Why I can't be happy

hello tainpai! i hope this response finds you in better health. you know, i used to be an unhappy person. despite my prayers being answered, i am still unhappy and having bouts with depression. it was being i was not content. i kept longing for things i don't have and circumstances i am in. eventually, God made me realize that and He helped me get over that negative attitude. now, i am learning to appreciate each day, whether i have work or not. you see, i work freelance and it is not everyday that i have a job. i used to worry a lot, but now, i instead take the time off to rest, and do some stuff that are not moneymaking but are worthwhile. i learned to enjoy time with family and friends and i make time to enjoy things--even just watching tv. tainpai, we each have a purpose in life. if we know our purpose, we will be a lot happier and fulfilled and we look forward to achieve that purpose. find out what is our your part to play in your part of the world. God bless! :-)

Here are some things you can try: 1. Exercise 2. Take some time for you to relax 3. Read something enjoyable 4. Take some executive B tablets 5. talk to someone who knows you 6. Write a journal 7. Consult a doctor if you're still not happy, you might have a chemical inbalance.

To be honest, I used to be like you guys, who always thought that "if I had this I would be happier." Then God bopped my head and told me He wanted me on His team. Today, I still want lots of stuff, I still have lots of goals. But I can enjoy each day as it comes.. Because I learned to be content. Because Jesus taught me how to be content in the moment. :D

I think I know what is wrong with you friend. Though you may not tell anybody, I think someone whom you loved a lot has deeply hurt you. It is only when we are deeply hurt that we don't find any happiness any excitement and any meaning to life. There is someone with whom you want to talk and clarify things.........there is someone who is not making any effort to understand you........you are lonely deep inside your heart........you are depressed friend.......is my guess right.....do let me know.....I cannot help you, but at least sharing will help your heavy heart to feel a bit lighter.......

I think, you're not a pessimist. Maybe you should put your life a meaning. Basically for me (because I'm trapped at the middle of hapiness and sadness), I can't be happy because I have a lot of reasons to be sad. If I have my reasons to be happy, I'm happy. Very simple in theory, but not in practical.

Can I ask you a question that what you goals for,for yourself,for your parents,or for any others? I am happy when I call my dad. I am happy when I cook with my mom. I am happy when I talk with my friends. Only if I feel that people around me are happy,I am happy too. Being happy is simple without too much thinking and too many goals to reach.

try Jesus.

Well, you achieve all your goals but did you take time to enjoy them? I mean, there are times taht we are too busy achieving our goals and dreams in life but once we achieve it, we just keep on dreaming on something more, because of that we find it hard to enjoy what we have. Sometimes contentment will make us happy and enjoying the things that is already ours.

Thats not true everyone deserves to be happy in this life.. we all have to be happy..imagine the world with so much sadness and all the people are as sad as you.. just picture it and i dont think you'll think you will be happy too.Cheer Up as life is ups and downs..

yes , i think you are a pessimist.maybe you should contact more new and interesting things.you can do some sports or other things you like when you are free.and you should content with your lot,feel more sunshine and green trees and pretty flowers and those pretty girls beside you .haha```` you can develop your interesing and habitats. maybe you also need a dynamic love story with someone!!

Hey Tainpai, My life was in shambles I mean my family was falling apart, there was a lot of arguing, fighting and so much hatered for each other. It resulted with me moving out of the house and leaving the state to Florida where my brother lived with his family. I stayed there for a couple of months looking for work and trying to start my life there, all failed and we couldnt get along our strong personalities were bumping heads. SO I came back to nothing living in my car for a few days and getting the nerve up to ask my cousin to stay with him. Thank God for him being so gracious, but I couldnt stay there long and he wanted me to go back home, but I pledged to myself that wouldnt happen. I was so down and depressed cuz I had no money, no food, no place to call my own, just me, my car and my sister. I couldnt register to go to school again so I knew I'll be missing the fall semster and that devasted me, I was at my wits end. I had no place to go so I sucked it up and asked my parents if I could come back. Surprisingly and open-hearted they said yes. When I enter the house there was actually peace and tranquility like I knew something had changed, To make a long story short. Beause I gave my life to CHrist my life has been better than it has ever been. He has been tremendously good to me. My family is back together closer than ever before, no fighting, no fussing no hate in my heart it just went away and never felt such peace in my life. The Lord has been taking care of me and he has always been looking out for me even when I was out in the world. I just thank GOd that he saved me from my misery. Putting your life in GOds hand you will find peace, love, joy happiness like you never had before. His love is not like any other human being once you give your life to him you will know what Im talking about. You have no worries, whatever you desire in your heart all you have to do is ask him and you shall recieve. He gave me a verse John15:16 YOu didnt choose me I choice you and whatever you desire in your heart you shall receive if I just call on him name. I pray that you will give your life to Christ I guarantee you it will be the best decision yo will ever make in your life.

You'll be happy if you are satisfied.

I can feel that you are very uphappy . Maybe you dont like what you have , but please think that your dream came true. you work hard . although you say that you dont have your own house, i believe , you can have your own house later , please believe yourself .

Hello, i have the taotal same feeling as you, i had many dreams and most of them have come ture, but i am still not happy. I dont like my job, i dont have a relationship which i dont care, Now, i even dont know what i should do and what i want to have. Sometimes i just want to sleep and forget all the things, but thats impossible, because after you wake up, all of them will appear in your brain and sight again. I shouldnt say that life is meaningless, but at the present, i really cant find a way that can make me happy!

I don't feel like I am truly happy either. I always said I'd be happy if I had my own house. Now I do and I am not happy because I can't afford to fix anything that needs fixing because the mortgage is killing me and I get no help from anyone. I am always obsessing over money. I have even been toying with the idea of selling some family heirlooms to pay the bills and maybe get a bit ahead. I sure wouldn't be happy then. My current "I'll be happy when..." is when the stepson moves out. I guess we'll see. It may be a very long time. He has no education, no skills and no gumption.

Life is not always what we want it to be. There are reasons why things dont turn out the way we wanted them to be or wish them to be. Its a matter of having the heart to be able to see beyond life's failures. Scientists have tried thousands of trials and errors with their experiments yet they say that they have not yet failed.I hope that you will try and try until you get what you wanted or the other way around. The problem in lifeis not when we fail and have pains, the real problem is when we stopped trying and just think and die in our tears and think we no longer have hope. AS long as theres still life, theres always hope. Have a nice a day and happy mylotting.

I believe that a person needs to work at being happy and that you are the only person who can make you happy. I was just discussing this at work today and although we don't like our job we have to have a paycheck and we have to have money so we might as well work at enjoying the time we are there and making the best of it so that we can be happy. I also believe that you have to want to be happy. I think that a lot of people look at life and see what they don't have when we need to see what we do have and learn to like it and make the best of it. We only have one life and we should make the best of it. I think if you have something to say to someone then you need to say it. Don't wait or don't hold it in as you won't be happy.

the way to be happy is only in your hands.. It's just that.. being happy is to be satisfied with what you have and what you are.. and you cannot do that without God's help.. Just pray to God, and let God to touch your life.. have a happy day.. ^_

It seems to me that you are trying to have your goals define who you are and are lost because you have to decide who the person is that is trying to achieve those goals. Simple psychology.