Need advice..

New Zealand
November 18, 2007 8:08pm CST
I have a friend who's been married for 8 years now. They have difficulty having a baby. She's been under medication and have tried methods on how to have a baby but still unsuccessful. Her doctor says that she still have chance to have their own baby if she'll go on operation which will cost half a million ($100,000 if converted to USD). But this is only 60% chance. They have that money but how about their other expenses. Their house, food, mortgage, insurance and a lot more. And the fact that there's no assurance after the operation if they would really have a baby. This is what bothering her for how many months and can't think of solution to their problem. They really want to have a baby. She's considering the operation and other than they are thinking of adopting or a baby maker. She's asking me an advice on which to choose among the three. I am also thinking about it. I want the operation coz I am still hoping that they would have a baby of their own. She might ask help from their family and friends for financial assistance but Im thinking what if the operation didn't work. I just want to think positive and hope everything will be ok. If you were my friend, what will you choose? Need your advice. Thanks in advance..=)
1 response
@lizabeth (666)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Have they tried going to a fertility doctor? If not maybe they could try that first. I've never been in that situation and I know its got to be hard. Maybe they could get a surrogate mother or adopt. I mean thats a lot of money to pay and there is no guarantee. I really don't know what I would do in that situation. Good luck to your friend.
• New Zealand
19 Nov 07
They have tried this before. They've been trying many methods since their 4th year of marriage. So its been a long time now and the operation will be the last sort. They are thinking of adopting coz I think this is the easiest way compared to hiring a baby maker, it will takes time and she's bothered on it as her husband will of course have an interaction with the girl but at least the baby came from her husband's blood. Well, really don't know what to tell her. I am too can't decide what to choose..=)
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@lizabeth (666)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Yeah, I can see how you are in a bad situation trying to figure out what would be the best thing to tell your friend. I wish you luck!