U ever fell in love with your friend's ex?
By deadraven999
@deadraven999 (1386)
Saudi Arabia
November 20, 2007 5:12am CST
Do you think it is ok to fall in love with a (woman/man) who had been your best friend's ex for awhile???
Did that ever happen to you? Please share your experience and views explicitly here.
5 responses
@silver_shaddow (1204)
•
20 Nov 07
love is blind, love is stupid, love is pain, love bites. Anything could happen at anytime.
I would NEVER do that. Being my friend's EX would give me MORE motivation to stay the crap away from her. I wouldn't move in to my friend's left overs. and i certainly would NOT wanna hurt my friend. too many suspicions, too many questions will arise from MY friend. Even it has broke up, it doesnt justify any move i would make or make things right.
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@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
21 Nov 07
Love bites, damn man you reminded me of Dep Leppard's song. U r right about that coz making that move would result two things: Hurting your friend as well as suspicions surrounding the whole thing. I myself passed through an experience like that and believe me it was neither fun nor sweet. But as they say $h1t happens.
Thanx a lot my friend for the response ...
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
25 Nov 07
Hi there...
I have a friend who fell in love with her friend's ex. I think it's ok if my friend is ok with it and if I know the reasons behind the breakup and they both agreed on it...
if my friend is still in love with her ex I'll never get close to him.. I will never hurt my friend's feelings :)
@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
25 Nov 07
I agree with you, You could only go for it in one condition which is: things are over between your friend and her ex completely, and you being sure that your move won't hurt your friend or what so ever.
Thank you for your valuable comments.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I feel that being that it was your best friends ex why would you jeopardize a friendship to be with someone that they have already been with. I have never found myself in a situation like that an I hope that I never do because it's ridiculous and very self-centered. I honestly would never feel that it is okay to do something of that nature. An also I feel that if a guy would be that naive to go out with his ex's best friend then he has just as little self respect as the best friend does.
@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
21 Nov 07
Well I would not say it is being ridiculous and self-centered all the time but sometimes as they say love is blind, it is maybe lack of experience or let's say being hasty, I agree with you that such move jeapordizes the relationship with ur friend and many other problems may occur as well.
Thanx 4 ur response.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
No i did not happen to me though, it happened to one of my friend in college and it gave him all the heartaches and pain coz this girl..turn him so down and said you and your friend are the same.. what the girl dont realize is he loves him better than how she was treated by the friend.. funny but what to do she did not believe the guy then sorry for her. Or maybe they are not meant to be thats why it happened who knows.
@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
21 Nov 07
Usually such experiences don't work, some of them do of course, but generally many problems arise either between the new couple or between the two friends, whether it is a woman and two guys or a guy and two women. I don't know maybe the first combination gives more headache but all in all it is not fun really.
Thanx for your response.
@SpankMe (68)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
hmmm. my boyfriend of a year and four months now is actually my friend's long time crush. i was actually surprised when he asked me out instead of my friend. but before i said yes, (he's so cute!) i asked my friend if it's actually ok, and she said yes. it wasn't that much of a big deal for her cause we are adults already and all that. :)
thank god she was ok with it. or else i'd be missing this!
@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
21 Nov 07
I guess u all dealt with it in a wise manner so things went smoothly. But unfortunately that's not the case with many other people. My experience wasn't that great with it. Thanx a lot for your response.
