What are deciding factors for you when choosing someone for a long term

I look for someone who makes me happy - not just some of the time, but all the time. Of course, even the happiest of couples fight, but I've learnt not to stay with someone if it means you're miserable for 90% of the time. Materialistic things just don't matter, especially as these things are so changeable. People lose their jobs, lose money, looks fade. Personality and kindness are so much more important. Plus, I'm able to take care of myself. I don't need someone with a great job, or lots of money to support me. If there's something I need, I can find a way to get it myself - which makes the process all that much more rewarding.

No, since they are getting divorced, that means they are finding someone and then something goes wrong.What would make me decide that he is the one? we connect. I understand him and he understands me. We should have a lot of things in common but we wouldn't need to be Exactly the same.He must have a sense of humor. But I have no idea what he will look like.

i do believe that it's always best to go for compatibility. looks are not forever and money can come and go (we can work for it, too). but to find someone who you can be compatible with is a bit too difficult. so, when you find one, that's really one good factor. you donät have to be compatible with everything but atleast, have some wonderful characteristics in common or hobbies in common. it's only by being compatible you can easily understand each other. anne

For me there are two basic questions: 1) Will she be a good wife? Meaning, will she love me? Will she support me? Will she be faithful to me? 2) Will she be a good mother to our children? If the answer to the above questions is yes, then I can marry that woman.

I am not influenced by looks and money,most people look good and also have money but cannot make good life long partner. I consider good character, understanding,four sightedness, hard working and caring.Good looks or no good looks, money or no money,partners of the above qualities will not think of divorce,rather life will be blissful for them.

hello!i m an indian .here we consider marriage as an institution,union of two of two souls.in our society parents of boys and girls arrange marriage.in the process they of course they take in to account the looks, money,status,cast, religion etc.and then the marriage celebration solemnised amidst relatives and friends.so, in indian society marriages fail in rare occasions.cases of divorce here is very few.i think this system is quite good.

I don't primarily focusing on looks, money, etc. What I want to see is what's inside the partner's heart. I just really like a person who I can put my trust and also that person is kind, willing to commit a long term relationship and willing to accept my weaknesses. I am now married to a not quite beautiful lady and she's just so trusted and have very kind heart. My own piece of advice to you, don't choose a person with "wolf inside a sheep's clothing". Make sure you have to thoroughly know that person before you can continue the relationship. Don't haste yourself but to take more time. I'm sure that you'll have no regret if you can carefully consider your partner.

This is a tough one and long term is the key factor. For me it's a balance of things. Physical attraction, financial stability, how they interact with my family, etc. I've settled too many times thinking this or that would change, but it never did. No more settling. I recommend an "I want" list of all the desired traits you'd like in a long term mate and keep looking until your list is 80% or more satisfied. Put your absolute must haves at the top and things you can compromise on at the bottom.

My ex husband had no job throughout our whole marriage. So he must have a job. But besides that as long as there is a good connection and we have good chemistry, some similar interests, and we get along good. If I put looks, money, and all the superficial things as something I need I might have missed out and ignored the right one.

hi.definately something is wrong in the method that people use to find the soulmates.i would go for a person who firstly should be very honest and faithful so that i can confide in him.he or she should always be reay to be with me in my odd times as well.Secondly i would see wthere that person respects me and my feeling or not.is he or she the noe who imposes their will on me ?and if one can find these 2 things in a single person then its bound to be happened only in the case when one loves each other.

I don't get influenced by society's standard in any way. Choosing a partner is what i consider a very personal thing even my family is supposed to be hands-off on it. I like my would be partner to be trustworthy, respectful and religious. I can only love a person who deserves my trust because i know he will not do anything to hurt me or the relationship. He has to be respectful of my family especially my parents and elder members. That's one of the most important virtue here in our country. And last i want him to be religious also like me. I believe if we just make God the center of our relationship then we will be blessed and nothing can go wrong.