what will you do if you lost a loved one?
By riveream
@riveream (111)
Philippines
November 19, 2007 3:57am CST
well, for me, it is very hard at first to cope up after losing someone that is so special to me. i have been in a relationship with a guy for 8 years. it all started when i was in elementary. and i was 10 years old at that time. we met at a party of my friend. we even did not know at that time that his parents and my parents were close. And our relationship started as a sham. we both agreed from the very start that our relationship will be a sham because he said that he hates it when girls -even stranger- calls him everyday especially at night time. at first, i didnt believe him. so, i dont care! as long as I have him acting as a boyfriend-even if it is a sham- that all right for me. but when his mom told me,after finding out that we are in a relationship, that there are many girls calling him everyday in the past. his parents treated me like i am their new daughter. i feel blessed. i just do not know how our sham relationship became a real relationship. but then, he just died in November of last year in some parts in San Francisco due to car accident and at the same time drunk. it is really very hard. i do not know what to do!!! Then, my bronchial asthma became worst during the month of November and December of last year. i do not know what to do. my medical expenses are so expensive. i am just glad that his parents also supported and help me financially with the medical expenses. During those times when i was at the hospital, i just want to die. it is really hard to live when you losed someone. i just smiled to people even though deeep inside it still hurts. my phone is not ringing anymore. there is no one to tell me that i can do it, that i am strong, that makes me laugh. i will appreciate your reply. thanks.
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7 responses
@scottmann (5)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I feel your pain, riveream. In July of this year I lost the love of my life in a horrific car accident, ending a 15 year relationship. I had spoken with her on the phone just moments before as she was getting ready to leave work. I ended up quitting the job I had because my employer had me work the day we buried her. I've not been able to find steady work since. Everyone says that you just need to move on and start living again. I look out the window and see the bright orange leaves on a tree in the back yard and wonder how they can have changed already. Time for me just stopped in July. I do believe in the Biblical hope of a resurrection and I do hope to see my loved one again. That's what gives me the strength to get out of bed each day. Just hold on.
@riveream (111)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
I do not know what to say... 15 years in a relationship... it must be really hard for you. but for me, even if it is just for 8 years, it really hit me hard because he was my first love and my first boyfriend. but i can say that i am moving-although little by little- on right now. with the help of the lord, i'm sure that i can...sooner.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I have already been through this. I drank after it happened and I became depressed. I had to see two therapist, and read many books and comic books/graphic novels to help me get through it.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
That is certainly one of the worst things that happen in life - losing a loved one. As long as you loved him well you shouldn't feel sorry. Hey, his life would have been miserable without you, right? So you were a big chunk of his happiness, and he wouldn't want you to be sad right now.
So what to do when I lose a loved one? That would be too late. The time to act is now. I will love them like there's no tomorrow.
@paulit03 (93)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
as for me.. i will feel pain.. of loosing her.. we live life.. and life is full of surprises which we must face.. that's why in a few days later i realized that nothing will happen if i will continued hurting my feelings. that's why what i did is that i tried to be strong and look for ways that i could get over with... but despite that friends are always there and being with them will surely give you a strong and renew life.. that's what had happened for me.. though. you must be strong and face the challenges.. and learn from it.. i'm sure that you will understand what had happened those days. don't be so sad for that because where here and we are ready to help you.. just smile. take care
@riveream (111)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
its a good thing for you that you have friends that are always there for you when you need them. as for me, i do have friends. but the relationship that i have with him is so private and so personal. his family and relatives and my family only knows our relationship. my friends and my classmates knows that i have a boyfriend but i even cannot tell them his name. they do not believe me. but i dont care, because our relationship is kinda confidential.
@atchmon (140)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
All you have to do is move on and look forward.. you are strong.. that is if you want yourself to be.. I am sure that your loved one wouldn't want you to be sad forever.. Im sure that where ever you loved one is, he wants you to be happy.. Good luck on your life.. :)
@bong_domingo (878)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
hey... you can talk it out with me... i mean if you feel like sharing, you're always welcome :-) i hope you've slowly recovered from then...
