What do you do about rude responses?
By copperkitten
@copperkitten (3473)
United States
November 20, 2007 6:16pm CST
Just curiouse what you do if you recieve a rude response to a discussion. I had this happen in a recent post. It was about a post being deleted {i have never had one deleted} I had accomplished a goal and made it to 1500 posts. I made a discussion about it and it was deleted but others have similar posts that arnt deleted. Well this lady responds and says Im concieded to post about my self. That in her words "The world will nor will my country declare a national holiday, nor will balloons fall from the sky onto your house"
I felt it was uncalled for. I wanst trying to be all about me it was intended to be about goals. I told her I thought her comment was rude and she didnt even read the post that was deleted.
What do you do when someone is rude to you in a discussion. Do you say anything, Rate them neg, report them, or just leave it be?? I just commented back nicely and will leave it at that.
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24 responses
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
21 Nov 07
lol...there are sooooo many out there like that. Talk about being full of themselves to say something like that to someone! Maybe she hasn't had been laid in awhile lol....! I try and I mean TRY to disregard the rudeness I get here but if I find I can't I do just like you are doing and discuss them hoping to shame them. I doubt it works because they obviously have no shame but it makes me feel better. I wouldn't give them a negative in fact I gave someone best response for being rude one or two times! I wonder what they thought about that one!
@jeanbug23 (992)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
When I'm a newbie here I feel agitated, but as time goes by I did not receive anymore rude responses. I just think you can't please everybody and anyone is entitled to his/her own opinion.
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Goobers here, Goobers there, Goobers, Goobers Everywhere!
They are all over the place!...I'm sorry, people like that just pi$$ me off! I can't help it.
She knows absolutely nothing about you, and yet she can say all that high and mighty crap, and THEN, she uses the word US?????....Like we're all her friends....ugh, nobody messes with the Terry and gets away with it, haha!
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@copperkitten (3473)
• United States
21 Nov 07
LOL. Thanx for the laugh. Your always good for one! Ya she should have just kept the comment to herself.
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@megumiart (3771)
• United States
21 Nov 07
The first time I got a rude response I retaliated...& it got ugly. LOL. But since then I've ignored them.
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@stanzi2007 (602)
• United States
21 Nov 07
dear copperkitten, you just stay strong and hold on to your own good self values. the rest of the meanies can just go and jump in a lake!!your NICE and never doubt how nice you are. take care of yourself, stanzi
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
24 Nov 07
If I feel the person didn't understand what the original post was about, I politely try to explain it to them. However, if the person is just being rude for the sake of it, I just ignore them. There is no reason for me to sink to their level because they were ignorant. I take comfort in the fact that if they are being rude to me, they are being rude to others here. If that is the case, then their rating will go down, and a lot of people won't respond to their post, which means they won't have as much earning as others.
You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
21 Nov 07
lol...I think that is a very well thought out response...just ignore it...lol!
@youless (112481)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Nov 07
That's OK. I will let it be. There are many kinds people in the world, we can expect that everyone is nice and kind. Some people are just rude. So I don't want to spend my time argue with such kind of people. Once I talk back, it'll create more fights. So I will choose to let it go, and the rude people have to shut up. As you know, one person can't have a quarrel.
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
21 Nov 07
What your doing now is what you can do to let yourself feel like it was "dealt" with. After that just ignore them. Things go around naturally and it comes back to get them eventually.
I.E. "If you go looking for trouble..."
They will get it in the end from others as the natural balance of things. Smile, and stay who you are and don't sink to their level.
=^-^=
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@mekala (10)
• India
21 Nov 07
if some people are rude. leave it and think they only know this much. but for those whom we are going
to keep in tough regularly make them realise that what they did was wrong. Even on top of that they are like that ignore them time will give answers to them.
thanks
mekala
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@fanji008 (775)
• China
21 Nov 07
Hi,there! Well,I don't come across that a lot.I remember there was just once that I came across that.I don't think it was nice and I think the other one misunderstood my meaning.Anyway I left it there cause I always would like to be polite and nice to people. So I didn't report or rate neg,I just left it there. I really hope there're less and less rude responses cause we should respect each other no matter whether you agree with the other one's opinion or not.Do you think so? Have a nice day!
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@supriyorajj (169)
• India
21 Nov 07
its depends on moan to man.
but if someone reply u rudely u please try reply him lovely.
then one day he or she will reply you lovely.
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@Torry1020 (42)
• China
21 Nov 07
If i were you, i would keep quiet and leave away, because i think the people who is rude is not worthy of me to waste time on debating with him or her. But if he is my good friend, i think i will tell him later that his behavior is not good and it would hurt me, i am sure he will understand it.
But i think it is very bad to be rude too as he or she is.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
21 Nov 07
The way I look at it, they don't have to reply at all. If you want to post something, that is up to you. They have an option to not answer. There is no need to respond rudely. I would just ignore it and keep going. I would not even commented back. That is so silly.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
21 Nov 07
he he...I found her comment quite amusing. Balloons -national holida, lol . I am sorry but its really funny if you see it as an outsider. I think she just needed to rant and somehow she chose you. I think now you should seek her and tell her "Guess what!........ my Government just declared a national holiday!"
Its so funny. Why is she bothered if you are happy? I usully do not retort back but ignore such persons. ou should too but see she did gave you an excuse to start a real good discussion didn't she.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Some people just don't know how to say nice things sometimes. I also think some people are just plain negative and tend to come across too strongly and I think in her case she did, maybe without realising she was being rude.
Don't pay her any attention and since you have already replied to her nicely, I would forget about it and move on. :)
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 07
Hello copperkitten,
It is hard to control everyone and definitely we can't stop others to say whatever they want to say here. I agree with you that she was a bit rude for saying those words. If it happened to me, I will go and check her profile and see what kind of discussions she had started. Just curious to know... Some people might think that to start a discussion that related to 'light' topic like this especially the one that related to ourselves is something 'stupid' . I, myself started a few discussions after I accomplished my personal goal. Yes, to others it means nothing but to me and to some other people, even if it is just a small accomplishment, I still think it is a big issue and want to share my joy with my friends here. If some think that my topic of discussion is childish, stupid or whatever, it is up to them. I can rate them negative but I won't.
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@stanzi2007 (602)
• United States
21 Nov 07
dear copperkitten, you just stay strong and hold on to your own good self values. the rest of the meanies can just go and jump in a lake!!your NICE and never doubt how nice you are. take care of yourself, stanzi
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