What would you do if you have a secret that is dying to come out?

Oh wow. I've never been in this situation, but if I were you, I would tell my friend about what I saw. You said so yourself, she's the one who's your friend, not him. It would probably better that she knows about it now that she's not married to him yet, then decide what she wants to do, as opposed to her finding out about this when they're already married.

I think you should tell your friend, to be honest. I mean, I know, there's a fair chance she either won't believe you, or won't want to accept that her fiance's obviously got some stuff to hide, but you have to at least TRY and warn her, right? Otherwise, you're always going to wonder if you could've done something to stop it, and you'll never know if your friend's made the biggest mistake of her life.

that is a difficult situation you are in. it's not easy to keep a secret especially when your friend is the one who is going to be hurt. i understand your dilemma. but i think you should talk to both of them. talk to your friend's fiance and tell him that what he's doing isn't right. you should try to make him understand that your friend is supposed to know the truth and that she deserves to know. then, talk to your friend about something she should know but... only his boyfriend can tell him about it and not you. atleast give her an idea that something's going on and that she should ask her boyfriend about it. i know it's too difficult to be caught in between. but the only way for you to feel better is to choose a side. anne

In a situation like this, I try to give the person a chance to explain it to their partner themselves. So when he asked me to keep it a secret, I would have said "I'll give you a day to tell her yourself, and then after that I'm talking to her." I think of it this way because I think it's always better if someone confesses and asks for forgiveness than if the partner has to hear it from someone else. However, I would eventually tell my friend. I wouldn't play it up. I wouldn't make a big deal of it. I would just say "I say your fiance holding hands with a girl, and he seemed upset that I saw him. You might want to find out what's going on." I know I'd rather my friends tell me these things than not, especially if I were engaged and not yet married. It's the best time to decide whether to stay in the relationship or not, rather than wait to find out the guy is a cheater after marriage.

This is very serious. They're already engaged and he's cheating? What kind of a husband will he be? You have a duty to your friend to tell her. It doesn't matter how you do it. But she has to know. It doesn't matter too how she reacts. You know in your conscience that you tried to protect her, you told the truth, and you were concerned for her. If she doesn't believe you then she will be the one to suffer the consequences. She will be the wife of a cheating pig! Some day she'll come back to you and appreciate that you tried to warn her.

You have to find out the courage to tell this thing to your friend. You should be loyal to your friend first. If I am in your place I should convey this secret to my friend.

Oh my gosh, I wouldn't even have to think about this one. I would have called my friend directly from the mall, right after I saw him with another girl. If she is your true friend you should tell her. I mean, would you really want her to stay engaged to this man and possibly marry him when you know for a fact that he already is an unfaithful man? I am sure you would want to know if it were you in that situation, right? Yes, I think you should tell her ASAP, she deserves to know.

About this problem I will tell my family true,and I will tell that happend so long time before it is do not take sirius for us,do not worry.

Right, I would personally tell my friend if I was in the same situation, simply because I know what it's like ot be on the other side and I remember how difficult it was trying not to get angry because my friend knew my husband was cheating on me and didn't tell me. I'd give him a chance first though. Tell him that you will tell her unless he tells her first. And then, if hes doesn't, tell her. It's not fair to let her go ahead and possibly marry this person whilst all the time he's screwing around behind her back. It's not fair on her and it's not fair on you either. He shouldn't have been so public about the whole thing, because if it hadn't have been you that had seen it, it would have been someone else! At the end of the day, the decision is yours, but you have my advice. Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

If i was you, i would denfinitely tell my friend. This is not a right time to keep silent. It will be much worse to keep your friend unknow what kind of person her fiance is.It will be too late till she find out herself or someone else tell her for she might have married the guy. Tell her earlier before you feel guilty on their wedding.

i defiently agree that you need to let your friend know about this, as soon as possible. As a friend, it is your duty and you never know how it might affect your own friendship later on. Maybe when you mention it to her, make it less of "i saw him cheating" but more of a "ohh. i saw him at the mall yesteray" and let the conversation continue and just natrually let it out.

You owe it to your friend to tell her. Why would you want her to make a huge mistake and marry this person? If he is a cheater now, he will cheat on her if she marrys this guy. He obviously doesn't love her if this is how he is treating her. That is what I would do.

If she won't speak to you because he told her that you were the one that wanted to delay telling her or not tell her at all, you need to ask her, why would I not tell you? What do I have to lose from not telling you, your friendship? You could lose that either way if you didn't tell her or if you did. Then you need to tell her that you gave her boyfriend the advantage of her hearing it from him first and then if he didn't tell her you were going to. Tell her that you thought it best that she hear it from him rather than you so you gave him the chance to clear it up himself and when you gave him that chance he didn't like the fact that he had that threat hanging over his head and decided to use you as a scapegoat and make it look like you were the one that didn't want to tell her. Tell her to not lose focus on the fact that it is his behavior that is up for question here not yours. He was seen with another girl holding hands in a different city, what does that say? That he has something to hide. You were an innocent bystander that was in the right place at the right time had it not been for you seeing what you did this would have never been an issue and he would still be doing what he is doing and probably still will in the future. Tell her to look at this as an early warning sign that this guy that she is thinking about marrying is not the marrying kind and will probably do this to her in the future. If she takes your advice than she realizes what a true friend you are being, if she doesn't and decides to stay with this guy, than there is not much that you can do and she will have to learn the hard way.