How long would you wait to move in with someone you love?

I don't think you have to be married first, but the trouble with moving in too soon is that once you start living "like a married couple", the convenience of it may override your true feelings. If you're only somewhat into the person, you could end up in an unhappy marriage down the road. Only you know when the time is right, but I would only move in with someone if I would absolutely without a doubt marry them some day. If it's iffy, then I'd wait. Trust your instinct.

I haven't been married yet and at the same time haven't tried living in with a partner. I live in a catholic/christian country and my moral and religious belief tells me to get married first. I believe doing so would give spiritual blessings to me and my partner.

My husband and I met and moved in together almost immediately. 11 months later we got married. 12 months later we had a baby (which I told myself, at the time, was not the reason we were getting married). Things moved fast. Too fast. The whole relationship was moving at warp speed from day 1. I definately think couples should live together before getting married. Preferably for at least a year. When you're in love and things are new and exciting, it's easy to rush everything. My husband and I have been together for 26 months now and our daughter (the *real* love of my life!) is 12 months old. We are still together but we've been through some pretty rocky patches, and it's a struggle to make it work. Things would've worked out a lot differently if we had taken it slowly.

Hello jen, im from the Philippines and have been raised in a catholic school with very devoute parents and now im a born again christian nd moving in with my boyfriend would not be in my list. I have regarded marriage as a very sacred matter and living in is really a taboo.

I am the kind of people who think the couple needs to get married first. The point of view does mean that I disagree that lover should move in. After all, some times together could bring more affectional commuication. What's more, you could know your parter's habits in his/her life. I admit such merits listed above, but I could not bear to move in with people who I have not been married with. Usually I am very sensitive and I might think if the guy just take advantage of me. After he is tired of me, he would leave me. Maybe such worry is very very stupid, but it is hard to get rid of such thoughts from my mind. Based on these, I am not the person who could try to move in wiht my lover before marrige. Wether you could move in depends on yourself. I think if you are kind of people who do not care about such things or if you very very trust our relationship, it is ok to move in with your lover. However, if you are kind of person who always are haunting of such worry, I think you should not be so harsh to move in with your lover. Maybe my though is not very typical for you, I wish you would have some sense from it.

I feel like if two grown adults love each other and want to move in with each other that they should. I know this goes against the Bible but I think all couples should live together before they are married because you really never know someone until you live with them. I think it would be odd if two people were in a relationship with children and didn't live together...but that's just me. Unfortunately life doesn't always go the way we want it so I currently have a child and I live with the father. We are not married yet though. If it offends other people so be it. You can't please everyone so you have to please yourself. Good luck. Have a great day.

By the time it is evident to me that we are ready for marriage, i make my moveand this should not be less that two years of careful study of the person I want in my life.

I've had bad luck with the move-in thing... this time around I'm living on my own until there's a wedding. Around here guys think less of you if you move in with them outside of marriage... I don't know how it is there, and I had to learn from experience personally.. Good luck!

On the day we get married. Serious. I don't want to play house with NO ONE unless we are Mr and Mrs. Call me crazy, old fashioned, whatever. I see a lot of folks playing house, and when they break up, it ain't pretty. I know one coworker had an altercation with her live in man and it got ugly. That's what I want for myself? look, if I want that, then let me Mrs so and so. Not Ms So and so and no protection whatsoever. Yeah things might funky, but at least the laws of God and man are on my side. Peace.

I think that it is different for every person. I met a wonderful man online Feb. 21st of 2005, he flew to see me in March of that year, we lived 1600 miles apart, and after that week together, we both knew it was right. I moved 1600 miles at the end of April 2005. So, was it too fast, well it wasn't for us. We are still together 2 and 1/2 years later. He met my family and my daughters while he was there, and they were all supportive of my move. I had only chatted with his daughter until I moved up here. She is great, and after the first weekend together, she wanted me to stay for good. I don't believe that couples have to be married first to live together, I've been through divorce, more than once, and so has he, so we aren't even discussing marriage at the present time.

I think that there is a certain amount of information to be learned by living with someone before being married. It is a good way to observe their personal habits, talk about money by sharing the bills for a shared residence, and how other daily things work out. (Can he/she see you first thing in the morning with no makeup on, and still think you're cute?) In my life, I am not a fan of surprises, so I think that living together is usually a good way for people to aquaint themselves with the whole person they're in a relationship with - not just the best parts that get shown on dates. The bad side to this is that you can learn some things about the person that may be deal-breakers, but that is a risk that comes with the experience. And having someone move out is far less messy than a divorce, in my opinion.

That is a really hard question to answer. I think it would be different for each person and each couple. I don't see anything wrong with living with each other before marriage. I'm glad I lived with my husband before we got married. There were some habits he had that I really needed to make sure I was okay with before committing my life to him through marriage. I do think it is different with kids involved. I would not take living together as lightly because it would confuse the kids if the relationship did break up. My husband moved in with me after we had dated for about a week. I know- it sounds insane, but it worked for us. We had been friends for about a year before we started dating, so we pretty much knew what we wanted before we ever had our first date. I think you feel what is right in your heart and can only make decisions for yourself.

That depends on the situation, how long have you been together is important, cant move in when you been together only 2 weeks. If you have children you wait till the children have expressed that they like him. Marriage would be a better time to wait till. The biggest thing is what are their habits and do they mesh with yours, many move in together and find they liked him or her better in their own house. Distance would make a difference because I would not date someone who live far away and certainly would not use that as an excuse to move in together.

I honestly don't think the time is the same for everyone. My boyfriend and I are about to move in together and we've only been together for almost a year...we were friends before that though. I think the only thing that matters is that you love that other person and that you both can get along enough to make it work.

I have never been in a relationship but in case that happened, and I was very sure she loved me back like I do, then I would move in with them as soon as possible. I am this guy who thinks that love conquers over everything, that in case we were in love, then we would work out every problem or issue as it arose. Wish it is like that.

generally for me it really depends on two people how thet handle it the important thing is they love each other. if your asking for my own opinion getting married first :)