Martyrdom..

Well, I am in a way become a martyr with my former husband. I guess there are times taht we have to be a martyr in a way because we have to give love a chance. I love my family, and I love him, and I want to ave our marriage as much as possible. I have learned that he had an affair with another woman, but instead I still lived with him and forgive him many times. I am hoping that he would change and he will be back on our family. Years have passed and nothing happens. So I decided to let him go after I have learned that he was already living the other woman. Loving someone is ok but we also have to love ourselves, no matter how hard it is, no matter how painful it is, if we know that we have to let go, then it would be better if we do. Because love sometimes mean letting go... The moment we give our best to make things work, the moment that we grow tired, the moment that we learn that it is not meant for us... then we simply have to let go. In time we will find the reason why certain things happen... I never regret though I know that I failed to save our marriage because I know that I did my best. And I wont regret it, because I know that things are not meant to be.

i wonder to which "that" refers in the song :-) well there are still a lot of that kind. I'm not really sure or just that i don't understand why go that far without any promise of being loved in return... i mean don't you think it's that hope of being loved in return that causes one person to go that far... and without that hope, i just don't know. But unless it's that noble kind of love where you're truly happy at seeing the object of your also happy, even if its means happy at someone else's arms :-)

it depends on what is your definition of martyrdom.for me ,keeping silent when you are at the receiving end is great martyrdom,when it can be the other way round.and you get much accolades for it.

hi raijin. Before anything else, what's up with the comment section in your profile page? I can't post comments and it's been more than a month. Anyway, I still want to respond to your discussion even if I was loved in return. My case will just deviate a little from your question. Before I finally settled down into marriage life, my relationship with my then, boyfriend who's my husband for six years now, was somehow difficult. You have asked how far I would go for love? And oh, can we skip the part of "being not loved in return"?:) I was engaged to him for five years and let's say during those five long years, I can say that it was more on my part why our relationship survived. He wasn't the man who would woo me on a daily basis with flowers or whatever romantic stuffs a woman usually dreams of. But because I love him deeply, I have stayed in that relationship. He didn't cheat on me and I know. But he did hurt me countless times with his indifference and insensitivities. During those five years, I have shed tears because of him. And there were several occassions wherein I have asked myself why I still stick with him. When there were times I have those doubts how much do I really mean to him. I guess, I could count myself as one of those "Martyrs of Love" :) And in my case, I would do anything for love but I won't tolerate him cheating on me. When we were still engaged and now that we're married, I have always told him that if he ever makes the mistake on cheating on me, it will be his loss. Because he had chosen to destroy the two things that should have mattered most to him. His wife and his son. And I won't hesitate leaving him, no matter how much it will devastate me. Ok, raijin, I'm now finished because I'm starting to sound like a heavy drama movie. lol!

There is. And I think it is foolishness.

i believe we have to conpromise some times! ihave seen so many spouse,the one they most love may not be the other,bat when they get married,their are responsibility for them! and, they learn to conpromise,to live with the other,to lead a not perfect but happy life!