Loss of a loved one

We all grieve in different ways and for different lengths of time..My children just lost their father this Sept the 22nd, and they do adored their dad...I am having a very hard time with it myself and to watch my children grieve is a horrible nightmare.We were married for 38 years,and our children are young but all grown up and married, we have a daily battle with his loss.All kinds of feeling are present at this time...My oldest daughter was angry at first and she still cannot quit crying, she was angry because he left her, and he was killed on a 4 wheeler, while having fun, it was a horrible accident and completly unexpected , since he was so healthy and so alive one minute and gone the next..We all cry a lot and are still having a very hard time believing that he is really gone..I do know that crying helps, and talking about it helps, but sweetie it will take time..You will always miss your daddy, but in time you will overcome this really hard part..I lost my Mom 2 years ago and that was hard, but this has been worse, because Mom was really sick..I miss her everyday, but time has really helped me.I can give you some advice though that might help you, just cry and show your feelings and do not hide your grief, that only prolongs it..Talk to your daddy just like he is here, tell him everything, and just pour out your feelings..They have a web-sit called www.memories.com. if you go there and open a memorial for him, you can light candles for him daily and download pictures...you can talk to him daily..This has really helped our family.Its just a suggestion...I think it will cost 39.00 and it will be forever, and 26.00 is for just one year, we did it forever..God Bless..I do not know what to say,its a very hard thing...I do not know how long you will cry, because we are all different...

Since I still have both parents I can't really give you advice except to say that I too love my parents very much and I dread the time when they will have to go. That is truly sad, but it happens to all of us. Each of us has his/her time. We just have to love each other well. That way there are no regrets.

I think you will always have times that make you sad because you were lucky enough to have a wonderful Father and you will always miss him to some extent. It is natural to feel sad that you can no longer have time with your Precious Father and as your child grows there will be many times when you will wish he were there to share moments with. I have lost both parents in very difficult circumstances and nearly four years on I still can't deal with it, so you are doing really well. All I can suggest is that you be gentle with yourself, have a cry now and then because it really does let out some of the grief and gradually the pain of the loss will diminish. The song is about a different thing, love, but the sentiment is the same we choose the best things to remember "the way we were" and in time it is those memories which will come more frequently, as the years pass. I know the next few months will be difficult, they always are when you have lost someone but it does get easier with time and your child will distract you from some of the sadness. The look in their eyes when they see festival lights etc will pass on to you. To be honest I would not have got through the first few months, let alone the first Christmas without my parents, if I had not had a partner beside me. All I can say is that next year we start a new business and look for a new home and although I still cry most days there is a lot to look forward to and by filling my time I have more or less got through. The other thing I found helpful was not to "build up" special occasions, but just to see how things happened on the day. You DO miss them but you can select TV entertainment wisely for example. Anything that is a bit of a tear jerker will start you crying, so try for the abstract and the comic, and don't start the day thinking that you can't get through without them, but rather, try to imagine that they are there enjoying the day with you. Imaging my Parents are enjoying the day with me, and the support of my partner, I would reckon are the two most helpful things that get me through the day. I think I have rambled a bit here, but I hope some of it makes sense. I do feel for you and I know that at the end of the day there is nothing anyone else can say or do to help the pain, it just has to take its course and the love that is still there between you and your Father will carry you through.

Hooo i am so sorry to ear that... how long does it take for the crying to stop.. only time cures has ppl say... but you will allways cry cause it was someone you love. I did also lost my grandfather witch was my best friend... it already passed a few years..and i do still cry... cause i miss him... its nothing wrong to cry for the ppl we loved and lost.

Hi mommy_money! like you, i'm also a daddy's girl but i'm quite lucky that my Dad is still alive and kicking until now. One of my greatest fear actually is losing him. In my every prayer i always ask for him to have a healthy and longer life as like you i know i'd miss him so much if ever his time too will come. I've long been planning to work abroad but i can't because of him. I can't imagine being far away in the event that he's sick. I love him more than anybody else and i know he knows it. Anyway, i hope you'll be able to cope up soon. It's really hard to lose a loved one, much more a dear father at that. Stop crying and move on. Just be content in the fact that he's now in heaven and at peace with God.

your dad have had a long and healthy life, and he have bring you up,dna now you have a happy life,i believe,he must very pride and satisfact with what he have done all through hie live,so it was the time for him to have a rest,so he has gone to heaven to have a good rest,you would thank him and wish him more happy there!

I am really sorry about your dad's loss. hope you become more stronger as the days go. My prayers are with you so that God can help you in this tough time. God bless you and you get all the happiness in life that your dad must have dreamed of.

it is really very tough to cope up with the loss of a parent. parents are the most near and ear ones and for a truly caring child, their loss is irreparable. Hope you will soon able to cope with it.

I loss my mammy daddy,my daughter also I am in very bad condition.I like my all people.

I was also a Daddy's girl and I lost him 19 years ago to a long illness. Believe me that was the worst day of my life and I'll never forget it. He was the glue that held my family together. lol..he was the glue that held me together I think. I totally lost it when I lost my Dad. I can say it does get easier as time goes by. We learn to live with it and we always carry him in our hearts. I have to admit that even now, 19 years later there are times when I think of him and cry but it's not as bad as it was in the beginning. Holidays are always bad but this year I've decided to get my whole family into the holiday spirit whether they want to or not and it seems to be working. I'm so sorry you lost your Dad and I totally understand how you feel.

The loss of someone you lkove is hard.. It takes time to heal in your heart specially if you some good memeories of him everywheree in the house. it takes time to heal the wound but you have to move on..losing soeone makes you strong to fight and not just sit in the dark corner and cry.