i havent accomplished much just because i eased myself (as a young boy) thinking that everyone was right, i was smart, and thatw as enough, someday somehow i would have got everything i wanted. Obviously that hasnt happened so have to say that no, so far my dreams havent shattered, simply because i have few of the things i dream of..sadly.. however i'm working on it, i'm glad that i'm chenging the way i thinh in the last few years..now i know that with some effort i will get to accomplish some of the things i wish for myself.

Yes my friend, this has also happened to me. My self esteem and ego have also been damaged. All I ever wanted and believed in was to love and be loved but I was taken for granted and abused. I believe now, I'm no longer capable of loving or being loved, but I'm content. Love your new avatar by the way....good attitude...lol.

Thank you for the best response hun. You look really relaxed in your new pic too, looking good :-)

It has been my experience - hard won experience I might add - that every time that happens it is actually an opportunity to fine tune your desires or wishes... to examine more closely exactly what it is you are asking for. Sometimes that involves being more specific, and other times it involves releasing deep, often 'hidden' beliefs that are affecting the current situation. In my life right now I am living in the middle of a situation that I think perfectly illustrates what I'm trying to say. A few years ago I was disgruntled with the whole 'work a day world'. What jobs I could find usually sucked, and frequently I couldn't even find a job that did that! I struggled to pay the rent every month and was often behind. I began passionately wishing I could live somewhere that I didn't have to pay rent. Well, I got it. And don't get me wrong, I certainly appreciate it, but what I got as well was crummy neighbors, an unsafe environment for my pets... basically a house, a neighborhood, and a town that I would NEVER have chosen on my own. I have discovered on close examination that ALL of these negative aspects were a result of negative hidden beliefs, and that what I really want is to be free and self-sufficient. And it took being here, in my current situation, to realize that. I want to live in a friendly neighborhood, where neighbors don't threaten the lives of my pets. I want flatter ground so I can ride my bike. I want grocery stores that don't take an hour to get to, and then an hour to get back. I want good plumbing and a reliable source of heat. Hehehe...get my point?

I'm living one right now. About 12 years ago I wished I had someone to love and to love me. I met that man and he is now turning out to be a big mistake. He has turned to gambling and has gambled away everything I and he have worked so hard to get. He is now in therapy for his problem but we have to either start all over or I have to leave him. I'm very undecided right now and I am hoping to get some answers to my problem through therapy. The other day I head a song about this exact thing and I really began to think about it. I think I wished for something that I shouldn't have.

Yes, many people often dream fantacy, they make a very very high aim for themselves, but they don't make effort, or they make effort, but they won't achive their dream. What a pity! And maybe some one will say what you can't own, what is the best. But i prefer the dream i can achive.