It bothers me

Don't lose your mind by thinking of that situation. If you don't have any bucks to spend for him, then don't buy it. Even though you have some, also don't buy. Guy like that have no future to be with. Sometimes, we have to be selfish to not to allow people bully on us.

No one should be putting the value of a relationship on material things. If everyone did that then no one would stay married after a week. A relationship should be about love and trust. You should talk to your boyfriend about what he said and let him know that it upset you. Hopefully he will apoligize and explain that he wasn't saying that to hurt your relationship.

I would pack him off back to his ex. He sounds like a user to me and I wouldnt feel hurt If I was you because you cant provide him with a cushy life style! Matter of fact he should be doing these things for you !

I don't think that helps. You don't have to buy anything to keep your relationship going. If you do that, you don't love him. Just make him feel that you love to each other is better than any other precious things out there.

Is your bf ok? I mean why he is asking so many things with you and he wants you to buy that. Is he serious? Is he really in love with you? I'm sorry for my word. And first of all he don't have to compare you with his ex the nerve of him. If he loves you she will accept for who you are. And you don't have to oblige yourself to buy him things like that. If he wants that then he works for it. The important thing in a relationship is LOVE and Trust. You have to talk to your bf about your problem.

If my partner compares me with his ex, it will hurt me badly. Was he serious and in a sober mood when he was saying so? do you and his ex earn the same? I think you need sit down with him and clear things out, let him know that you are a totally diferent person from his ex and thats why he is with u and not her. He loves you not because of material but because you are who you are.

you know, no woman should put herself through that. i really think you deserve better, girl. that guy is looking for a sugar mommy, not a relationship. better rethink your options because you shouldn't have to put up with that kind of dealings. he is actually using manipulation on you. you seem to have a bright future. face the future rather than a user guy.. sorry for the intrusion, but i checked out your blog, and... girl, piece of unsolicited advice. the truth stared at you. no need to take revenge. move on. if you could handle forgiving him, best. but save yourself heartache later. your future is ahead of you. look towards that rather than this... thing. God bless you!

hey i tell you that you bothered for a rifht reason as no body like sto compare. tll your boyfriend that no two things are same even no two twins are same.so tell him that his ex girlfriend is past and that is only in hey memories and you are his present and he should learn to live in present. and still he doesnot understand then i think it wold be your time to decide.

Hey gorgeousd, why is the girl suppose to buy things for the guy? Is he lazy? Here we guys usually buy things for the girls, that's okay if he wants something, but he must be able to get it for himself then also? Dont be jealous of this, ask him to purchase some nice things for you, and maybe he is kind of boring too, just tell him to discuss something more important...good luck ot you.

Relationships are not about material items. They are about being there for one another, trust, communication, and being that person's best friend above anything else. Materialism should be the least of concerns in a relationship.

Hi gorgeousdreamer! I can understand your situation. If the material things are more important to him than you then you should dump him because he is not worth you. All the Best.

Honey,i keep on telling all those who care to listen love doesnt have to hurt when you love the right person.cant you see this guy is still attach to his ex am not saying you should leave but be wise girl and use your head.

If I were in your place, I'd be really bothered too. It's just unfortunate that he's comparing you to his ex-girlfriend on the basis of material things and that's not good. And besides, he's a guy but he's expecting the girl to buy expensive stuff for him? Isn't the guy usually the one who buys stuff for the girl? I don't think material things should be the primary basis to keep your relationship going, but he's being unfair to you by comparing you to his ex. I hope he realizes that there's a lot more to love about you than just the ability to give him stuff.

I would tell him ph okay she could buy u thoes things. well then go be with her!!!!!... or scare him tobeleive hes doing that is ganna amke u loose him. mabey he will stop:)

it is never right to compare someone to another person. each person is different. if he compares you to his ex girlfriend that way and ridiculing what you can't do for him what his ex girlfriend can afford to give him, that is obviously not love. when you love someone, you respect that person and that your boyfriend should respect you, too. he did not have you as a girlfriend so he can have someone to buy him stuffs but because he can't live without you because he is inlove with you. if your boyfriend continues on doing this to you, be frank and ask him shy he is doing that? you don't deserve to be treated that way. anne

Frankly, I would be upset too and worried. He shouldn't be mentioning it if he isn't bothered about it. And if he is mentioning it because he is bothered and wants you to buy stuff for him, then you better be careful, girl. I don't even understand why people have to talk about their ex in a relationship. The ex is the past and it's better to mention that some ex existed and push it out. It should never come in between a couple (for whatever reason).

Wait a minute did you say buy him stuff? Tell him to man up. Go get a job buy himself the stuff if he wants it that bad. why make the girl buy it? Why would you want to buy it for him. I can see that you buy him stuff for bdays and such but just keep buying him stuff because he wants it? or that his ex use to. Maybe there is a good reason why the ex is an ex. She got smart and left real fast. If he is in a relationship just so that you can get him stuff then that is not a relationship worth keeping. Just my opinion. Good Luck.

First of all, ask him why you guys are together in the first place because if his ex did so much for him, then why didn't you guys worked it out. Second of all, love is not base on matierailistic things. It's what you two feel when you are together and when you are away from each other.

I am sorry to hear that.

First ,I'm sorry to hear that .He is really wrong .He should'nt do like that .But if you forgive him and care about him a lot.I think he will be moved.