Do you have standards?

I don't think there's a right or wrong answer. Everyone just has different styles on what they want. I think holding a very high standard is going to cause a lot of problems if you're looking to get a relationship. To be quite honest, for me anyway I usually try to figure out if I can get along with them. Even if they are toothpick skinny and what you want, there is no guarantee it will work out if you don't have much in common. That's what I think anyway but what do I know. I just think differently and try not to be real selective.

I have my type yes, but if someone came along who was not physically just my type I would not care. What I want in a man is intelligence, warmth, caring, not rich but able to look after himself (and maybe a wife), good sense of humour. If he has all these qualities I would not care what weight he was. I think the character of a person is worth so much more than what they look like. The man I am going to marry is skinny, and that was never one of my "types" but everything else about him is. If I had said know to him because of his weight, I would not have met my soul mate.

I have a few standards, but not many. The man that I am with reflects the kind of standards that I have. I really do not care much about the physical appearance, I am into a man's mind.

well u cant have a relationship with her if ur not attracted to her right?...there has to be attraction.lol and he is obviously not attracted to that type of girl.we all have diffrent things that makes us like a person.

my auntis just the kind you sad,so she is 36,but still have no boyfriend,so i think you are right,we must realistic at some extent.life is not just as what we wish to be!

My brothers are just like that (or atleast one of them) He would only have a beautiful girl, with a model like figure, really nice, obedient and easy DX We joke we'll have to get him a mail order wife soon because no real girl will ever meet his standards. I guess my standars are pretty high. I love him, he's kind, funny, caring, loyal and honest. Good looking is a benefit ;] To be honest I think guys should lower their standards~ most are pretty ugly themselves!

Everyone has standards. some people have them set to high, though. I personally have standards myself, we're all shallow to an extent. It's not wrong to believe that what your neighbour is doing wrong, I'm sure he'll find a girl who meets his criteria, but he might have to settle with some other things he may not want.

Yes, my simple criteria are beautiful, not to fat or thin, intelligent, humorous, sensitive, emotionally stable, honest, existentially aware, compassionate, loving, original, pragmatic, prudent, and of course rich would be nice, ha ha ha ha ha h ah aha ha all the best urban

You are not wrong. To be so shallow as to insist that your mate meet certain standards, especially when it is physical, overlook the single most important thing in a relationship. Personality and heart should be the measure we go by not physical. We are bombarded however with the idea that if we can't attract on of the beautiful people there must be something wrong with us. To be seen with someone not considered the classic beauty somehow lessons us. So in doing that we miss the very person who could be our soul mate. What a shame it is.

It's not at all surprising this guy doesn't have a girlfriend! That's so amazing how the least attractive people seem to consider themselves worthy of someone who's gorgeous. I would guess that if he doesn't make some changes he's going to grow old alone, and I think that would likely be the case even if he were the hottest guy on earth. He's obviously very shallow and women who are beautiful on the INSIDE will see right through that. I agree with you; it's good to have high standards but not when it comes to superficial things like looks and weight. More like wanting to be with someone who's compassionate and honest. Looks fade, people get older and few have the body of a beauty queen past a "certain age". Annie

Of course I have to be physically attracted to a girl in order to pursue her. It doesn't mean that I set high standards because every person has his/her idea of what "good looks" means. She just has to be my type. As a matter of fact, I don't find toothpick skinny (the likes of Paris Hilton) to be sexy. That's not my type.

My standards for my future partner is a bit high. My friends told me that this is the main reason why i find it hard to pick the right guy. It's just that i don't want to enter in a relationship just for the sake of having one. I want some real love-a real man.

I do have standards, but they're pretty common ones. Like he doesn't have to look like a Greek god, but not hideous either. He has to be smart enough to be able to carry on a conversation. And he has to be hardworking so that I know he will be able to provide for himself and eventually for a family. But I agree, relationships should not be based on looks alone. It takes so much more than looks to establish that special connection with someone. And your neighbor should probably think twice about badly wanting to have a good-looking girlfriend when he himself is not good-looking. No wonder why he hasn't had a girlfriend for a while.

Everyone has some kind of standard when it comes to finding their mate. Most people go out searching for their ideal mate and only comes back with a less than perfect mate. But on earth no one is perfect. Some people only are concern with what they want and not what they need and far be it that they can't see themselves. What I mean is that he might be ugly to you but in his eyes maybe he is the cutest guy on earth. And who knows maybe there is a crazy girl out there who will find him to be the cutest guy on earth too. Beauty is within the eyes of the beholder. Beauty is also only skin deep. True beauty lies within, what is on the outside will soon disappear. Hope that helps hehe.