Turn Back The Clock
By joshua_w
@joshua_w (501)
Malaysia
November 20, 2007 11:15pm CST
Many people like to ask: "what would you change about your life if you could go back in time?" That question always seemed to imply there's some regrets with one's life. Everyone has regrets, i believe. And most of us would gladly avoid a mistake made, or perhaps choose a different path in life, if given another chance.
Well, that's not what we're going to talk about. Let's count our blessing and rephrase that question a little, to "what would you not change if you could go back in time." The thought came after some soul-searching during a weekend break and also by a song (which is the topic title) by british pop group, Johnny Hates Jazz.
There are things which i would like changed. But there are many more which i'm glad by the way it is. What would i not want to change even if given the chance to go back in time? One of them is the time i'd spent with my wife as i had learn a lot from her. Another would be my time at school. Those were the carefree times with great friends and not to mention, good music. Now it remain as memories to cherish.
What then were things you would not consider changing, or you would want to relive if you could 'turn back the clock', so to speak.
Music link (Turn Back The Clock): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=juAlj0MBVi0
80's music i grew up with: http://www.freewebs.com/joshua-w/music80s.htm
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5 responses
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
21 Nov 07
My husband and I were just having the "if you could go back and change things" discussion. He had all kinds of stuff that he would change. He has a pretty colorful past. I agreed that it would be nice to not have had to go through a lot of the drama that we have. Yet, if you start changing stuff, your whole future would be changed.
I would love to not have had a marriage that didn't work, but if I didn't marry or meet my ex-husband, we wouldn't have our three beautiful children. I wouldn't give them up for anything! If that changed, and I didn't get divorced (or married in the first place) my life would have been completely different. I wouldn't be married to my current husband either and we wouldn't have our precious baby girl. I doubt our paths would have ever crossed if I had chosen a different path in life.
So, I guess the short answer to your question is: Nothing. I would change nothing in my past. Maybe that is selfish. I don't know. I am just not willing to give up all that I have now.
@joshua_w (501)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 07
Hmm, you are not selfish, only grateful to have those beautiful gifts of life. I think anyone with a right mind would not give up on their children.
Makes me think of a movie i'd seen a long time ago, a trilogy called "Back To The Future", where everything in the present changes when we change something, even little things, from the past. Great movie, nonetheless.
@cdv102 (132)
• United States
21 Nov 07
There are a lot of things in my life that I don't regret or would go back and do it all over again. I don't regret majoring in Creative Writing when I was in college, even though everyone told me not to and that I would never get a job with that. But now I work in book publishing and am writing my own books, doing exactly what I love. I don't regret falling in love, even though it didn't work out the way I wanted it to. It was still the happiest time in my life and some people never get to experience that at all. I would relive the year my nephew was born. We hadn't had a baby in the family in so long and he just brought so much joy to us that year. I'm so glad I took that extremely low-paying job right out of college, because that's where I made most of the good friends I still have today. And I don't regret my family not having a lot of money when I was little because it taught me the value of a dollar.
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@joshua_w (501)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 07
A similar situation here. When i did Audio Engineering course part time, my mum and friends were not supportive of it. But that was the past, and even though i'm not in the audio line after graduating, i don't regret taking it though. Maybe it'll be useful one day. Until then, what i'd learned stays with me.
You know what they said, most people knows the price of an item but few appreciate the value of it.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 07
Joshua,
that's an interesting discssion!
There are so many thing that I would not want to change, infact most things I don't want to. Like, I don't want to change my family tree and genetics, I don't want to change my school days, I don't want to change my childhood days, which has given me my self and my bond with my roots...I don't want to change the way I am. I have had no problem facing the mirror at the end of the day whasoever and I don't want to change it ever.
However, there are so many baggages but I want to live with those for those help me better my moral self and the mistakes only make me become a better person every time I
reminiscence my past.
Smiles...
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@joshua_w (501)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 07
Good for you. Like you, we could all learn to be proud of ourself. Someone once said, we are what we are through experience, and each of us is unique in our own way. And happiness is a choice we make. Well, what can i say. You have a great day ahead, Mimpi.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I believe what happens to us is not nearly as important in the long run as how we deal with what happens, and when we are young it is necessary to make mistakes in order to learn, but if we act honorably and also learn from our mistakes, there is no reason for regret and the only time for change is now in the present if change is appropriate. So if this thing or that thing that was wrongly done to us has not happened the growth and learning might not have taken place. It is senseless, too, to blame ourselves for having done things in the past when we meant well and did the best we could. So, really, at this point I cannot think of anything I would change from the past, even though much of it was unpleasant. Now is what is important.
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@joshua_w (501)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 07
Hi Drannhh, always good to see you here. In my mind, i always thought of you as a very intelligent woman. Must say, i'm in agreement with everything you said here. What better time than the present to change what we feel should change in our lives. Enough said.
On another note, have you seen 'Grave of the Fireflies' yet? Do tell me your opinion, if you will, okay? Take care.
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
Hi joshua! I want to relive those times when my family was complete and whole and that was years before my mother got sick and passed away. Those were my happiest moments with my family. Thinking about what I will change in my life if given that chance, perhaps the career I have chosen to take. Other than that, I think I want to stay the way it was for I am completely happy with the life I have with my husband. Take care and have a nice day. :)
