What do you do when your husband/wife doesn't like your best friend?
@sarahkskeeters (235)
United States
November 19, 2007 12:24am CST
Would you stop being friends with a person to avoid conflict and friction in your marriage? What if he/she was your best friend of many years? Assume that your friend did not do anything in particular to make your significant other dislike them (nothing of any consequence, at least). How can you get your husband/wife to like, or at least accept, your friend? I'm sick and tired of arguing about it!
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@talisman (1300)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Of course I wouldn't stop being friends with a good friend of mine if my husband didn't like them. Something like that should never cause friction to begin with, that'd be silly, so stopping wouldn't prevent it. You can't prevent something that isn't there. It they had a real reason for it, I'd definately try to work things out, though. It all depends on what that reason was. If this was really happening with me, I wouldn't try to get my husband to like or accept my friend. That wouldn't be right. However, he'd have to accept that that person IS my friend even if they don't accept the friend themselves. My husband loves me and respects my decisions, so I know he'd do that for me.
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@sarahkskeeters (235)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I agree that it should never cause friction, and I try to make sure it doesn't, but any time I mention her name my husband picks a fight and brings up the fact that I loaned her money over a year ago and she still hasn't paid me back yet. IT'S NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL THOUGH! She's my friend, she needed help, and I helped her out. I['m sure if the situation had been reversed she would've done the same for me. It just so happens that she struggles a lot more financially than we do. There are friends of his that I'm not exactly crazy about, but I don't argue with him about them. I don't need my husband to like my friend, but I think he should respect our friendship no matter what his feelings are. It really drives me crazy, though, and I'm sick of fighting about it.
@sarahkskeeters (235)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I agree with you, and I wish it were that simple for us. It SHOULD be, but it's not.
