So Irritated....
By AmberN
@AmberNormandin (883)
United States
November 20, 2007 6:21pm CST
with EVERYONE. Ive got family who doesnt do what they say they are going to do...Friends who just wont respond to messages and emails...Neighbors who are just plain flat lazy and have their house a dump...Neighbors who are so inconsiderate that they let their dog bark at all hours of the night...I am going to quit trying with people who dont give a crap to try back. There have been some "friendships" here lately that might as well just cease to exist. I am too busy with my own life to keep making an effort for other people. Any one else ever feel that way?
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
21 Nov 07
OMG, I'm so with you on this one. It's like everyone is out in their own little world and don't give a crap about anyone else. I hate it when people show up late, and can't even call to let you know they're running late - it's like my time isn't important to them - UGH! Then I've been having issues with so-called professionals lately too, that just don't seem to care about their patients, etc. It's maddening as hell. Especially when you read or hear about all of the bad stuff that goes on around this messed up world. What's most of it about? Lack of communication!!! No one talks to people anymore. It's all done online or on the phone. When was the last time you can recall having a real conversation with someone face-to-face?
UGH! I could go on all night, but I have to go watch my shows. I hope things get better for you!!!
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I agree with you.I don't really think they are trying to be mean, they are just all caught up in their own little world...I have children that are the same way, we have a good relationship, but we mostly e-mail back and forth, they all work ,and go home ,take care of whatever they have to do, bathe and go to bed, so they can get ready for the next day.It is a lack of communication and the more this happens the wider the gap gets ..
@AmbiePam (92864)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Oh yeah, all the time. But I've felt that way for years and have kind of got used to it. Hopefully none of these people have anything wrong with them. I hadn't heard from one friend in forever, and this week I got an e-mail that they had cancer. I was like, so that's why I haven't heard from you.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Everyday!!! I quit doing things for others that would never return the favor. I have enough kids to keep 50 people busy, yet somehow I manage to run here or there for a friend or family member. Yet, when I ask for someone to do something for me, NOONE is EVER there! Anyways, I finally had enough and I put my foot down. I quit trying to even be a part of their lives. And after they heard "no" so many times the phone calls have dwindled away and I am a much happier person.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
21 Nov 07
It sounds like you have had a bad week or maybe just a bad day...Yes i have been this way before, but i just blow it off..People will always disappoint you..I have tried with all that is within me to stress this point...Please do not look, or depend, or put your trust in people...I do what i feel is right for me. others do not follow,I am not lazy but some people are..You cannot give up just because of what people do...I have a friend that was getting unhappy with her life, so she comes and tells me she is going to try and do right, she is going to try and have a christian heart, i said well that is good,congratulaions, well she started to hang out with a few friends that went to church.To make a long story short, she got her eyes on people, and got all discouraged.I told her, if you keep your eyes on what other people do you will fail, sure enough she did.People have very good intentions, and they really intend to follow through, but we live in a busy world, and people get side tracked, people go through moods..Just accept the fact and go on with your own things..The last thing you said was the real way you should feel, you are busy with your own life, to worry about others, they will come around again, when they feel its time and they get unbusy..
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
I do hate our teenage neighbors. They're noisy and throw trash in front of our house.
I'm okay with my friends. Though we rarely communicate, that doesn't mean the friendship has faded. We just each have our own lives now, unlike in school when we were together every day.
@Jasmine78 (135)
• United States
21 Nov 07
It sounds you are not smooth with people. Maybe you are just too sensitive about your family, neighbors and some friends. Try to make yourself happy and than you will forget about all these tings.
@AmberNormandin (883)
• United States
21 Nov 07
thanks for your input, but i AM most certainly smooth with people. I put up with a lot of crap from everyone before i say a word about it. So sensitivity isnt really the issue.
@ASL19741978 (319)
• United States
21 Nov 07
That answer was rather trite, don't you think Jasmine? A person can't just switch these kinds of feelings off and "be happy" and "forget about all these things." That's not the way most people are made. We feel things deeply and people can be very hurtful.
I'm so sorry that you've been having such a rough time. Some people (and I am one of them) are "passive aggressives." We have the tendency to stuff things down and not say anything when someone offends us or is thoughtless or makes some dumb remark. However, the very best thing is to go to that person and as kindly as possible tell them that what they said or did offended you and why. If they apologize, you've won back a friend. If not, then you know who your real friends are. You can be cordial to that person, but I wouldn't invest in a friendship with them. As a passive aggressive who doesn't like to confront but instead I complain to my husband, I know how important this issue is. I have begun to learn that I must confront in a kind way if someone seems to deliberately offend me, and I must consider what they said to see if there might be at least a grain of truth in it. Usually there is. That one grain is something that I need to work on, with the LORD's help. Hang in there :) One of the greatest things about trusting in Jesus Christ as my Savior, Lord, and friend is, I can take these kinds of things to Him and hand them over to Him. Then I read His Word and without fail He always puts His "finger" right on the problem. It might be me, it might be them, it might be both, or it might be that I'm just not fellowshiping with my Lord like I should be.
Feel free to interact with what I've said. Thanks for listening :)
