I need an advice
By LadyLudie
@LadyLudie (359)
Philippines
November 20, 2007 2:20am CST
I have a problem about my youngest daughter,I everything she is always opposed to my decisions.It is very difficult for me to convince her,I moved to Manila for my job I rented an apartment and so of course she is with me,I told her to find a job and even her brothers are advicing her to work so she could help me for our living,but she always refused,later I asked her for what reason why she doesn't want to apply for a job,and she answers me that she doesn't want to work in Manila instead she wanted to go back to our city and work there.I can't allow her to stay alone in another house because I am afraid she would make a mistake again in her life.She is tough with her decision that she want to go back to our hometown,I don't know what to do with her,I can't leave my job coz this is my only source of income.Please help me
4 responses
@shooting_star (384)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
How old is your daughter and what are the mistakes that you are afraid she might make? I understand that you can't leave your job but I also understand her side, how she wants to go back to her hometown. I am actually kind of in the same situation as her; I also want to go back to my hometown and work there, and my parents are okay with it.
@LadyLudie (359)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
she is already 24,but her mind is like a teen ager.she can't even decide right for her life,one mistake is enough for me because that mistake is too much and too much to bear for a parent like me.
@LadyLudie (359)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
she is already 24,but her mind is like a teen ager.she can't even decide right for her life,one mistake is enough for me because that mistake is too much and too much to bear for a parent like me.
@shooting_star (384)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
Wow, we're exactly the same age. But what was that one mistake that was too much for you to bear?
@estergamad (16)
• Philippines
22 Nov 07
Hello LadyLudie, first you should pray you for your daughter for her enlightenmnet. Maybe you could share your feelings why you are staying in the city, your aspirations in life. Make her feel that she is part of your plans. Share your problems with her. Talk to her like a friend. Ask her what are her plans in life. Try to reach her. Don't impose your authority. Get into her inner most feeling. Maybe she is not yet used to the living in the city. She is adjusting herself. Maybe she does not have friends here. She used to country life. Know her likes & dislikes. Start from here & invite here to go around the city in malls for example so she will appreciate living here in the city and later on look for a job. Maybe she has a boyfriend whom she left. That's why she is not interested in Manila. Well, understand her & talk to her nicely so that she will be open to you.
@floramwaters (1595)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I have to ask to what was the mistake she made? Legaly she is a adult and you can not stop her from moving back. You just have to hope that she has grown up and will not make the same mistakes. When I was 19 Wanted to move out on my own and my mom was totaly against it but she knew that she could not stop me so she did not fight me. When I fell face first in the ground she told me that she would help me just this once and that was it she picked me up and put back together. That was the worse thing for me was that I had to admit that my mom was right. She may need exactly that a wake up call to see that some times mom knows best.
@noriko (1254)
•
21 Nov 07
wow you are treating a 24 year old like a teen. i started to live alone when i was 18 and of course there are trials and discission making along the way, if you wont let her do that on her own i dont think she will learn.
