To Ignore
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
November 18, 2007 4:55pm CST
Refuse to notice, is all I got from my little pocket dictionary. But, I need to go a little deeper than that. Disregard, give no attention too, walk away, pay no mind to, shake it off, let them be, avoid, do not respond to.
I do not like to ignore people and I hate to be ignored. But, I am finding that sometime it is needed. So that means that I need to work on my pride. You see lately, this person that I hardly know has been verbally attacking me with a whole bunch of B.S. Some how, she feels that she has the right to.
But, instead of me ignoring her, I have been playing right into her hand and allowing her to get a rise out of me every time. Giving her the satisfaction of attempting to ruin my day. I say attempting, because you can only get me going for a little while and then I go right back to my normal self and forget about the situation. I choose not to let anyone have my day.
But, I need to work on that part of me that is so prideful that I feel like I have to always say something back to put her down or defend myself. I know it is just the devil working through her. I figure maybe if I write about this, the next time it happens, it will not seem so unexpected and I will be prepared to ignore her and not feel like I have been caught off gaurd.
I feel that it is pride that makes us feel like we have to defend ourselves against what others say about us, even when we know what they are saying is not true. We do we do that? I really half to grow in that area. Because, whether what they say is true or not, it is not going to change who I am.
I have been tested in this area many times over the years. You would think that I would have learned by now. Yesterday I was talking to an aquaintant about what had just happened and she said, Why don't you just ignore it? I thought to myself, Yeah, why don't I just ignore it. That is when the word pride jumped into my head.
Now the Bible says that God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. It also says that pride goes before destruction. God also hates a proud look. Hey, I better work this out fast, God is very clear about his feelings on pride. I need to get the victory on this one and quick.
To all my Christian friends, I ask that you pray with me on this issue. I will keep you updated. I know that I will be tested in this area again. Do any of you get caught up in pride sometimes? Are there people you need to learn to ignore?
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@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
19 Nov 07
You need to learn to think quickly, and give her responses that will leave her with her mouth open in shock! I don't mean nasty, I mean where the stituation is turned around or you say something witty instead! I would also ditch this person as a friend. They aren't worth your time and energy! You see, you have something they want, and they will do everything they can to make themselves feel better, as they know they don't have that 'thing'. I'm talking a personality trait here. You must be such a wonderful person, and they are jealous of that.
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@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
20 Nov 07
I don't know what else you could do then.
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@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I will be keeping you in my prayers, and I agree just ignore her she has some issues and must feel to make herself feel better she needs to put others down, stay strong you will be a better person for it
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I sure will pray for you and of course I get caught up in pride sometimes. I think if we don't we're not human. Just allow yourself to be proud in knowing you're able to rise above this person and not fight back or defend yourself because you know you have nothing to defend, you've done nothing wrong! Hang in there and it will get easier, I know it will!
Annie
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
Hi Rozie37! Rest assureed that i will be one with you and our other friends here in praying for you. Just be strong and be patient at the same time. Do remember that if you allow her to get into your nerves, she will be very pleased with that. So don't give her the power to get into you. Take care and have a nice day. :)
@dreamleaper17 (702)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
"A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult." - Proverbs 12:16, NIV
"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." - Romans 12:18
I've learned that in order to find the peace that I want, I'd have to be at peace with myself and be "it." To manifest peace, I need to inhale peace and exhale more of it.
How do I do it? I look for the tiny silver lining and give the offending party the benefit of the doubt. I've also learned the 'art' of asking "I beg your pardon?" instead of an inflected "Excuse me?" when somebody seems to be irate or condescending towards me. Ignoring them also meant the absence of any emotion (blank expression) towards them whatsoever, like they were complete strangers or totally inexistent.
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